dropdeded 0 #1 June 13, 2003 Someone close to me attempted suicide yesterday.There is some shit I just absolutely do not understand. dropdeded------------------------------------------ The Dude Abides. - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FliegendeWolf 0 #2 June 13, 2003 ((((((((((vibes))))))))))A One that Isn't Cold is Scarcely a One at All Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hooked 0 #3 June 13, 2003 I am so sorry. Hopefully this person will get the help they need. Hugs to all! J -------------------------------------- Sometimes we're just being Humans.....But we're always Human Beings. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freakydiver 0 #4 June 13, 2003 Its called massive depression - I know I've been there before. Its not an easy thing to understand - it can easily become a downward spiral for that person and unless they seek help from someone its hard to break out of. I hope your friend is doing alirght. -- (N.DG) "If all else fails – at least try and look under control." -- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpergirl 0 #5 June 13, 2003 I'm so sorry to hear that... I send prayers and thoughts to your friend! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheRus 0 #6 June 13, 2003 I lost a few good friends in high school to this kind of thing. 2 to deliberate drug ODs that would have killed them had they not died in the car wreck (lost control due to the drugs). 1 used a .44 to the head. I wish there had been some way to stop them or that they had not been so deep in despair that they could not have at least made a phone call or something to prevent this. Vibes to your friend. Nothing is worth ending it all. Yeah, it's fine, we'll walk down the line. Leave our rain, a cold trade for warm sunshine You my friend, I will defend... and if we change, well, I love you anyway Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeded 0 #7 June 13, 2003 Yep, I was with this person an hour before the attempt. I had no idea.Apparently she did call a crisis center but had no ride there.She slit her wrist then called me at school. dropdeded------------------------------------------ The Dude Abides. - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheRus 0 #8 June 13, 2003 Damn man, just damn. The only thing I can think is that maybe now that the problem has come to the surface your friend can get the help she needs to cope with her problems in the future. Yeah, it's fine, we'll walk down the line. Leave our rain, a cold trade for warm sunshine You my friend, I will defend... and if we change, well, I love you anyway Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #9 June 13, 2003 If your friend called you is because is looking for help, there is something in his/her mind. I'm not expert, but a good listener can help a lot. I know about depression and stress, I have a PhD on both. __________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Laurel 0 #10 June 13, 2003 I've been there. Hopefully, your friend gets some help. Lots of love to both of you...................................................................... PMS#28, Pelogrande Rodriguez#1074 My Pink M Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #11 June 13, 2003 Quote Yep, I was with this person an hour before the attempt. I had no idea.Apparently she did call a crisis center but had no ride there.She slit her wrist then called me at school. So she didn't so much want to die, as she wanted to call attention to her problems to see if anyone (specifically you) can help. That's a good thing. Suicide attempts that include phone calls like that are a last ditch desparate cry for help, which is a lot better than the person who simply accepts that no help will be enough and death is the only way to make it stop. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDekker 1,465 #12 June 13, 2003 QuoteSo she didn't so much want to die, as she wanted to call attention to her problems to see if anyone (specifically you) can help. That's a good thing. Suicide attempts that include phone calls like that are a last ditch desparate cry for help, which is a lot better than the person who simply accepts that no help will be enough and death is the only way to make it stop. very true. Clinical depressions are massivly underestimated silent killers. I hope your friend can get the help she needs. I know how difficult it is to have a close friend or family member who is suicidal. If you need some one to talk to, I am around. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Push 0 #13 June 13, 2003 I concur. She's going to need a good listener and a loving friend. What she doesn't need is someone to hit her over the head with what she's done, how selfish it is, how stupid it is, etc etc. -- Toggle Whippin' Yahoo Skydiving is easy. All you have to do is relax while plummetting at 120 mph from 10,000' with nothing but some nylon and webbing to save you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDekker 1,465 #14 June 13, 2003 QuoteI concur. She's going to need a good listener and a loving friend. What she doesn't need is someone to hit her over the head with what she's done, how selfish it is, how stupid it is, etc etc. Honestly, at this point, I think professional help is better than a good friend, though that might be a decent start. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #15 June 13, 2003 Sorry to hear. {{{ VIBES }}}Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sinker 0 #16 June 13, 2003 the title of your thread says it all... love and hugs and vibes to you and your friend. help them be strong. -the artist formerly known as sinker Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,560 #17 June 13, 2003 Quotethe title of your thread says it all... My acid test for whether suicide is a solution is to ask: Would my immediate problem go away if I were to abandon my life and live in a shelter in a distant city? Generally, the answer is "yes." In which case, it's definitely a temporary problem. Being able to be medicated also makes it a temporary problem. It's hard for you to be in this situation -- she really really needs more resources than just you to lean on. If she does lean on you, make sure that it doesn't come out of you. You can't change her or save her. She has to do that. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #18 June 13, 2003 God, I'm so sorry, Ed. ((((VIBES)))) By the way, if you need some old Taft crew support... Monterey this weekend is off. However, it's been moved to Skydive Taft (Crouch's) all next weekend. I have to go now, but just show up next weekend. Maybe some of your old buddies will be there to give some much needed support. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
n2skdvn 0 #19 June 13, 2003 Vibes man i recently had a friend try by overdose luckly a friend caught him. i've lost three friends to sillycide(thats what i call it because it is). give your friend all the support they need. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeded 0 #20 June 13, 2003 Monterey this weekend is off. However, it's been moved to Skydive Taft (Crouch's) all next weekend. __________________________________________________ Thanks, I was out there last weekend. Planning on next weekend whether Im jumpin or not dropdeded------------------------------------------ The Dude Abides. - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #21 June 15, 2003 You're welcome. They're bringing in an Otter for the weekend. You'll love it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #22 June 15, 2003 please check your pm's, Ed. And know you're loved. Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SadSue 0 #23 June 15, 2003 I definaltly agree there, I believe you can do more harm then good dabbleing in things you don't understand. A professional is needed! Hope you don't get Banned! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aero04 0 #24 June 15, 2003 I was in that same place a few years ago. For me, the thought of not waking up was preferable to living the way I was everyday. I really think the only way one can understand why someone would attempt this is to have lived through it themselves. I do hope your friend gets the help they need. Just be around to provide and listening ear and a shoulder. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #25 June 15, 2003 Holy damn Ed, sorry to hear it! thats the worst pone call you could get. I'm glad you didnt loose this friend. the deal is, she's gonna need some special attention..I.E someone to listen and open up to. she may have opened up to you but not quite as much as she would have liked to ! or she wouldnt have slit her wrists! obviously shes got something going on! she should not be left alone for quite some time but she also shouldnt be made to feel like a prisoner or that she IS being watched! be a caring friend but be careful (i dont know how old or what the situation is) if this is a love thing then youve got to be careful! Im sure her family will be there but make sure she feels loved treat her like you normally would and add a little levity to the situation! I had a few friends do this when I was younger -some achived their goal this may not be the last time she tries this!My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
