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Always be yourself. You don't want them falling for something you are not.
True. Some men (and women, too) overdo it at the beginning. Forget flowers and acquiescing to the others every want. Why not say, hey, let's have dinner and a beer at a restaurant where the game is on. Most women wouldn't object, I don't think. It's keeping it real, and besides, if flowers come later, unexpectantly, now isn't that special.
"If the Bible has taught us nothing else, and it hasn't, it's that girls should stick to girl's sports such as hot oil wrestling and foxy boxing." - Homer Simpson
I read a lot of this thread, but it is a bit long. So, just to add a few things:
* Think BEFORE you speak/act. I know, foreign concept to some, but it is very very important! It's very sad, but the most remembered words and actions are sometimes the worst ones. Every time you fight, things come rushing back. Not good.
* Compliment one another. Personally, I need to hear them. I know it sounds to be insecure, but, well, it is just nice to hear compliments. Doesn't have to be about looks, can be anything... funny, cute, nice sit fly. :p
* Cool cars really don't matter. I suppose I can't speak for everyone, but seriously, I have never once dated a guy because he had a cool car. Not that I don't like cars, but it just isn't a selling point. She'll like you or she wont, your car isn't going to make a bit of difference.
Something I always look for in a partner is openmindedness. The times i've neglected to stick to this, i've realized very soon why it is so important (to me).
I have no tips that will get you in a good relationship, but these are some things that come to mind as important to me. In addition to many that have already been stated, such as honesty!
Angela.
* Think BEFORE you speak/act. I know, foreign concept to some, but it is very very important! It's very sad, but the most remembered words and actions are sometimes the worst ones. Every time you fight, things come rushing back. Not good.
* Compliment one another. Personally, I need to hear them. I know it sounds to be insecure, but, well, it is just nice to hear compliments. Doesn't have to be about looks, can be anything... funny, cute, nice sit fly. :p
* Cool cars really don't matter. I suppose I can't speak for everyone, but seriously, I have never once dated a guy because he had a cool car. Not that I don't like cars, but it just isn't a selling point. She'll like you or she wont, your car isn't going to make a bit of difference.
Something I always look for in a partner is openmindedness. The times i've neglected to stick to this, i've realized very soon why it is so important (to me).
I have no tips that will get you in a good relationship, but these are some things that come to mind as important to me. In addition to many that have already been stated, such as honesty!
Angela.
I'm okay with that..
(General question - for all girls)
Ok, here a little question for the gals... You want to find a guy who is interested in you beyond the sex.
Ignoring your looks and skydiving, what is it that makes you worth meeting?
K..here goes my snobby rant..
I know what makes me worth more than that. I want to have the chance to see what makes him worth it, and if he tries too hard to get me in to bed too soon.. I'm not gonna stick around to find out.
There are plenty of girls out there who are willing to sleep with guys they barely know, or dont know at all. I'm not interested in a guy who is not interested in significantly better than that. I'm just too old for that shit.
[/snobby rant]
My grandmother taught me this one quite some time ago and I just now remembered it:
For a relationship to work, you can put no other person above your mate. Not your parents, not your children, nobody. This is especially critical in marriages/relationships where children from past relationships are involved. I didn't take much credence in this advice until much later in life when I saw so many, many of my friend's relationships fail because of this lack of primary focus.
Chuck
For a relationship to work, you can put no other person above your mate. Not your parents, not your children, nobody. This is especially critical in marriages/relationships where children from past relationships are involved. I didn't take much credence in this advice until much later in life when I saw so many, many of my friend's relationships fail because of this lack of primary focus.
Chuck
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(General question - for all girls)
Ok, here a little question for the gals... You want to find a guy who is interested in you beyond the sex.
Ignoring your looks and skydiving, what is it that makes you worth meeting?
OK, I didn't say any such think about finding a guy interested in me beyond sex BUT besides the skydiving, the looks, the sex and the pheremones - it's my personality, my sense of humor, it's the total package - the way I go through life.
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I just wanted to mention how impressed I am with some of the stuff posted here but the guys.....
Most of you are hitting it right on.....and for those reading, you can learn a lot here.
Thank you for the renewed faith in the male species!
SM1...this is so true im glad to see it posted.
Most of you are hitting it right on.....and for those reading, you can learn a lot here.
Thank you for the renewed faith in the male species!
SM1...this is so true im glad to see it posted.
For a relationship to work, you can put no other person above your mate.
She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway."
eeneR
TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto
eeneR
TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto
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I've got a bit of an outside theory here...
Boldly stating the theory up front:
If women were the pursuers, men would be considered the mysterious gender.
Now, this presents quite a few interesting ways to get into the female mind.
Take everything you say, and see what you would think if she said it to you, if you weren't totally/completely/absolutely interested in her. This will probably get you an idea of what she is going to think.
It's, unfortunately, a lot more simple than most people seem to make it.
What makes you want a woman more than anything? When you can't have her. What makes a woman want you more than anything? When she can't have you. (Alright, this is a broad generalization, but this is just for the starting of dating, not furthur into relationships, although you definiately DO NOT want to make yourself available on her slightest whim, because she will, most like, feel that you are not as valuable as you really are, even though you're doing your best to be the best to her [ This comes from personal experience, unfortunately])
It's late, so my rambling is probably a bit inane, but I'll keep it short, and end it here.
EDIT: Ahh yes... and I agree with the following rule
RULE: Never date your best friend's sister. If you're around all the time, she's going to get tired of you after a while.
Disclaimer: These are from the point of view of a 19 year old guy who has had one hell of an experience. All items in this post are from a guy's prospective.
If you'd like my story... It's quite interesting, but very, very long... then PM me.
Boldly stating the theory up front:
If women were the pursuers, men would be considered the mysterious gender.
Now, this presents quite a few interesting ways to get into the female mind.
Take everything you say, and see what you would think if she said it to you, if you weren't totally/completely/absolutely interested in her. This will probably get you an idea of what she is going to think.
It's, unfortunately, a lot more simple than most people seem to make it.
What makes you want a woman more than anything? When you can't have her. What makes a woman want you more than anything? When she can't have you. (Alright, this is a broad generalization, but this is just for the starting of dating, not furthur into relationships, although you definiately DO NOT want to make yourself available on her slightest whim, because she will, most like, feel that you are not as valuable as you really are, even though you're doing your best to be the best to her [ This comes from personal experience, unfortunately])
It's late, so my rambling is probably a bit inane, but I'll keep it short, and end it here.
EDIT: Ahh yes... and I agree with the following rule
RULE: Never date your best friend's sister. If you're around all the time, she's going to get tired of you after a while.
Disclaimer: These are from the point of view of a 19 year old guy who has had one hell of an experience. All items in this post are from a guy's prospective.
If you'd like my story... It's quite interesting, but very, very long... then PM me.
And, all this is explained in "Men are from Mars...". That book is a TOTAL cliche, but it is sooooo true. The different genders think and respond to things differently.
I found that the book had one very dangerous undertone - that if you communicate and understand how that communication works, that you will work things out. People can understand what the other is saying and still not agree. Thought the book sucked.
Thing is... the premise of the book is that you already care about the person. It points out that you don't always have to agree, you just have to understand and try to accept that your partner isn't going to agree with you on everything.
Understanding where the other person is coming from won't always save a relationship, but it can solve a lot of problems within a relationship.
Phree, I couldn't have said it better myself.
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