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[pleifer 0]

So I need some advice,
I'll try to keep it short and too the point
This girl and I dated for over 7 months, she just broke up with me over the phone. (the short version.)
I don't understand why, things have changed we are both college students, which the summer was sooo incredible with her, we were almost inseperable. but come back to school we have stress. neither of us delt with it well (ie depression) but we manage.
We started to live together at the begining of the term but the dynamics were too much with the room mate and her needing space. I'm very understanding when it comes to anything and very laid back. but she feels held back. which i don't understand cause she is a free woman she can do anything she wants. what i'm afraid is, that it is somebody else, I know this so please don't rub it in. But if it is not, how do I go on? I don't know what to do. So many questions. when all I want to do is hold her and kiss her forhead. Any advice, vibes or laughs would be greatly appreaciated right know, I feel so lost.
sorry for the long post

edited by skymama to delete the name of the girl out since she is a dz.commer. She may not want her personal business on the forums. Let's respect each other's privacy.

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[kansasskydiver 0]

dude all i can say is (((((((((((vibes))))))))))))) i've gone thru a similar situation. i'm taking it you're around my age too if you're in college and well we're still young right? i'll buy ya a drink when i see ya, if you want to talk mano a mano pm me and we can bitch about our experiences or something

blues

chris

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[Unstable 9]

Just to let you know man, I was in almost the same situation less than a month ago. Sometime I'll have to post my story about what happened, it was a real shocker.

Well, if you really want some opinions here, let me give you my .02

You sound like from your post like you are emotionally mature and ready for a stable relationship. Just because we are all in college, doesn't mean that we are all adults. I've learned that the hard way. Individual stress puts a test on a relationship, and in some cases, it drives a wedge between couples that are unable to work together. Take this as a sign that she was not ready for an emotionally mature, steady relationship. Take it from me, you deserve, and you can do better than that.

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[RkyMtnHigh 0]

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So I need some advice,
I'll try to keep it short and too the point
This girl and I (divingduck on here) dated for over 7 months, she just broke up with me over the phone. (the short version.)
I don't understand why, things have changed we are both college students, which the summer was sooo incredible with her, we were almost inseperable. but come back to school we have stress. neither of us delt with it well (ie depression) but we manage.
We started to live together at the begining of the term but the dynamics were too much with the room mate and her needing space. I'm very understanding when it comes to anything and very laid back. but she feels held back. which i don't understand cause she is a free woman she can do anything she wants. what i'm afraid is, that it is somebody else, I know this so please don't rub it in. But if it is not, how do I go on? I don't know what to do. So many questions. when all I want to do is hold her and kiss her forhead. Any advice, vibes or laughs would be greatly appreaciated right know, I feel so lost.
sorry for the long post

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My 2 cents...not that they matter, but sounds like you got wrapped up in all of the hoopla and moved in together too fast..moved everything too fast! and with one ready to take it to the next level and the other not, there's your disconnect! The one "not ready" will surely back off from the other in that situation! Don't move so fast or smother..be in tune/connect with where the other is and slow down! I've been on the other side of this one!

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[pleifer 0]

My 2 cents...not that they matter, but sounds like you got wrapped up in all of the hoopla and moved in together too fast..moved everything too fast! and with one ready to take it to the next level and the other not, there's your disconnect! The one "not ready" will surely back off from the other in that situation! Don't move so fast or smother..be in tune/connect with where the other is and slow down! I've been on the other side of this one!

[Squeak 17]

not to put a donwer on things but do you think it's wise to air your relationship (by naming her) online here without her permission

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[WrongWay 0]

Well, it could have been a lot of things. First of all, perhaps you did move in together too fast, but if she lived with you all summer, I doubt it was that. Second, I agree, college can be stressful, especially when mixed with everyday life stuff. The trick to that is being there for each other instead of pushing each other away. And for the worst part, the idea of it being someone else. If it isn't, good, it might be salvagable, but I don't know the full details. But I'll tell you this now, if it IS someone else, DON'T GO BACK. If it happened once, it'll happen again, and even if it doesn't, it could take years to get over. Trust me, bad idea. Just my .02, if you wanna chat PM me.

Oh, by the way, ending it over the phone? I think that alone proves that you were the mature one in the relationship, at least you had the balls to come out and talk about it, and she could have said it to your face if she wanted out. That's pretty harsh bro, and from what I read here, you don't deserve that, and surely could do better.

Once again, if you feel like getting this stuff off your chest, PM me pal.

Wrong Way
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not to put a donwer on things but do you think it's wise to air your relationship (by naming her) online here without her permission

Ditto

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[pleifer 0]

we posted some stuff her and i were it was pretty obvious that we we together. so No I don't think it was bad, hell she posted my real name to some of her message boards. Plus I went to delete it just so it was'nt an issue and I can't.

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