First Blind Date.......

[nubain1 0]

Ok, I have I blind date for the first time this saturday.I know I owe everbody BEER for using to F word.So ladies What do you recommend?Should I bring flowers or what?Any suggestions? We are staring the night out at Texas Roadhouse for dinner But everything else is up in the air as to what afterwards.Any suggestions Ladies/Please help.

[quatorze 1]

not a lady here but IMHO, scrap the TX Roadhouse, sure its a great resturaunt and all, but I gotta think that the chain idea isn't really date quality, try something like a mom and pop italian/greek/mexican/steak place. Just my .02

I'm not afriad of dying, I'm afraid of never really living- Erin Engle

[Lolie 0]

I think quatorze's right, for most girls.

And I personally would be a little weirded out by flowers, but I'm not much of a flowers girl... just my personal opinion though. Most girls would probably like it. (Not roses, though... especially not red ones. Maybe those peachy ones, or lilies or something. Those would be okay.)

Good luck, be yourself, ask her questions and then actually listen to the answers. Have fun!

-Miranda
you shall above all things be glad and young / For if you're young,whatever life you wear
it will become you;and if you are glad / whatever's living will yourself become.

[Kris 0]

I'm not a woman, but I am Mexican and here's the Latino perspective.
Yup, ditch the chain restaurant. Go to a nice, small restaurant. The kind that you can hear each other talk in. Think good vibes, dim lighting, great food.

Flowers may be a bit much. No roses, get a small bouquet of wild flowers if you decide to do it.

Open the car-door for her and don't forget to compliment her on how she looks, no matter how she looks. This may be a blind-date but whether you end up with a babe or a yeti respect is key. She may have other friends you may end up meeting.

Try to find out from her friends (or the person that set you up) what her interests are and try to find something along those lines for after dinner. If she's an artist, get thee to a museum (a good one), if she likes baseball take her to a batting cage. I think you're getting the idea.

Don't talk about yourself too much, focus on her. She may be pleasantly surprised to be with someone who wants to know about her. The norm is usually her constantly getting blasted with her dates' life-story with no chance to jump in.

Just my $0.02.

Kris

Sky, Muff Bro, Rodriguez Bro, and
Bastion of Purity and Innocence!™

[hooked 0]

I agree about the restaurant. Find a good Italian place, I'm not sure about the flowers, but definitely not roses. Make it something 'different'. I think someone mentioned wildflowers. The Lilies, can sometime be too fragrant, you know...allergies and all?? But try to find a small, quiet, quaint restaurant.

J

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Sometimes we're just being Humans.....But we're always Human Beings.

[nubain1 0]

I thought about a nice small restaurant.Roadhouse was her suggestion.And since I don't know much about Pueblo(I just moved here)I agreed to it.I agree that a nice small restaurant would be nice,but like I ssid I don't know the area yet.As fro flowers how about something like carnations or something?I don't know.I've been out of circulation for quite awhile.

[nubain1 0]

Oh and BTW.I'm drinking everybodys beer right now.I'm halfway through a case of corona and halfway through a bottle of pinapple rum.So..........I'm about shitfaced right now and not lopking forward to the morning.Can anyone say HANGOVER????????

[nubain1 0]

C'mon ladies I'm on my knees begging for advice.I've heard some good ones form the guys.How about a womans point of view?????Please??

[quatorze 1]

uh "hangover" there I said it

but can you please explain what

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As fro flowers

look like? Are they big and poofy?

I'm not afriad of dying, I'm afraid of never really living- Erin Engle

[hooked 0]

Hey! I'm a woman! If the Roadhouse was her suggestion, then take her there
J

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Sometimes we're just being Humans.....But we're always Human Beings.

[quatorze 1]

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Do you know anything about her likes/dislikes?

With that being said, the titty bar is definately out of the question

I'm not afriad of dying, I'm afraid of never really living- Erin Engle

[nubain1 0]

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uh "hangover" there I said it

but can you please explain what

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As fro flowers

look like? Are they big and poofy?

That's As For.I told You i'm s'faced rigth now and it's really hard to type when the keys keep movinf around on me.

[freefallfreak 0]

Geez, quatorze...I damn near fell out of my chair laughing at that one...keep it up, dude...lol.

FFF

"Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up."

[quatorze 1]

I do what I can

I'm not afriad of dying, I'm afraid of never really living- Erin Engle

[freefallfreak 0]

It worked for me...lol.

FFF

P.S. I've never had a blind date but there have been times that I wished I had been blind...uhh, come to think of it - I AM trying to learn my way around a female body, using braille to read it...tee-hee.

FFF

"Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up."

[jfields 0]

Blind dates can work. That is how I met my wife.

[Vallerina 2]

Okay, I've never been on a blind date.....but, what I would like:

A chain restaurant...anything else would be too "romantic."
If things are going well there, off to a bar!
If things at dinner were weird, off to the movies!

Don't set yourself up for a love connection, because it would be pretty darned awkward if you guys didn't click.

There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning

[falxori 0]

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If the Roadhouse was her suggestion, then take her there.

maybe she wants to make sure she can slip out the bathroom window if she doesnt like you

seriously, i'd wait with the flowers, could be too much for a first date.
when you "try too much" things will go wrong.
just be cool and keep your mind open...
oh, and drink a lot
good luck
O

"Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero."

[skymama 37]

I say no to the flowers. It's a nice gesture, but what exactly is she supposed to do with them once you give them to her, since you are going to be sitting there at a restaurant? If you really want to give her flowers, do it after the date (assuming it goes well and you want to see her again) and send them to her office so all her coworkers can be envious and she'll be the star for the day. Definitely don't get carnations, they're cheap. A mixed arrangement would be nice.

As for the restaurant, I don't think it really matters. You're there to get to know each other better, it's not really about the food on this date.

If you want to make a good impression, be very aware of your manners, I can't stress this enough! Open the door for her and let her go in first. Let her sit first and push in her chair for her. Put your napkin on your lap and actually use it sporatically. Make sure you're not eating with your elbows on the table, or chewing with your mouth open, or even talking while you are chewing. Stand up if she excuses herself from the table. And by all means, look her in the eye when you're talking to her, and make sure you have interesting and witty things to say.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[skygal3 0]

hmm...I've never been on a blind date, but I have been offered..()...Personally, I like the idea of drinks on the first date that way there if things don't go so well, you can leave. Also, eating can be uncomfortable when you are trying to get to know someone...flowers for a blind date, for someone that you don't know, are a bit over the top...first dates sure, in my opinion, if you have gotten to know them first. Be yourself, don't be nervous (yeah right), open doors for her and don't make any sexual innuendos. The last guy I went out with was a perfect gentleman in that respect, and it made me have more respect for him...I recently met someone for the first time and no sexual innuendos there either. I was blown away...(and he did ask me out afterwards, so it is not like he is gay or anything...)As for after dinner...taking a walk together is always nice, and a good way to get to know one another...

now you've got me thinking...go easy on the whole cologne thing. Fresh from the shower smell is good, if you are going to wear cologne, try the girl trick of spraying it and then walking into it so it is subtle. You don't know what she likes yet. If she likes it, it will leave her wanting more...

[jfields 0]

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if you are going to wear cologne, try the girl trick of spraying it and then walking into it so it is subtle.

Spray? Most guy cologne doesn't have a spray top. It is in a regular bottle. Maybe the manufacturers are infererring that a light spray wouldn't be enough to cover a real manly stink. I don't know. I don't use the stuff myself more than once or twice a year.

Bag it and just go with the clean & scrubbed scent. Less maintenance, and no chance they'd find it annoying or overkill.

[freeflir29 0]

Tisk tisk tisk....such horrid dating advice from these amatuers. I'm not a woman or Mexican but I can give you the Georgia redneck perspective. Get a case of your favorite beer. Drink 12 of them before you show up and have the other 12 in the box on the floor of your truck. Use a nice line like "Git in the truck, Ho" when ya pull up. Offer her a beer or 5 on the way to McDonalds. Get her a value meal. Remember....a gentleman always offers to super size and if you think you may be able to get in her pants you might want to spring for an apple pie to seal the deal. After dinner I'm sure you will be low on beer. Stop and pick up another case. Send her in for it so she has to pay for it. She should be pretty hammered by now so offer to take her to your place to "watch a movie." After you score ask her if there is anyone she can call for a ride home. If there isn't reluctantly take her home but only slow down a little as you go by her house. Once she leaps from the truck make sure you get the door closed at the next stop sign. Go home...drink the rest of the beer, watch a little TV, and then go to sleep. Perfect first date.

[skyboyblue 0]

skymama's got it...I went on a blind date this last year and I think it was the best date of my life. icksnay on the flowers until after the date, and if it went well then send them to her at work or home. I know my date wanted to jump up a down at work if she could have. Eat light too. don't go for the biggest chunk of meat you can find. mind your manners to the T but try to relax so it seems all natural. If you are clicking, then do something fun, like grab a bottle of wine and her favorite sweets and find someplace cozy to snack on them. keep it simple. you don;t want to use all your magic on the first date.

[falxori 0]

your tips are great if he is dating the queen of england

just be yourself.
for example ,if you don't usually put your napkin on your lap, don't start now. you'll be so focused on the "small" things and you might miss the date.
i'm not saying that you should be rude, but some things that might impress one girl, may look stupid to another.

as hard as it may seem, take it easy and just have fun.

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and push in her chair for her

remember, push, not pull (although it might be funny...)

"Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero."

[Vallerina 2]

Clay's advice is like a southern version of Swingers! I don't remember the exact quote, but something along the lines of "You're going to take them for granted anyways..." and also "You start talking puppy dogs and ice cream and girls no what you're getting at....they don't go for that kind of stuff."

There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning