Casch 0 #1 May 12, 2003 I truely despise the parents of my best friend of...probably 12 years. They actually believe that I'M bringing down Nathan's grades. They think I'm a bad influence on him. No they don't give him ANY reasons as to why they think the way they do. Anything that flows out of his dads mouth is rock solid truth. MY ASS!!!! I can't stand these people! Okay, they are entitled to their oppinions. I will not argue with that, they will think what they want to think whether they have any facts or not. There is no changing that. BUT DON'T PRETEND TO LIKE ME!!!! Whenever I'm around, they don't even give a hint that they think I'm a bad influence. Ever since I have known these people I have been like an adoptive son. I spend as much time at their house as I do my own. I even clean up their house occasionally as a favor both to Nathan and to them. Do NOT act false toward me. For at least the last year or so, they have constantly bewildered me. Nathan is 17, will be an adult in less than 6 months. He isn't allowed to go snowboarding with me because he "doesn't know how". I believe the exact quote I got from Nate was "We don't trust Josh to teach you, he's not a responsible person". He is RARELY allowed out of town with me. Any anyone that lives in the Portland Metro area and knows of Forest Grove, you know that there is NOTHING to do unless you go to a neighboring town. His parents do NOTHING! The most fun they have had in the last 20 years of marriage was last winter when they spent a weekend at Mt. Hood Inn. They work, then they come home. Tim (the dad) sits in front of the TV and bitches about the RAMS and why they would be doing so much better if HE was coach, while drinking a beer...and another...and another. Tammy does laundry or yard work or whatever else Nathan's brother didn't do that he was supposed to. Their lives are THE most boring of anyone I can think of. Their entire lives have and will be spent sheltered, and in this small community. They don't have any hobbies. One bitches because someone changed the channel from football to MTV and the other bitches about the first. And they BOTH bitch about ME behind their backs. Because Nathan and his brother have recieved very little freedom in their childhood, they have a greater potential of getting themselves in trouble when they are "on their own". It makes me sick to see how tight a leash they have on their kids. Nathan and his bro are treated like they are still pre-pubescent. I hate it, and when they are "free", they are moving in with me into my future apartment and we are going to have a blast. Nathan is free in 20 weeks from this friday the 16th. I can't wait. If you have read through this whole thing, you have effectivly wasted 10 minutes of your life I regret that I can never return. I just hope that any parents walk away with the knowlege that...is in here somewhere...maybe. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #2 May 12, 2003 Having issues today are we? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casch 0 #3 May 12, 2003 YES! ARRG!! Parents! And No I'm not too dense to realise that they are only doing what they think are the right things to do in raising their kids to their full potential. Yet they are merely suffocating them. If my balls were big enough, I would go over there tomorrow and tell them everything that's on my mind. But I know they would just point me to the door and ignore anything I said or will say for the next several years. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Push 0 #4 May 12, 2003 Hey now, Clay, just because you're on your own living the good life doesn't mean you can rub it in the nose of someone less fortunate, does it?Seriously Casch, this is still mild. It could be worse, much worse. Your friend will get free, get a life with your gracious help, and hopefully will remember the mistakes of his parents when(if) he becomes a parent himself. And somewhere, someone is putting two more dollars in your if-I-had-a-dollar-for-every-asshole-I-meet fund. -- Toggle Whippin' Yahoo Skydiving is easy. All you have to do is relax while plummetting at 120 mph from 10,000' with nothing but some nylon and webbing to save you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #5 May 12, 2003 thats just really sad. I am not trying to sterotype but what is there religion? I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver My God has a bigger dick than your god -George Carlin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Push 0 #6 May 12, 2003 Bad idea. "Adults" never listen to "children". They don't listen to much, really. I'm now forming an opinion that it's a natural mechanism of social development. It's trying to teach the young what not to do -- Toggle Whippin' Yahoo Skydiving is easy. All you have to do is relax while plummetting at 120 mph from 10,000' with nothing but some nylon and webbing to save you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casch 0 #7 May 12, 2003 Um, I suppose they closely relate to Christianity, but they don't attend any church or actually follow any religion. I do however have a friend whose parents are VERY chritian, but they let him do what he wants to do, albeit what he wants to do is always very responsible and well thought out. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casch 0 #8 May 12, 2003 That actually makes a LOT of sense. Oh, Nate's parents also think I am irresponsible because I skydive. hehe. Whuffo bastages. It really bothers me that I am pinned as irresponsible because I have the responsibility needed to be independant. My family ties are very loose. My dad is more like a roommate. I am a very "free" person, and I think his parents are threatend by it. There is no other reason I can think of for why they have formed their oppinions on me. I have never been arrested, I rarely do anything worthy of a talking to by the police. I have never been a driver in an accident. I have never brought Nathan or his bro home with anything broken...AHHH!! WHY AM I SHUNNED!!! Tim and Tammy are infamous for making decisions and oppinons based on everything but fact. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Push 0 #9 May 12, 2003 Honestly, you are probably shunned because you skydive. Sorry man... You probably take it almost for granted by now, but to non-jumpers it's the loudest yell of something or other there is. If you didn't jump they probably wouldn't notice your personality as much. Plus they may be scared that you'll drag their son into it. For some reason, a person can listen to statistics until the speaker is blue in the face and still believe they will be the exception. -- Toggle Whippin' Yahoo Skydiving is easy. All you have to do is relax while plummetting at 120 mph from 10,000' with nothing but some nylon and webbing to save you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casch 0 #10 May 12, 2003 Quote Plus they may be scared that you'll drag their son into it. Oh I already plan to, we're going the day he turns 18. Oh, and hopefully that will also be the day he moves in with me. When I'm done with him he'll be an independant, self-sufficient, respectful, level headed, Out-of-the-box thinking, skydiving, BROTHA! hehe, most of this he already is, but I will be weaning him from the grasp of his parents...those people...they don't deserve him, he's MY friend! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
b1jercat 0 #11 May 12, 2003 How does Nate feel about all this? blue skies Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #12 May 12, 2003 Quote those people...they don't deserve him, he's MY friend! whoa dude thats going to far. No matter how much you dislike them, they are his parents.I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver My God has a bigger dick than your god -George Carlin Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casch 0 #13 May 12, 2003 About being sucked into the world of Skydiving? Or the fact that his parents suck and he'll be moving in with me when he's 18? At first he didn't want to go skydiving, he thought I was crazy, but accepted me anyway. Now he has seen how much fun I'm having and he wants in on it. And he's pissed that his parents won't sign the waiver. He feels exactly how I do about his parental situation, if not worse. He is the one that brings this stuff up so he can have someone to bitch at, so we bitch together...I'm pretty sure we're on the same page. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casch 0 #14 May 12, 2003 I know, I'm just being...angry. It just bothers me sooooo much the way he is treated and the way I am being discussed behind my back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Casch 0 #15 May 12, 2003 Wow...I just realised I'm doing exactly what they do. I'm talking about them behind their backs. DAMNIT! Whadda I do now? grrrrrrr Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Samurai136 0 #16 May 12, 2003 Relax. Maybe call them on it sometime. Ask his mom, "Nate tells me you won't let him snowboard because you think I lack responsibility. Is this true or is Nate making stuff up as an excuse to not hang out with me?" Then ask how you could be more responsible? Be really honest and genuine. Don't get pissed when she says stuff. You will win points w/ mom. Unless you like football I wouldn't talk to his dad. He sounds like the textbook definition of a couch-potato-wuffo. Usually when accused of being irresponsible I ask them about their IRA/ retirement savings and then tell them about mine. Nothing is more responsible than retirement savings. Except maybe taking care of your aging parents/ grandparents...Ken "Buttons aren't toys." - Trillian Ken Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
