blondeflyer7 0 #1 January 22, 2003 Ok.....I had a divorce.....we've been separated over for a year and a half and divorced since March 2002.....and he continue to harrass me and say things to me.....suppose he continues saying that a friend of mine I've known for 18 years molested my little girl...knowing they haven't!!!!! Would anyone here be frightened???? What should I do?????Any suggestions?????????????He won't quit harrassing me Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
n2skdvn 0 #2 January 22, 2003 restraining order!!!!if my calculations are correct SLINKY + ESCULATOR = EVERLASTING FUN my site Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #3 January 22, 2003 ok....I agree with that suppose we meet half way then what??????? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BoobieCootie 0 #4 January 22, 2003 Quote then what??????? Kick him in the nads and show him who's boss.No wait, that's what my wife does... On a serious note, start documenting everything and everytime he harasses you. You're gonna need it for the restraining order. Another thing, your friend could sue for getting his image tarnished. Nothing shuts 'em up faster than a lawsuit. Don't anyone get any ideas on the post whores now... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefalle 0 #5 January 22, 2003 Ive dealt with situations like this before, and I can give you some good advise. Im a police officer in Florida but the laws regarding domestic situations are pretty much the same in most states. The next time he contacts you in a threatening manner, first thing you need to do is contact your local law enforcement agency, dont ask, DEMAND, an information report be completed. There are alot of lazy cops out there who will give you a million reasons why you dont need a report completed, dont buy it. if they refuse to do the report call their supervisor. The next day, that day if possible, go to the court house and get a restraining order against him, a restraining order may be called a no contact order or a protection order where you are, but you get the point. Does he have visitation with youre child, if so, request the judge to modify the visitations, make them supervised (if you feel he may try to keep the baby as a form of retalation for the restraining order) EVERY TIME he violates the restraining order you need to contact the police and have another report completed, if they will let you (and they should) tell them you want to complete a complaint affidavit against him once the affidavit is signed the state can/will seek a warrant for his arrest. I have seen on many cases when the threats escalate to acts of violence because they were allowed to continue. Do SOMETHING to protect yourself and your child. Chances are the situation will not take care of its self if you need anymore sugestions PM me Ill give you what advise I can. WHY CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gawain 0 #6 January 22, 2003 Quoteok....I agree with that suppose we meet half way then what??????? Sorry Becky, there can be no "meeting half way". If he is defaming the character of a friend, and implicating your family and children as being victim to criminal activity, then not only a restraining order, but a cease and desist order as well. He's making a very serious accusation, and has opened the door for criminal charges against him if I'm not mistaken.So I try and I scream and I beg and I sigh Just to prove I'm alive, and it's alright 'Cause tonight there's a way I'll make light of my treacherous life Make light! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #7 January 22, 2003 Oh my friend has many tapes of him threatening him and saying this stuff and he is in the process of getting a lawyer as we speak on this so I hope this helps my case!!!!!!!!....... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BoobieCootie 0 #8 January 22, 2003 I don't know how true it is that taping a conversation without the other party knowing is insubmissible in court. But ONE thing I do know is that it is still up to the judge to let you submit it as evidence. I mean how else are you going to document verbal abuse?Edit: One other thing, carry a tape recorder yourself. And Radio Shack sells one of them gizmos that plugs into your phone line. Hey if he's gonna play dirty, collect his dirt and throw it back when you've got a dump truck full. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
indyz 1 #9 January 22, 2003 QuoteI don't know how true it is that taping a conversation without the other party knowing is insubmissible in court. Depends on the state. Some places, only one party must know that they call is being recorded. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BoobieCootie 0 #10 January 22, 2003 [replyonly one party must know that they call is being recorded. Yeah! The guy who's recording. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #11 January 22, 2003 i have a couple of methods to keep him quite....... mr. browning ad mr. smith and mr. wesson can help....just let me know....... ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BoobieCootie 0 #12 January 22, 2003 Oooh! Let's not forget Mr. Glock Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blewaway5 0 #13 January 22, 2003 totally get some type of police report on his behavior. I'm talking anything at all that makes you feel threatened, get that report. Once you have that go to your friendly county courthouse and file an ex parte (sp?) Once you have that then any time he's in violation of the ex parte, read too close to you, you can have him arrested. It's totally up to you at that point in time, he doesn't have to get arrested. Anyway, the MOST important thing you can do is to start building a record of police reports on him. Literally every time you think there may be reason call the cops in. The more record of his actions they have the better off you'll be. Truman Sparks for President Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jimbo 0 #14 January 22, 2003 Quote What should I do???? Have him killed. I know people. - Jim"Like" - The modern day comma Good bye, my friends. You are missed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #15 January 22, 2003 Dude, the voices in your head doen't constitute as "people" ok? --"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
n2skdvn 0 #16 January 22, 2003 Quotethe voices in your head doen't constitute as "people" ok? [little voices in head] yes they do ...i verry much agree we all do count![/little voices in head]if my calculations are correct SLINKY + ESCULATOR = EVERLASTING FUN my site Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sarge 0 #17 January 22, 2003 Hey Becky, I'm a cop too, in illinois 16+ years in law enforcement. I don't know the laws in Tennessee but state-to-state I do know they can vary GREATLY! Call your lawyer, if you are receiving this intimadation over the telephone call your local police. A simple harassment by telepone report should do. Lazy cops or not its on file (I have gotten these 'your' types of cases rocketed through the system by using a back-door technique such as this). If for example they come via the mail U.S. or e- / (really stupid!!) save it all!!!! Another thing, if you were allegedly resposible for supervising your daughter during the alleged perpetrations, yes, its a shit-pie. Remember there has to be some sort of evidence, testimonial, physical, etc... so go take a flying F&^%$K in other words... "prove it you @ss!" I have been involved in several cases (formally as the Commader of the Investigations bureau),,, sadly to say... where the last thing anyone wanted to believe was what happened! ...shaken baby twice, boyfriends/uncles/babysitters more than I care to remember...of course you have a right to feel frightened. The system also recogognizes that these are all too frequent and common false and malicious claims initiated by a former spouse. You have that in your favor. If you do anything, do not escalate the situation... I mean do not retaliate! He's a fuck for putting you in this situation and it's a high-cost scenario, both monetarily and emotionally!! Don't be the loser, get a lawyer!!! Of course there are many other concerns, but I'll keep it to that for now! .-- I'm done with the personally meaningful and philosophical sigs!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jimbo 0 #18 January 22, 2003 QuoteDude, the voices in your head doen't constitute as "people" ok? Careful dude. The last person who said that .... was my Dr. Christ I'm bored. - Jim"Like" - The modern day comma Good bye, my friends. You are missed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #19 January 22, 2003 Ok the last threat I had was he said he knew things on me and a hint to me was "You feed the pigs"....what the.....is that suppose to mean??????? I don't get that remark? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #20 January 22, 2003 starting rumors like that about your own child would seem to prove he's an unfit parent...can you prove this in court?My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #21 January 22, 2003 yes I can Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #22 January 22, 2003 maybe that is your best option. unfortunately you'll have the added complication of telling her that dady is a creep! just dont try to poison her mind with your view. he may still be a god to her My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondeflyer7 0 #23 January 22, 2003 Quote he may still be a god to her and of course he is.....I have to wait to tell her these things when she's much older.....now is not even a option not even if we go through court battles....I'm not going to tell my daughter that "Daddy's bad"...I may even let her find that out for herself one day....without me even saying anything....telling her that would only confuse her and I won't put my daughter through that I'm sure she gets enough of that in his care Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,589 #24 January 22, 2003 If you can let her discover for herself, preferably because she has contact with him, that's probably one of the best gifts you can give her. The gift of letting her make up her own mind in a question that's extremely important to her. If abuse of her comes into the question, obviously, it's different. Good luck regardless -- this sounds ugly, and you've been getting a lot of good advice. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefallfreak 0 #25 January 23, 2003 Becky, I wish I could help. I haven't the words to tell you what children mean to me. All I can say is your child doesn't deserve this. Bless you, Becky, and I hope it all works out. Keep us informed - cause we care. FFF "Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
