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RoysPlayThing

When a man just can't get over a done relationship!!!

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I have been divorced for a while. My ex used to call and ask me leading questions like "Your son is doing _____ and I think you should speak to him... What? Do you think that is ok?... "

She would try to lure me into a conversation/argument, just to rile me up. I finally answered her questions with "That sounds important, but I don't have time to discuss it right now." Every time, I never had time.

I also got caller ID.

I wanted to get the non-productive drama and chaos out of my life and I succeeded (at least with her). When I see those patterns of behavior now, I avoid it like the plague.

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I'm the same way ... Have been a very hard woman to catch because my avoidance of the same games and sh*t.

Its funny, I think so much like a man when it comes to relationships. Men are always surprised as to the way I treat relationships without hangups and so forth.... It doesn't mean I let them F**k with me, but I don't get all obsessed about it... It they don't want me,.. I move on.... Life is but lessons, and some learn more quickly then others. ;)
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Thankfully, all of my breakups have been complete separations of hearts, minds and lives. I learned what I needed to learn, and now I'm working on keeping my current sweetie happy and sane. B|
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No, don't get mad and don't get even.Get EVERYTHING! The perfect revenge is massive success.



Oh!!!! I like that response!!!!
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No, don't get mad and don't get even.Get EVERYTHING! The perfect revenge is massive success.B|



Actually, perfect revenge would entail massive and total success for YOU and irritable bowel syndrome for THEM. :P
Kevin - Sonic Beef #5 - OrFun #28
"I never take myself too seriously, 'cuz everybody know fat birds don't fly." - FLC
Online communities: proof that people never mature much past high school.

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The best revenge is by living the good life and making sure your tha happiest you can be, that way, whilst the exes are trying to get at you in their pathetic little ways, you dont give a fuck cos your happy and they're not.
I had a messy slipt with my ex about a year ago and within 5 days i was in South Africa learning to skydive, she didnt even know I had left the country until she called my house a week later to 'talk'. So instead of going over the same arguments that follow a breakup I was jumping my ass off, in the sun, drinking cheap cheap beer and living in a city where the girls out number guys to 8-1!!!
Were absolutely fine now, shes got a new boyf and hes a great guy....and erm, I got my rig and we get along just fine!!! yeah ;)

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Its funny, I think so much like a man when it comes to relationships.



It comes down to two things, options and goals. The guy may have different relationship goals with different women. If the relationship is going well, he may wish to deepen it, maybe not.

Relationships are being there for the good and the bad, which brings up options. If there is other people who are pretty much the same, the person has options. If you are the only thing going for them, they can get a little possessive. Instead of earning your attention, they try ownership. Never works.

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and irritable bowel syndrome for THEM.:P



um...ewww!!!:S



What? You're telling me they don't deserve it...sometimes? Maybe? Okay, how about uncontrollable flatulence, so they start to lose friends, employment and cuddle time with their new SO? B|
Kevin - Sonic Beef #5 - OrFun #28
"I never take myself too seriously, 'cuz everybody know fat birds don't fly." - FLC
Online communities: proof that people never mature much past high school.

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What? You're telling me they don't deserve it...sometimes? Maybe? Okay, how about uncontrollable flatulence, so they start to lose friends, employment and cuddle time with their new SO?



I admit a nice big batch of Exlax brownies sent to them from an anonymous person has crossed my mind, but I wouldn't do it.I'd much rather them know I'm doing well and for them to be remorseful/regret the way things turned out between us.


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There are events with the other person that people are angry about. When you spend a lot of time thinking about them, you spend a lot of time re-living that anger.

If I didn't enjoy the events the first time, then I don't want to spend any more time re-living them.

People (even my ex's relatives) have told me what a loon she is. I made some bad decisions that I have learned from.

Now I focus on the good decisions. I have improved my health, have great friends, a better career, a better day-to-day experience.

People should remove the other person from their life and focus on the good events that are currently going on. That is what I think about.

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