Christmas spirit my ASS!!!!

[wildblue 7]

Damn, and I was just going to post "Donate the gifts (or return them) and then get a new friend. Looks like you've already done that Merry Christmas to you, God help her and her kids, and may the karma police smile on you.

it's like incest - you're substituting convenience for quality

[weid14 0]

ahhhh, but you were a great friend, she didn't appreciate it. you tried, and it sounded like you tried very hard,, that's what friends do. If she can't acept it, time to move on, you did what you could, be comfortable with that! you did well

[jumpergirl 0]

You did good. You've got the Christmas spirit even if she doesn't get it. You did even better by taking the toys to the mall. Karma will come back to you, and you'll get a good dose. It's her loss, not yours.

[ladyskydiver 0]

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I've tried...I've failed at being her friend,so no more. .... If I am a bad person for it then so be it. I cannot drain myself on behalf of someone who doesn't care.

You didn't fail as her friend. You were an excellent friend. You were there for her through everything. She failed herself and you as a friend. And, no you're not a bad person because you decided to terminate the friendship. You can still care about someone and love them and decide for you're own mental health that it is better not to hang out with them. Maybe one day she'll get her act together and realize what a good friend you have been to her. But, moving on is not something that makes you bad.

And, good idea on donating the presents. You've made some child's Christmas. And that is a wonderful gift.

Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile.

[ECVZZ 0]

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You can still care about someone and love them and decide for you're own mental health that it is better not to hang out with them.

Cora,
Thank you so much for this statement. Most of us have at least heard a "moment of clarity" alluded to...as I read this single sentence, it suddenly put a situation into crystal clear perspective for me.

Thanks again, and I hope you've had a merry Christmas!

Greg

PS- Amber, I'm proud of you for what you did for your friend and her children!!! I'm so sorry that she responded the way that she did, and that you're hurt. You have every right to be.

Don't stop being who you are because of her, there are too few people of your calibre in this world! Keep your chin up, and know that I appreciate you (as I'm sure many others do!). Big hugs!
Greg

[moodyskydiver 0]

Not sure just what to say anymore.Thanks y'all.

"...just an earthbound misfit, I."