wmw999 2,587 #26 January 30, 2003 He won't change. He wants to know that his little baby will be treated the way HE wants her to, by someone HE can relate to. Whether that's what she wants is up to her (but after 7 years with you, it probably isn't, and she knows what she wantsYou can't make yourself into someone different. You can highlight the things he's likely to like, and limit the social situations. Go out to a movie, and then dinner afterwards. Then you can talk about the movie. However, if he asks "where would you like to be in 5 years" I wouldn't suggest "as far away from you as possible" as an answer . If his daughter is spending a lot of time with them without you, you might want to make sure she has plenty of time with you. And don't turn it into a control thing; that'll take up much more of your brain than he's worth. Just be yourself, and have a full and interesting life with his daughter. And good luck; sounds like a challenge! Wendy W. There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fasterfaller 0 #27 January 31, 2003 Large freezer , chainsaw , wood chipper , that should just about do it . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phatcat 0 #28 January 31, 2003 Dude, they're INLAWS - there not supposed to like you! They know what you're doing with their daughter! If she was my daughter I'd hate you too! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jraf 0 #29 January 31, 2003 Once again as much as I must commend and appreciate the quick judgement and concious mind of fasterfaller I must say... ....You are not getting married to them so "Fuck'em if they can't take a joke" take it from a man who learned the hard way jraf Me Jungleman! Me have large Babalui. Muff #3275 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflyz 0 #30 January 31, 2003 I've been on vaction since they left,but one down fall they took my girl with them,it's going to be a year now but were are still together,I just have to go visit her,witch is a pain in the ass!Just a few more months and she's mine,ALL MINE!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AirMail 0 #31 January 31, 2003 You could always get a job in South America or somewhere equally as far away from them and then they would have a harder time interferring. After you are married, of course. Patrick-- It's never too late to have a happy childhood. Postal Rodriguez, Muff 3342 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #32 January 31, 2003 Dude, is she an only child? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FreeFlyHol 0 #33 January 31, 2003 ***Does anyone have any advice on how to handle the future inlaws,Dad and Mom do not like me because i don't have a brand new car,fancy stuff,oh and yeah i only think about skydiving,Is there anything i can do short of telling them to F#@k OFF!!! I need help!!! __________________________________________________ My parents would absolutely love to be your inlaws. *hint, hint* x's and o's, Hol :)When cheese gets its picture taken, what does it say? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FallRate 0 #34 January 31, 2003 Quote Dude, they're INLAWS - there not supposed to like you! They know what you're doing with their daughter! If she was my daughter I'd hate you too! Word!!! FallRate Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phil 0 #35 January 31, 2003 Hey my wife is American - I'm Swiss - how do you spell freedom? Long distance !!! And yes - Inlaws can be a #@$£... what ever pain in the afterburner... so good luck to you - she must be worth the hassle. ...and just one for the road to really piss them off - french kiss her in front of them while you're grabbing her boobs - thats a winner!! c u Phil ... .. .how high can you fly with broken wings ... life's a journey not a destination Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #36 January 31, 2003 Quote Hey my wife is American - I'm Swiss - how do you spell freedom? D-I-V-O-R-C-E __________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fool 0 #37 January 31, 2003 QuoteSo where do you see youself in 5yrs,my smart ass answer,i see myself with about 10.000 jumps two rigs and a airplane that's kick ass funny. thanks for making me laugh S.E.X. party #1 "Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "f*#k, what a ride". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #38 January 31, 2003 As a parent of two girls I can promise you "smart-ass remarks" will get you nowhere at all in my house. If you think you are good enough for my daughter then you need to act like it. Spend a few minutes to think about HOW you are going to provide for your life with their daughter. that way you can intelligently answer their legitmate concerns. I don't care if my daughter falls for the poorest guy on the planet as long as I see that he is going to at least attempt to meet her (and your) daily needs. If I see you are going to rely on her as a means of support then I can promise you I'll do everything in my power to stop it, but if I see you have put some thought into how you are going to survive and meet everyday needs then I'll be much more likely to try and help you along the way. Just my .02 as a Mom. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luv2Fall 0 #39 January 31, 2003 This has been the fortunate and pretty much the highlight of my marriage.......my In-Laws....I was very lucky here. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phil 0 #40 January 31, 2003 I agree with mouth. As long as there are just the two of you - you're on the wrong side, but wait till you have little ones running around the house. As soon as you have promoted them to Grandpa and Grandma status - things could get better but no promise there. Things just seem to focus away from you... I have 4(!) girls from the age of 15 down to 8 and boy - it's like the cat bringing home a dead mouse! When the 15 and 14 year old bring home some male "friends" my german sheppard and I will have a close look at those freaks. Got to make sure that they're ok for my girls - right? So I'm stuck between my US-inlaws that are G.W. Bush lovers and some horny teen-age boys. Shit, life is tough sometimes. Hey but still better than when my dog is in heat and all the muds from the neighborhood come and shit in front of my door... so keep up the good fight - and have nature take its way - they wont be around for ever... c u Phil ... .. .how high can you fly with broken wings ... life's a journey not a destination Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflyz 0 #41 January 31, 2003 He is a real big head this guy and his wife,i tell them all the time that there daughter is everything to me,But all he can say is can you provide her like i can?I tell him hell no i do not have the fat cash you do.I went and watchthat new movie Just Married,My life is just like that movie! The over bearing father the hateful mother,and the jealous sister!I have to deal with three when i'm lucky,but when the whole family is there i must deal with many! Look i just bought a brand new truck,car,house,that is what i have to put up with! Then they ask me what i'm driving,"oh did't you see my white pickup with the missing bumper i just bought for $1000.00 bucks sweet deal,then i get the look! But my girl still loves me for me not my rig! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflyz 0 #42 January 31, 2003 How you doing!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #43 January 31, 2003 It is obvious that never the two shall meet here; therefore, you and your girl need to have a serious conversation about how much is enough and how much is too much. Youa re going to have to realize that her family really only sees it as their responsibility to look after her. if that means telling how they theink you are all wrong for her then so be it. Trust me my daughter would KNOW if I didn't like you because I would use every breath to make sure she knows. If you can't find a meeting ground then I hate to tell you there is going to be NOTHING but problems in your relationship. Either you convince her family you CAN and WILL take care of her or they will convince her that you CAN'T and WON'T take care of her. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,587 #44 January 31, 2003 Distance can help. I wasn't being facetious when I said that. Your daughter deciding to move away, not you "taking" her, too. And good luck. They want her to be just like them. They see that as a good thing. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #45 January 31, 2003 I don't know why you are wasting your time, I'll say it again, get a shovel, duct tape and a shotgun, keep it simple people!!! __________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phil 0 #46 January 31, 2003 ..something like that? how high can you fly with broken wings ... life's a journey not a destination Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #47 January 31, 2003 Quote..something like that? Yup..and these__________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Duct.bmp shovel.bmp Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflyz 0 #48 January 31, 2003 No problems between us at all,She just laughs and we go on with our lives,We have never got into it because the parents,I'm just trying to understand they way of thought! I wonder if it's going to be diffrent when we get married??? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #49 January 31, 2003 FF, Don't mary her expecting anything to change. Make sure you can live with it like it is or leave while you can. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phil 0 #50 January 31, 2003 Quote I wonder if it's going to be different when we get married WHAT, you're not married? And you have sex and all that and her parents know about it? No wonder they give you a hard time boy. You better go an put a ring on that finger of that girl boyor what ever else it takes... c u Phil ... .. .how high can you fly with broken wings ... life's a journey not a destination Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
