ozthebum 0 #1 June 16, 2003 After finally starting to sober up, and figuring out the important things in my life I've realized that the most important thing in my life is a girl I knew from back in the day. I just wanted to get everyone's opinion (especially all the ladies in the house) before I sent off this e-mail. I want to make sure I don't sound like a stalker (not the bad kind at least). Anyway, please let me know how this sounds. Hello (name withheld), Let me start off by apologizing for the sappiness of this e-mail…it’s the first time in a long time that I’ve been sober enough to say what I really want to say. I’m not sure how to go about saying what I want to say to you, so I’ll just say it how it seems right to me. Every day that passes I think of you, and I think about how I fucked up our friendship....I think about how bad I treated you…how I didn’t make it to Vegas on your B-day, how I never made the time to go to Thailand with you, how I acted like a complete asshole when I talked to you on the phone at New Years. I miss you every day, I miss talking to you, I miss seeing you everyday, I miss knowing you where close to me…so much you probably wouldn’t believe it. I never realized how much I took you for granted. When I got to England the only thing that got me through the week, was knowing that I was going to talk to you on the weekend. Now all I long for is to hear from you once in a while…just to keep me going. Now I’m moving on yet again, and once again you’re not with me. Please give me another chance…let me back into your life. Killer PS...I owe beer for my FIRST new thread Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
celljumper 0 #2 June 16, 2003 Not a bad letter. It's good to tell her how you feel, what you are sorry for, and what you miss.....but the last few sentences (specifically the "i long for...." sentence) could be revised a bit. Why not just sum it up saying It'd be great to hear from you, if you are willing to let me back into your life. Then you at least get to start at ground zero again, instead of making her feel like you want to pick up right where you left off. Cuz you just can't. Just My opinion. Hope it helps. meg Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rebecca 0 #3 June 16, 2003 Quote Hello (name withheld), Let me start off by apologizing for the sappiness of this e-mail…it’s (don't apologize for sentiment- you've got other stuff you're apologizing for) For the first time in a long time that I’ve been I'm sober enough to say what I really want to say. I’m not sure how to go about saying what I want to say to you expressing myself, so I’ll just say it how it seems right to me. Every day that passes I think of you, and I think about how I fucked up our friendship...I think about how badly I treated you…how I didn’t make it to Vegas on your birthday, how I never made the time to go to Thailand with you, how I acted like a complete asshole when I talked to you on the phone at New Years. I miss you every day, I miss talking to you, I miss seeing you everyday, I miss knowing you were close to me…so much you probably wouldn’t believe it. I never realized how much I took you for granted. When I got to England the only thing that got me through the week, was knowing that I was going to talk to you on the weekend. Now all I long for is to hear from you once in a while…just to keep me going. Now I’m moving on yet again, (something about getting sober/ turning your life around/ taking responsibility/ etc.)., and once again you’re not with me. Please give me another chance…let me back into your life. Killer First pass of edits- see above... Well, if you really were as close as all that, I don't see why she'd think you were a stalker. She might give you the cold shoulder anyway, but I'm sure the sentiment will be appreciated. Maybe an "I'm sorry, please forgive me" line at the end wouldn't hurt (even though that's the message of the whole e-mail, being explicit about it is ok, too) Is that helpful? you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #4 June 16, 2003 sounds like a nice woman...so, she's in vegas , huh? HAHAH!My photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #5 June 16, 2003 Um, maybe not signing it "Killer" would help take the stalker edge off it . And Rebecca's right - don't apologize for being sentimental. It's alright to have feelings. Good luck - I hope this helps you. And I admire your courage for being able to address this as you have. Many men would not. Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Laurel 0 #6 June 16, 2003 I agree with your edits, Rebecca. As for you sobering up, I am going out on a limb here with a huge assumption - if you happen to be using a 12-step program take those steps in order; don't try to 9th step it too soon and try not to get into a relationship too soon into sobriety. If I offended you with my assumption, I apologize...................................................................... PMS#28, Pelogrande Rodriguez#1074 My Pink M Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rebecca 0 #7 June 17, 2003 Glad you and Laurel agree. And I agree right back with both of you- 'Killer', while endearing in its own way, doesn't seem quite fitting. Use your real name. And be careful that you're taking this in stride with whatever else you're doing to get back on track. Way to go dude. Good luck! you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,589 #8 June 17, 2003 Keeping it a letter is good; make sure she has a way to get hold of you, but do not follow up to make sure she got the letter if she ever told you she didn't want to see you again. Really. The other comments you've gotten are good, and the intent of the letter is good. I'm just sensitive to the "I wanted to make sure she got it so I called 17 times to follow up" thing Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
andy2 0 #9 June 17, 2003 HEY DUDE, CONGRATZ ON GETTING SOBER. Being fucked up all the time sucks shiiit, I know man, it feels good to be BACK, doesn't it?! You're lucky that you've already found skydiving, this sport is so cool at keeping you focused on what you don't want to do (go back to being fucked up all the time). It's awesome that youre focusing on other people now in your life. In my book you're two steps ahead of the game. Way to be, brother. --------------------------------------------- let my inspiration flow, in token rhyme suggesting rhythm... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
andy2 0 #10 June 17, 2003 [QUOTE]lesson from London #1: Learn to dance[/QUOTE] Did you ever see digweed in london!? I would love to go to england and party at some of their parties (sober). Offtopic I know, but yahoo! --------------------------------------------- let my inspiration flow, in token rhyme suggesting rhythm... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
