Ok, ladies...please interpret this female-speak for me...

[PhillyKev 0]

Text message conversation with my gf. Bridget, referred to, is a girl I went out with a couple times that she works with....

GF: Bridget said she called you and you acted wierd.
ME: Last I talked to her was over a month ago the night I first took you out.
GF: She says you were acting funny and she thinks I was there when she called.
ME: No idea what she's talking about, I told you about when she called. It was just before I picked you up.
GF: She says you were acting wierd.
ME: You seem upset. You can judge me based on who I am and how I treat you, or based on what she says. It's up to you.

So...please tell me, what is she getting at? If I in fact, did seem wierd to Bridget on the phone, why would that upset my gf? And do you think my last comment was a good response? No reply from her since that.

Just trying to figure out if I should wear body army next time I see her. I can't figure out how women think and have ceased trying. Hoping one of you can fill me in.

[Remster 30]

Thats Karma for you.

You brag about going out drinking with your nudy bar hostess GF and her stipper friends, you get woman problems....

Remster

[McDuck 0]

Dude, I'm not a denuded forest, but I'm totally stumped. Then again, I am male, so maybe I don't have the appropriate translation filter. Sounds to me like some co-conspiring.

Kevin - Sonic Beef #5 - OrFun #28
"I never take myself too seriously, 'cuz everybody know fat birds don't fly." - FLC
Online communities: proof that people never mature much past high school.

[redtwiga 0]

Text messaging is always a horrible way to communicate if there is ANY stress at all. Something comes across as loaded when it's not, or is invariably misperceived. Best to talk in person or, short of that, on the phone. And try to respect her and what she's saying as an individual, not as one of "the women" you can't figure out. If you can't see her except as one of a herd, you maybe shouldn't be going out with her. Just my thoughts...

A.

[Vallerina 2]

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So...please tell me, what is she getting at? If I in fact, did seem wierd to Bridget on the phone, why would that upset my gf?

It seemed like you were a little defensive. She told you what Bridgette said, and you responded with, "I haven't seen her in a month!!!" I guess a better response to her would've been, "What made Bridgette think I was acting weird when I talked to her last month?"

It doesn't seem like your gf has any kind of issue. It seemed like you just got defensive and assumed she had an issue. She just wants to know why you're a weirdo!

There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning

[Michele 1]

GF: Bridget said she called you and you acted wierd.
(Why are you calling Briget? What is going on?)

ME: Last I talked to her was over a month ago the night I first took you out.
GF: She says you were acting funny and she thinks I was there when she called.
( She's being weird. I am not sure what's going on. Did you call her when I was there? If you did, why? Is there something I need to know about?)
ME: No idea what she's talking about, I told you about when she called. It was just before I picked you up.
GF: She says you were acting wierd.
(if I repeat myself, maybe you'll understand what I'm asking...are you seeing her on the side?)
ME: You seem upset. You can judge me based on who I am and how I treat you, or based on what she says. It's up to you.
(unspoken reply... asshole doesn't answer my questions, and maybe he and Briget are seeing each other. I'm in a really bad position right now - believe him or my friend? What do I do? I suppose I won't answer right now...either way, I am going to lose a friend - either him or Briget...I don't want to lose either one...I won't answer. Not yet.)
Or maybe she just had to work, and hasn't had a chance to respond.

Now, Kev, the issue is why didn't you ask her what Briget meant about you being weird? That was the concern...irrespective of if you were being weird or not, Briget is saying you were. Find out what weird is, and then maybe you'll have a direction to go in....

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[mouth 0]

That reply explained it all. Go girl

--
Hot Mama
At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit.

[billvon 3,125]

There are two interpretations to this - what she's saying and what she hears in return. One possible interpretation:

GF: Bridget said she called you and you acted wierd.

Translation: You had this other girlfriend that you interact with in a different way, and she could tell that you were acting weird, and it's really bothering me that she can see part of you that I can't.

ME: Last I talked to her was over a month ago the night I first took you out.

What she heard: (no new information)

GF: She says you were acting funny and she thinks I was there when she called.

Translation: There's a part of you I can't see, AND it looks like maybe you changed when I showed up. Are you _still_ acting funny? Do I only know the acting-funny part of you?

ME: No idea what she's talking about, I told you about when she called. It was just before I picked you up.

What she heard: (no pertinent information)

GF: She says you were acting wierd.

Translation: (pretty much the same)

ME: You seem upset. You can judge me based on who I am and how I treat you, or based on what she says. It's up to you.

What she heard: I don't know what you're talking about, and I'm about to get confrontational.

No judgement on who's right or wrong intended - just applying what I know of how women sometimes interpret things. (And I wouldn't know any of this if I didn't once have this great girlfriend who told me _exactly_ what she was thinking, even if it made no sense at all.)

[freeflybella 0]

Not enough information to interpret.

Your answer seemed appropriate, if not, a bit defensive. But understandably so - wierd thing to text to your boyfirend...

If she's neurotic, best thing is for you to stay neutral, calm - state the facts, be consistent, go with the flow.

If there is a real issue at hand, talk to her in person.

Don't entertain any extra drama ("my friend said..."). Maybe ask yourself if you can have a relationship with someone who communicates 'issues' by text message?


Edited: to say right on, billvon. Pretty fluent in chickspeak.

Action expresses priority. - Mahatma Ghandi

[PhillyKev 0]

ding ding....Michelle wins....sorry Val, thanks for trying though.

At first I thought you were right and I was being defensive, but we just spoke on the phone. I asked what she meant by wierd, she said, I don't know, ask Bridget. I said, what do you think it meant that would prompt you to ask me about it, and she said, maybe you're trying to hide something from me. I asked if she thought I am, she said no, she was just wondering what Bridget meant. I said I have no idea what she meant, maybe you should ask her. Then she had to go and said she'll call me later.

I think my quote below sums it up.....

[Vallerina 2]

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sorry Val, thanks for trying though.

I guess I can't read women either!

There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning

[Blahr 0]

I think you should have opted out after the very first remark from her. Havent you been in enough relationships to recognise the Kobayashi Maru?

Experience tells me that sometimes (especially after a remark like that) you are walking into trouble and you will never understand why nor can it be avoided.
Dont try to understand, put your head down and wait it out

[skymama 37]

I've always thought you were weird anyway so it's really not your fault. You can't help it if you were weird with Bridget and the gf should know that by now.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon