fool 0 #1 January 31, 2003 OK, not all of them, and not all the time. I'm currently bitter and hurt yet again. I keeps letting myself get too optimistic too fast about things, and of course they never go as planned, but everytime, I act as if I didn't see it coming anyways. I tried really hard not to let that happen with this one. There were too many reasons not to get involved. Odd meeting, long distance relationship, she had some problems that I'm not sure that I could overlook in the long run, but then all of the sudden I took a step back, and realised that I was possibly "in love," or whatever. That of course being the curse...about two days later, she shuts herself off to me. I was visiting, and she said she thought it best that I leave, which was due to the fact that I was moving too close into her "personal space," which I understand fully. She said things weren't over, that she still wanted to be with me, just being at her place all the time wasn't gonna work. Cool, no problem. Since I've been back she hasn't called much, and when she does it's really short conversations, then she's gotta go. I finally give up waiting for her to call and call her, ask her to call me back, two days later I call her again. I just got off the phone from an "I don't know what I want right now," conversation (if you can call it that,) which was followed by I gotta go, can we talk about this later. I don't know how she can do that. I think things would feel just a little bit better if it seemed like she gave a shit in the slightest way. Anyhow, sorry for ranting, I probably seem like a total nutcase right now, but I needed to vent a bit and it's too early to call a friend right now. S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #2 January 31, 2003 Welcome to the club __________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
meatmissile 0 #3 January 31, 2003 -- ZZZzzzz.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luv2Fall 0 #4 January 31, 2003 It gets more interesting as time goes on. Edited for spelling. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fool 0 #5 January 31, 2003 by interesting I hope you mean better S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luv2Fall 0 #6 January 31, 2003 Ummmmmmmm.....yeah......OK......I don't mean to be negative as this could be a one time deal and I hope it is as you seem to really care for this person. It has been my experience, however, if someone can do that, he or she doesn't have a problem doing it again.........I cannot be that insensitive to someone so maybe I'm looking at this wrong and onesided.....I've been shut out on a regular basis for 17 years now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefallfreak 0 #7 January 31, 2003 Quote by interesting I hope you mean better Not better...just less hurt... FFF "Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #8 January 31, 2003 Honestly, relationships are a two way street. If one person cares more than the other then it generally doesn't work out. Women can be bitches and guys can be assholes...that's life. Honestly look at the relationship. Were you pushing to far to fast? If yes, then back off. If no, then you need to figure out if you are willing to accept only part of a relationship. Generally you have to know what you want in order to get your expectations and needs met. Do you? Does she? Just something to think about. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fool 0 #9 January 31, 2003 I'm thinking this is the beginning...no, the middle of the end of this one. I feel the same way about the whole insensitivity thing. I've tried to make it clear that I'm worried and concerned...maybe I did it in a male fashion...I told her "I'm worried, and concerned." perhaps I should try a different approach. hehehe. S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygal3 0 #10 January 31, 2003 yeap. what she said. girls don't suck; guys don't suck..broken hearts suck. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fool 0 #11 January 31, 2003 yeah, rationally speaking, I know that. It just boggles my mind that on day we're on the same page, then the next, we're not even in the same library. I can't help but think there's something going on, but she says she's not sure what it is. All I'm really waiting for is the "it's not you, it's me." speach. Whatever, like I said, I needed to vent, I'm sure things will work out one way or another for the best. I don't think any DZ's will ground me for it, so it's not all bad S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luv2Fall 0 #12 January 31, 2003 I wish you the best my friend. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fool 0 #13 January 31, 2003 thanks man. I meant to ask what was up with dealing with it for 17 years though....I'd go mental. it's only been a couple weeks, and I'm already losing it. S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,589 #14 January 31, 2003 I hate to say it, but I've been where she is, too (at least from what you describe). You're in a relationship, and something just isn't right. It's the same guy you've been dating, so it can't be him. So you figure it's you, that you just need some space to figure out what's wrong. There aren't specific words for what's wrong sometimes; it's not "you don't use enough deodorant" or "if I watch another Sylvester Stallone movie I'm going to bring a sawed-off shotgun to the theater." It's usually that you find you've given in to things that seemed petty at the time, but all of a sudden, you're not where or who you want to be. It's not you. It's her. And she doesn't want to say "fuck you it's over" because she's not even sure of that. Sometimes women (or at least some of them) involve guys in the thought process, rather than just informing them of its completion. And it's got to be hurtful as hell for you. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #15 January 31, 2003 I tried to convince Sangiro to give me my own forum titled "Dear Sunshine" and this would be a perfect post for that....too bad he didn't go with the idea.I'm sure i have some great advice, but right now it's friday and i'm tired so i'll have to get back to you... ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fool 0 #16 January 31, 2003 Quote Sometimes women (or at least some of them) involve guys in the thought process, that's all I'm really asking for at this point. I know things changem and shit happens, but the least she could do (in my opinion) would be to aknowledge my existance in this thought process. This isn't a football team...there's no waterboy position to be filled, I'm either in, or out...sort of. Quote And it's got to be hurtful as hell for you. yeah, right now it is. S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fool 0 #17 January 31, 2003 but right now it's friday and i'm tired so i'll have to get back to you...*** that seems eerily familiar...lol S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
QuickDraw 0 #18 January 31, 2003 Quote man, girls suck. Now ain't that the truth. -- Hope you don't die. -- I'm fucking winning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tonto 1 #19 January 31, 2003 tIt's the year of the Pig. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fool 0 #20 January 31, 2003 I agree with most of what you said (in my head.) except the part about puching too far too fast. I wasn't the one doing the pushing. I was very hesitant at first, and for a long time. That's why I guess it sucks so much, is that I finally decided things were worth putting real effort into, and let my guard down. S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefallfreak 0 #21 January 31, 2003 Quote I'm tired so i'll have to get back to you... WAAAAY too familiar...FFF "Upon seeing the shadow of a pigeon, one must resist the urge to look up." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fool 0 #22 January 31, 2003 Quote WAAAAY too familiar... FFF hehehe S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiverbrian 0 #23 January 31, 2003 Well, I gotta say... As sucky as the situation is, it's nothing some alcohol and 20-year-olds won't cure! In a world full of people, only some want to fly... isn't that crazy! --Seal Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #24 January 31, 2003 Quote Well, I gotta say... As sucky as the situation is, it's nothing some alcohol and 20-year-olds won't cure! I was gonna say something similar.... The best way to get over someone is to get with someone else! Instant cure! Find someone ten times as hot as they are and go make out!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiverbrian 0 #25 January 31, 2003 Quoteand go make out! The hell with that! Shag like the world is ending! In a world full of people, only some want to fly... isn't that crazy! --Seal Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
