Pammi 0 #1 October 18, 2003 I wondered how many of you let your kids know about your sex life, or your parents let you know about theirs? I remember my dad grabbing my mom's butt when I was a kid and though it was funny and weird, but cool. Now I consider it healthy that the kids know we have an active, loving sex life. (Although Merrick does try to not make it harder on them by covering my mouth if I'm TOO loud!) What do you think? My friend is appalled that our children are so aware of when we have sex (I think the door shut and locked while they are watching TV in the other room is the first clue) while I think that it's really none of their business what we're doing, and if they know (which I assume they probably do) then perhaps they will understand it's a natural part of a good relationship. Pammi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kansasskydiver 0 #2 October 18, 2003 I walked in on my dad... Then my parents got divorced, sorry dad<--- See look, pink dolphins DO exist! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bobsled92 0 #3 October 18, 2003 !!!3rd choice>>>>> Mom & Dad need private time to cuddle/Mom AND Dad love each other and need to relax together. NO to: Hey KIDS!... Daddy'd gonna do the "Triple Lindey" on yo MOMMA!...hold on to somehting sturdy now! It's respect for your children as well as each other. We all have had our moments but, willinly around kids./// ---I have made a situation where my friend (upstairs Apt) almost called the police due to the sound of a screaming woman...then he saw my girlfriend's truck out front of my apt......I married her._______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflybella 0 #4 October 18, 2003 Caveat: I don't have kids. My parents did not show any type of affection toward each other while I was growing up. Still, I am an extremely affectionate person. But I have no sense of a close loving, caring family relationship -more like a business-style relationship between parents. I think it's probably so healthy for kids to see and know what a loving adult relationship is like. But whatever you're not willing/able to sit down and explain in objective/nonsexual terms to them is too much info. It seems to me that a slow, gradual approach to love/sex is best - they're kids, they have no frame of reference (assuming they're young), it's like a martian landing on earth! I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you're willing to sit them down and talk them through it - you're fine. Just make sure you're 'managing' their education. If you're going to be open about your sex life, make sure you're just as open (and they are just as receptive) in your discussion. I can't wait to have these kinds of questions! Action expresses priority. - Mahatma Ghandi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tinfoil 0 #5 October 18, 2003 QuoteI walked in on my dad... Then my parents got divorced, sorry dad And Pammi, I can't tell you how hard it was for me to read your post, with your avitar, I just couldn't seem to concentrate :)_ _ _ “- - Sumo is the greatest of sports. It has power, grace, speed and cluture. And most importantly, two fat bastards smacking the shit out of each other. ” Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
taln1rigr 0 #6 October 18, 2003 I busted in on my parents ... well, actaully it was me, my little brother, my best friend & her sister. We were all about 9-6 yrs of age & it petrified us. I can remember to this day ... all I saw was my dad's big'ole white butt all up in the air. We all scammpered back to Angela's house where we tried playing as if nothing had ever happened ... didn't work. Angela's mom said my mom called & I need to go home. Man, talk about the most awkward way to learn about the birds & the bees ... right after you witnessed the whole nature thing happen right before your little eyes! BLECK!!! So, definitely "no" on wanting my kids to hear what's going on & such ... YUK, YUK ... gotta get those pictures outta' my head. Besides even at 30+ I don't care to think or talk about my parents having sex ... maybe it's just me ... but it kinda makes my skin crawl. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tinfoil 0 #7 October 18, 2003 ROFL But at 30+, wouldn't your parents be getting a little old? I mean, during sex there would be loose skin everywhere. Maybe someone's dentures on the night stand, it would be loud to, panting. I do feel sorry for the people who walked in while their parents were having sex, right after I finish laughing at them . As for me, my parents don't do that type of stuff. I was brought by a stork. “- - Sumo is the greatest of sports. It has power, grace, speed and cluture. And most importantly, two fat bastards smacking the shit out of each other. ” Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tinfoil 0 #8 October 18, 2003 Oh wait wait wait! I do have a story of a friend. On vacation with the faimly, three kids, two parents. The parents made the three kids sleep in the same bed, while the parents had sex in the bed beside them. I guess they tried to be quiet, but they kids knew. “- - Sumo is the greatest of sports. It has power, grace, speed and cluture. And most importantly, two fat bastards smacking the shit out of each other. ” Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
taln1rigr 0 #9 October 18, 2003 Oh ... way more information than I needed to know. At least I didn't have to endure the WHOLE act. THANK GOD! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #10 October 18, 2003 QuoteAs for me, my parents don't do that type of stuff. I was brought by a stork. You too, huh? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
juanesky 0 #11 October 18, 2003 Yeah, I walked on mine too, she was screaming, I'coming...my dad was Me too.. SO I decided to give them a welcome hug..got my ass in trouble..."According to some of the conservatives here, it sounds like it's fine to beat your wide - as long as she had it coming." -Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misskriss 0 #12 October 18, 2003 Sometimes we had to be quiet....it could be 3am and I would hear from down the hall....." Would ya'll please be quiet, I'm trying to sleep." woopsie... I don't think they're traumatized too badly... It's not amusing however, when a certain toy starts vibrating on it's own in the bedside drawer and the kid goes to investigate... she screamed in horror before I could stop her from opening the drawer...." MOM... what is it?... it looks like..... like.......like......a penis " That one took some fast thinking.... ohhhhhh....and there was the infamous.." Mommy.....why is there a rope in your bed?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BartsDaddy 7 #13 October 18, 2003 Well after my dad and mom ghot a divorce I lived with my dad in a 27 foot motor home and when my stepmother to be came along I can remember watching the two of them from the top bunk while they were on the couch. He used to walk in on me when I was with my girlfriend too thou. But I dont think I would want to see it with my mom involved. Handguns are only used to fight your way to a good rifle Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChileRelleno 0 #14 October 18, 2003 Having a five year old boy my wife and I are still very affectionate with lots of hug's and kisses and a little groping when in his presence but when its time for some serious shagging we try to be a little discreet. But we aren't going to hide and muzzle each other and we aren't doing it in front of him blatantly either. Kids should know that mommy and daddy love each other and that as they get older kids should know that mommies and daddies make love and thats where babies come from. We've had our son walk in on us while in bed engaged and we were covered so we just stopped and talked with him about what he wanted and said mommie and daddy were sharing hugs and love... No big deal. ChileRelleno-Rodriguez Bro#414 Hellfish#511,MuffBro#3532,AnvilBro#9, D24868 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #15 October 18, 2003 my folks always tried to be quiet... but I distinctly remember hearing them for what seemed like several hours in the middle of the night when I was twelve or so... My bedroom was two rooms down the hallway, and both rooms' doors were closed! So, although I was a rather naive twelve year old, I did understand what was going on... and opened my door, screamed at the top of my lungs "WILL YOU TWO FREAKIN GO RENT A ROOM?! I'M TRYING TO SLEEP! ITS A SCHOOL NIGHT!" The um...unusual noises stopped, and were replaced by the loudest laughter I've ever heard from them. My mom yelled "Sorry! We thought you were asleep!" I shouted back "I was! You woke me up!" Much laughter again. My dad then yelled "Go back to bed, kid!" So I did... and all was quiet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faber 0 #16 October 18, 2003 sex is healthy,if you has a healthy way to say to your kids what it is,they dont borther at all.I dont have sex in front of my kids or other people at all,but if it gets abit noisy and the kids ask what it is then i tell them what it is,and why we do it. then also tell them to not try it before they are 55years.. Stay safe Stefan Faber Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,589 #17 October 18, 2003 Now that's funny Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whocares 0 #18 October 19, 2003 Honesty is the best policy. If ya never tell them about it, or not at a young age ,then they will go out and knock up someone or get knocked uped. Do you talk to your kids about talking to strangers, drugs, etc? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NoShitThereIWas 0 #19 October 19, 2003 Whoooooaahh. Its okay cause: It's the end of the world as we know it ... Sorry, listening to REM. Roy Bacon: "Elvises, light your fires." Sting: "Be yourself no matter what they say." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jtval 0 #20 October 19, 2003 QuoteNow that's funny Wendy W. yes it is! sorry nightingale but I was almost in tears with laughterMy photos My Videos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pammi 0 #21 October 19, 2003 QuoteSometimes we had to be quiet....it could be 3am and I would hear from down the hall....." Would ya'll please be quiet, I'm trying to sleep." woopsie... I don't think they're traumatized too badly... It's not amusing however, when a certain toy starts vibrating on it's own in the bedside drawer and the kid goes to investigate... she screamed in horror before I could stop her from opening the drawer...." MOM... what is it?... it looks like..... like.......like......a penis " That one took some fast thinking.... ohhhhhh....and there was the infamous.." Mommy.....why is there a rope in your bed?" ROFL! Well THAT sounds like our house, although they haven't found any toys or busted in on us yet. They did find the rope once but I don't think they realized it was tied to the bed...I just kicked it back under and pretended I was keeping it under there I wouldn't want the kids to catch us...that'd be sick. And they are 11 and 8, so already asking questions, particularly my older girl. I'm straight up with them about sex and also honest with them about the down sides of it. The cool thing is now my daughter knows she can ask me or tell me anything (I think). She saw something on TV one evening where they mentioned masterbation. She was a little embarrassed but asked me what it was and actually discussed it with me briefly. I'm proud that they can feel okay with asking me those thinks and hope that it will lead to them being honest with me in the future about it. Kids are learning about it so young nowdays! There was a kid in YMCA that was apparently getting very graphic about it who was only in the 2nd grade! NOT the way I want me kids to learn! Anyways, I don't expect to have family porn parties (good gawd!) but they *do* know mom and dad like to 'do it' regularly Pammi Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
