Luminous 0 #26 January 17, 2003 Quote I mean I feel like I need my whole body "done". Luminous raises hand and screams "ME! ME!".'In an insane society a sane person seems insane.' Mr. Spock Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #27 January 17, 2003 Hmm...okay, I've thought about this... It doesn't seem like you have a problem with him looking, since that biology thing makes people have to look. Every relationship is different, so to say whether it's acceptable/unacceptable of him making comments is for no one to decide. If it bothers you so much, either let him know, or if he doesn't get it, start making comments back to scare him, like "Yeah, they are really pretty, but they don't have enough scars!. Ooh...that's how I can look better! I should go scar myself! Yeah! I've been wanting to look prettier lately! Thanks for the tip honey!"There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #28 January 17, 2003 QuoteMy hubby is talking about girls alot. Im glad he feels good but Im sick for all of the comments about the pretty girls on TV. Is this normal behavior for a dude? I mean I feel like I need my whole body "done". With you watching porn with him that include other women what do you expect?? You basically told him that that sort of behavior is acceptable to you.. Rhino Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freebird 0 #29 January 17, 2003 With you watching porn with him that include other women what do you expect?? You basically told him that that sort of behavior is acceptable to you.. *** Thats different. Its so complex. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #30 January 17, 2003 It's normal if he just says, "Wow, she's beautiful" but if the comments are made in comparison to you to make you feel bad, that is NOT cool. It doesn't bother me at all when BZ mentions he thinks a girl is pretty, but he doesn't say it often. I do it, too, but I don't think he ever gets jealous of John Travolta. THE ONLY thing that ever bothers me is when guys say they like Pamela Anderson. I mean, after the woman's had her boobs done, hair dyed, lips enhanced, LIPOSUCTION and a nose job, who wouldn't look like that? Why would you want to? Not to mention I've NEVER seen her dress classy and I don't care much for the slutty look. That's about all that bothers me and really it's just b/c I've had too many friends go through various plastic surgeries (nose jobs, boob jobs and yes, I've even had a friend have liposuction) and it really bothers me b/c not ONE of them had improved self esteem afterward. I'm not saying it's BAD, I just don't think it's GOOD.BZ always laughs and says, "You REALLY don't like Pamela Anderson, do you?"...it's not that I dont' like HER. I don't KNOW her. But, it's that I don't like what she represents. She is the epitomy of having everything under the sun surgically done to look a certain way that is nearly IMPOSSIBLE to naturally obtain. I spent a LOT of hours doing research, both quantitative and qualitative on girls images of themselves after watching TV and, yes, it's partly their own fault for not sucking it up and accepting what they have, but I DO think women like Pamela make it more difficult for some woman to feel good. I could go on forever...but, FREEBIRD, I've seen your picture and you are VERY BEAUTIFUL!!! If anything, you need to see that for yourself Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #31 January 17, 2003 QuoteThats different. Its so complex. It isn't complex.. Either the way you feel about each other is sacred or it is taken for granted because that part of your life isn't private... Sounds like you both need to sit down and write down a mission statement for your marriage. Set the ground rules. Tell each other the corps values that is important to each other.. And BOTH of you need to be willing to bend without snapping back at each other screaming "WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO CHANGE WHO I AM!!" Being in a successfull, productive marriage dictates that you change FOR each other not BECAUSE of each other... It is actually very simple... Rhino Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GrumpySmurf 0 #32 January 17, 2003 "I'm not saying it's BAD, I just don't think it's GOOD" And she got a disease - so if ya do date 'er - don't share needles with her ;) The most attractive woman in the world ->one that doesn't require therapy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumperconway 0 #33 January 17, 2003 You mean she's not 100% au naturale? Damn it, now you just burst my bubble! I was sure that she was for a real, normal, you know, take home to meet mom kinda girl. If you're talk about a "hottie", at least use one thats a natural!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tb62871 0 #34 January 17, 2003 Well put. My wife will point out women for me to look at too. There is nothing wrong with it. --TB Welcome my friends to the show that never ends. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
