airtwardo 7 #76 October 9, 2003 Got a 12 year old girl that's going on 25... Just recently is becoming aware of the POWER those ever expanding boobies give her at school! After reviewing a really poor report card last week, we were told that she doesn't need to study... "I'm so beautiful, I'll just marry a rich guy"! I almost fell off the chair, when 'Mom' said... "Then you better get use to old bald guys!" ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #77 October 9, 2003 QuoteQuoteMerrick assured him it was normal but I'm not sure him laughing so hard about it helped There goes another member of that familly with issues....Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fast 0 #78 October 9, 2003 QuoteGot a 12 year old girl that's going on 25... Just recently is becoming aware of the POWER those ever expanding boobies give her at school! After reviewing a really poor report card last week, we were told that she doesn't need to study... "I'm so beautiful, I'll just marry a rich guy"! I almost fell off the chair, when 'Mom' said... "Then you better get use to old bald guys!" lmao~D Where troubles melt like lemon drops Away above the chimney tops That's where you'll find me. Swooping is taking one last poke at the bear before escaping it's cave - davelepka Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skymonkey13 0 #79 October 9, 2003 QuoteGot a 12 year old girl that's going on 25... Just recently is becoming aware of the POWER those ever expanding boobies give her at school! After reviewing a really poor report card last week, we were told that she doesn't need to study... "I'm so beautiful, I'll just marry a rich guy"! I almost fell off the chair, when 'Mom' said... "Then you better get use to old bald guys!" I'm rolling on the floor here, and i can't get up.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NoShitThereIWas 0 #80 October 9, 2003 Woooooowwwww, SkyMama, my heart goes out to you. Please tell me that my angellic 3 year old daughter will always stay this angellic, never want to wear make up, go out with boys until she is 21 and that she will get only straight As in Biology ... Just to give you SOME peace of mind, 14 IS a very difficult age for girls. Remember when you were 14? I am not excusing her behavior and you have my deepest sympathies but I remember 14 and it is such an indepent age when it really shouldn't be. It really is a major changing point. Adolescence in itself is such a bizarre time in life, isn't it? I am raising my daughter and plan on continuing until she is at least 12. After that if adolescence corrupts her childhood purity, she can live with Dad for a while. If I had to choose, I would definitely take the first 12 years. They say girls get along better with their Dads as teenagers. Roy Bacon: "Elvises, light your fires." Sting: "Be yourself no matter what they say." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #81 October 9, 2003 Quote("Hey, all my friends are flunking EVERYTHING"). This is why, for anybody who can find a way, you should put your kids through private, charter, or parochial school. They can't have friends who are getting "F"s, cause those kids get cut. I spent an equal amount of time in both systems, and really liked not getting in fights in parochial school a lot better. I also had just about zero guidance cause my parents were busy with their own issues, so I ended up going to college just cause all my friends did. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #82 October 9, 2003 ***UPDATE*** I think Alix was possessed by aliens at school. There really is no other explaination for her behavior once she got home compared to this morning. When she got home, she came into my room, smiled sheepishly and said, "I'm sorry Mommy" and gave me a big hug. When I asked if her dad put her up to it, she said no, it was all her doing! She went on to tell me what she thinks her grades will be for this quarter: 1 A, 3 B's, 1 C (honors class) and 1 D. She admitted she had room for improvement and then uttered these words that her brother actually witnessed, "I'm going to try harder next quarter because I really want to get all A's and B's". Maybe I won't sell her quite yet. It was a little fun tormenting her when I told her I tried to sell her to a bunch of skydivers. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
racer42 0 #83 October 9, 2003 Nope, already have one.L.A.S.T. #24 Co-Founder Biscuit Brothers Freefly Team Electric Toaster #3 Co-Founder Team Non Sequitor Co-Founder Team Happy Sock Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Samurai136 0 #84 October 9, 2003 Well, you could ship her to me in Iowa. Just in time for winter. (Brrrr...) I have all the toys teenagers love. (TV/ DVD/ Laserdisc/ Stereo/ Computer/ etc) All she has to do is prepare meals and pack for me on weekends. I'll provide food and shelter. Whenever she gets tired of Iowa she'll figure out how to earn enough money to fly home to Mama... Ken"Buttons aren't toys." - Trillian Ken Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KolibrieLinda 0 #85 October 9, 2003 hey Skymama I've just been there and done that to my mother as well. Just wait ( in my case that took a long time I'm over twenty now) but in the end everything will turn out fine. At least I hope for you. Or they become absolutely mad, like my mom told me I was. Because now I'm jumping out of a perfectly well working airplane. So I'm still giving her sleepless nights. But hey I'm still here not in prison and not six feet under. So everything will turn out fine. Just wait Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #86 October 9, 2003 That is great news. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #87 October 10, 2003 QuoteAny ideas for punishment if she doesn't pull the B out of Science? shave her head.... that will make her think twice about gettig bad grades,,,, but i'm not one to talk.. i got b&c's through highschool... even got a d oncein german class.... but i hated the teacher....... that's my excuse ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vonSanta 0 #88 October 10, 2003 QuoteIf your children are really that gifted, they will do what they want anyway, and they already know the repercussions of their actions. Heh, this is what I'm scared of. I've always done exactly what I've wanted and my parents (or school, or whoever) haven't been able to force me. Had the cops pick me up to bring me to school coz I dinnae want to go several times. I knew about the repercussions of my actions (sort of); I jut didn't place much weight on them It's both a blessing and a curse, such a disposition, but it sure has been interesting so far. Now if I get a kid like that I dunno what I'd do. I can say, based on my own experiences with myself, that there are instances when no amount of authority, threats or begging will work with a kid. Some are just dumb, stubborn and mule-minded. And they'll get into a helluva lot of trouble over it - with their peers, parents and authorities in general. I'd imagine that if I was the father of such a child I'd rip my hair off just with worrying and I'd not like the lack of influence one bit. The things I've subjected my family to aren't to be taken lightly (even if I remember them fondly and find 'em amusing now). I dunno. Having kids appear to me to come with big risks and even greater responsibility. I'm 28 now and have enough trouble finding a direction for myself. I'd do a kid a disservice to bring him/her to the world at this point in time. And, most importantly, I KNOW my kid would use the all powerful argument I used: "Fark off dudes, I didn't choose to come to this world - you forced it on me" Santa Von GrossenArsch I only come in one flavour ohwaitthatcanbemisunderst Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RevJim 0 #89 October 10, 2003 QuoteI think Alix was possessed by aliens at school. Nah, she just was thinking, which she would have done all along. Sounds to me like she really is quite intelligent, Andrea. She thought about it, she knows the results of her actions, and she chose to change. It's like Justin said earlier, those with the mental capacity to handle it need direction, not expectations. Ya done good, mama. Dave, I know it just might get worse, but 2 of my 4 here have tested at Mensa level. I went through this last year with the 12 year old. Poor grades, not applying himself. So I dug and found out all the different things he wanted to do with his life. Wouldn't you know it, every one involved a very high GPA to get into good schools, and very difficult classes. When he saw what he needed to do, he applied himself. Last year's 4th quarter: 3 A's, a B, a C, and 2 D's. This year so far: 6 A's and a B+ (Which he's pissed about). All it took was a little direction. He knows if he fails, he gets punished. Passing grades will save him, but all summer the phrase "You want fries with that?" got used quite a bit, since I told him that's the only job he would find with his current grade levels. It works, don't knock it.It's your life, live it! Karma RB#684 "Corcho", ASK#60, Muff#3520, NCB#398, NHDZ#4, C-33989, DG#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
miked10270 0 #90 October 10, 2003 Hi Andrea, You have my deepest sympathies for your situation with your daughter. Actually... You don't, 'cos you daughter's probably doing EXACTLY what you did to your mum. That's why your parents LOVE their grandchildren, it's their one opportunity for revenge before you put them in a home. Meanwhile, don't make the mistake of viewing 14 as a chronological age. 14 years is actually an average of 4 years and 24 years (as in she's going to ACT like a 4 year old while you TREAT her like a 24 year old). Speaking as a former 14 year old and dredging up the memories of that time I can see absolutely nothing wrong with her position. Seriously, This is the strange time for kids where they've ceased to be children, but aren't adults yet. They flop between being one extreme and the other. Toss in the visit from the hormone fairy and suddenly it's all clear why Prozac is such a big seller. All you've gotta do is decide whether the happy pills should be for you or for her. Look on the bright side... It's just a phase she's going through... She'll grow out of it by the time she's 30. Of course by that time, she'll have her own kids, YOUR grandchildren... That's when YOU'LL get your revenge on her for what she's putting you through just now Regards, Mike. Taking the piss out of the FrenchAmericans since before it was fashionable. Prenait la pisse hors du FrançaisCanadiens méridionaux puisqu'avant lui à la mode. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pammi 0 #91 October 10, 2003 QuoteWhen he was younger and quite abit smaller, i caught my son lying to me. I knew he was lying, and he knew that i knew it, but he wouldn't admit it. I finally told him that he was going to get punished anyway because i knew he was lying, but that if he would just admit it, he wouldn't get a spanking. Then he finally so, "ok, i lied" So i told him he could just go upstairs to his room and think over what he had done. When he turned to go up stairs, i kick him in the ass (not hard, just to get his attention) he turned right around and said, "Hey dad, you said you wouldn't hit me" so i said "I lied, how does it feel?" He got the point and has remembered that to this day. Oh good one! I'll have to try that! Pammi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #92 October 10, 2003 I think the same alien got Ashley at school yesterday too. When I went to pick her up she had left a message with a friend that she was staying after with the professor (yes, he teacher college classes too so they call him a professor). She stayed with him until almost 5:00 making up things he would allow her to in hopes of bringing her grade up. Thankfully this was even her idea. I talked to the guy today on my break and her grade has improved to a 76 which is at least close to what I'm looking for from her. She was an angel last night too cleaning the dishes and putting them in the dishwasher. I wonder if we can get aliens down here more often??? -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Designer 0 #93 October 10, 2003 OH Mama,you know teenagers?Think they are on top of the world!NOT INTO KIDDIES.Otherwise maybe she just needs some stern discipline?No Daddy around?How about a part time job? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #94 October 10, 2003 QuoteOtherwise maybe she just needs some stern discipline?No Daddy around?How about a part time job? That child gets plenty of stern discipline, believe me. Her gets her every other week, and she also has a grandfather and 2 uncles in town! I wrote in a later post that she came home and was quite apologetic. I think it's just the whole 14 year old girl thing and hormones thing going on. She's been very sweet today. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skymonkey13 0 #95 October 10, 2003 I wouldn't worry about it too much skymama, they all go through that kind of crap. She will eventually grow out of it. I know sometimes it looks like they never will, but they do. Kids have the magic ability to be able to turn into assholes when they become about 13 or so. but it will pass. Hang in there.My son used to try to get my goat when he was mad by telling me "You've never been a real dad to me", i just smiled and waited a couple of days untill he would ask me for money, and then i'd say, "Go get it from your dad, i don't give money to other peoples kids" so he quit trying that one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheAnvil 0 #96 October 10, 2003 Let ChopChop keep her for a week! That will put her in line nicely! Or tell her the # of months AFTER she turns 16 that you let her take the drivers test will be DIRECTLY proportional to her cumuluative GPA......hhehehehehehehehehehehe.Vinny the Anvil Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL JACKASS POWER!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #97 October 10, 2003 QuoteI told him that's the only job he would find with his current grade levels. he can have my job if he wants.... working on the high tech equipment of tommorow today...... al he has to do is read a little blue book and it tells him how to do every job i do..... funny how people think fixing planes in the military is hard.... it's all writen down for us...lol..... ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #98 October 10, 2003 Quoteit's all writen down for us wow... I dindnt know you jet-fuel monkeys could readRemster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bodypilot90 0 #99 October 10, 2003 Quote She will eventually grow out of it. I know sometimes it looks like they never will, but they do. Kids have the magic ability to be able to turn into assholes when they become about 13 or so. but it will pass. Hang in there. yep, my daughter was just like yours only not as sweet. Her mom and I split and I became the biggest a hole on the planet (in her eyes) She moved away with her mom at 16. Then one day she called and said "daddy I want to come back home can you help me move" she had just turned 20. Well the "daddy" got me. 3 days later I was in dc loading a moving van and heading for florida. Today she called and wants to go fishing with me tonight. Somehow she has turned into a real sweet heart. Don't lose hope......just tape her in a cardboard box till she's 20 Oh and she asked if she can do a tandem Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Samurai136 0 #100 October 10, 2003 I used to use this gambit on my sister when she was doing the 14-yr old 'attitude': Tell her that, "You have no rights as a minor and in the state of Maine it is still legal for a 14-yr old to marry. Behave or I will arrange a marriage for you in Maine." You have to use your most serious 'matter-of-fact' tone of voice. Who knows, she might buy it. Ken"Buttons aren't toys." - Trillian Ken Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
