Designer 0 #1 August 31, 2003 Humm,just can,t seem to stick around after jumping.Has to do with not drinking anymore?Maybe,not sure enough to hang and chat up da women?Still scared of hot skydiving women(most women for that matter)(lol)?Been that way for 25 yrs now!Too shy?Not confident?Anybody else have this problem? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vonSanta 0 #2 August 31, 2003 Hmm, I stay around. I talk if I got something to say, drink beer. After having done the latter I always have something to say. Women skydivers are basically skydivers with tits. No reason to fear 'em more than males - unless you fear titties. Be Nice (tm) and true to whoever you are and whatever happens will happen, unless it didn't happen in which case it could have happened but didn't, but that doe....never mind. I am outta beer anyway. I'm quite ignorant about both genders (despite belonging to the male one) so maybe you shouldn't listen to me. Then again, I could be right. Seriously though, I think it takes guts to be yourself. To honestly be yourself, that is. Whatever you are, some people will approve, some will disapprove. This is true regardless of whether you are yourself or trying to be someone people would like. You're most likely better at being yourself and some people won't like you either way, so why not go with what ya know? Am a pretty introverted person myself. Skydivers in general are so easy to talk to. Want to talk to the girl at the bar? Ask her 'hey have you ever [insert skydiving thing here]' and there's yer conversation starter. The skydiving girls/women I've hung around have been sorta assertive so if they don't want yer company, they'll let you know. Skydiving chicks rock. Santa Von GrossenArsch I only come in one flavour ohwaitthatcanbemisunderst Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflyfrog 0 #3 August 31, 2003 Actually, Designer, I found that skydiving INCREASED my confidence with the ladies. I have always been shy and found it difficult to initiate conversations. I never even had a girlfriend before i began jumping (at 25 years of age!). I am still quite reserved with the opposite sex, but when I am on the drop zone, I find it much easier to approach and speak to women. You have to remember that these women you are afraid of share a common passion with you! That's not something you find when you just meet a stranger in a bar or the grocery store. You already have a bond with these women... just take the next step and talk to them! Keep it simple and relatable: your favorite jump plane; that last smoking skydive. Be yourself and let your passion for the sport come through and you will find many women very receptive to you-- even the ones that don't skydive! Just my 2¢! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faber 0 #4 August 31, 2003 QuoteWomen skydivers are basically skydivers with tits. No reason to fear 'em more than males think of it this way... if you hit a guy in freefall you might get hair in your eyes... If you hit a girl... you´ll have a soft landing Stay safe Stefan Faber Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,560 #5 August 31, 2003 Quoteskydiving INCREASED my confidence with the ladies Y'know, I've never had a problem with confidence with the ladies If you're not comfortable hanging around and not drinking where you are, that sucks. Speaking as a, um, lady -- confidence is confidence. If you're looking for it only with the ladies, then it's not real, and that will show. At least to any lady worth having. My problem is the guys are all attached, or half my age. Fortunately, I'm not going skydiving to find guys Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frogger 0 #6 August 31, 2003 Well, I'll probably get flamed for this, but here goes anyway. I have always had trouble in social situations of just about any kind. I have to give presentations for work and was having a terrible time. I joined a local Toastmasters club to help with public speaking and have since found that this has really helped me with my confidence level in virtually all social settings (including the DZ). If you are interested, I believe you can find a club in your area by visiting the www.toastmasters.org website. Good luck, blue skies, Adam Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Blahr 0 #7 August 31, 2003 Quote My problem is the guys are all attached DAMN! You mean they are all jammed together into one big guy? That IS a problem! Do you live near a nuclear power plant or something? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Blahr 0 #8 August 31, 2003 QuoteHas to do with not drinking anymore? Robert, I can relate to this. I'm not a very extroverted guy. I was much more so back before I quit drinking. Thats said, I'm also a lot more confident now than I was back in those days. Man, woman, makes no difference to me as I'm not looking to "hook up" If you see NOT hanging around as a problem, then just hang around and see what happens. They probably wont make you do bad things Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pds 0 #9 August 31, 2003 QuoteMy problem is the guys are all attached, or half my age. Fortunately, I'm not going skydiving to find guys hmmm... me 35, wendy..?!?! 70? your holding up well. 8^P~ i guess i have to wait until i get my POPS patch to do the nasty dance with w2. maybe i will have found a good deal on a can'o'confidence by then. namaste, motherfucker. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luv2Fall 0 #10 August 31, 2003 Be yourself - piece of cake. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflygoddess 0 #11 August 31, 2003 Well just move out here to Eloy and things will be better. We are all super nice and love to just hang out after jumping. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Blahr 0 #12 September 1, 2003 Quote hmmm... me 35, wendy..?!?! 70? your holding up well. 8^P~ Strange isnt it? To me she is 76 years old! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiverRick 0 #13 September 1, 2003 QuoteQuote hmmm... me 35, wendy..?!?! 70? your holding up well. 8^P~ Strange isnt it? To me she is 76 years old! She's 92 for me. never pull low......unless you are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RevJim 0 #14 September 1, 2003 QuoteQuoteQuote hmmm... me 35, wendy..?!?! 70? your holding up well. 8^P~ Strange isnt it? To me she is 76 years old! She's 92 for me. Ha! For me, she's still a young pup......64!It's your life, live it! Karma RB#684 "Corcho", ASK#60, Muff#3520, NCB#398, NHDZ#4, C-33989, DG#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
