Shotgun 1 #1 January 12, 2004 Oh, I would love to elaborate... but I can't. Anyhow, this passive-aggressive crap is just SO infuriating! As a friend I want to be helpful, but as another human being it is just painful and offensive. Sorry, just had to vent... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #2 January 12, 2004 When I am in a really calm mood and tolerant of thier passive aggrissiveness I usually confront them. If anything it makes them think. HeatherLife doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #3 January 12, 2004 Unfortunately, I'm rarely in a really calm mood... I'm probably not the best person to be helping them with it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FliegendeWolf 0 #4 January 12, 2004 QuoteWhen I am in a really calm mood and tolerant of thier passive aggrissiveness I usually confront them. If anything it makes them think. Heather How so? I'm curious to hear how that works. A One that Isn't Cold is Scarcely a One at All Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #5 January 12, 2004 That might be a good thing to tell them. I have often times walked away from situations I knew I couldn't handle. It depends on your relationship with the person and how you think it will affect them but saying this is over my head doesn't mean you are giving up just means you care about them enough to know what you can do for him/her. Hope this helps. HeatherLife doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FallRate 0 #6 January 12, 2004 P/A types rarely expect a swift kick in the ass. It might work. FallRate Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #7 January 12, 2004 When dealing with kids (who I normally deal with) they usually know exactly what they are doing. If they don't then thier passive aggressiveness stems from the fact that they do not have a clue as to what to do with the situation. In all situations I have given the kids options and time. If the situation is too emotional for me to handle then I tell the person (usually not a child, but sometimes depending on my relationship with that child I have stepped away). Giving the person options usually gives them a choice and the person can make a decison for themself. Giving the person time to think is important in case the person doesn't know how to deal with the situation. I always put boundrys on how long I will wait and ask the person if he/she feels that is fair. This by no means is a cure all for everyone, just my personal experience. HeatherLife doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LouDiamond 1 #8 January 12, 2004 I vote for the swift kick in the ass technique too."It's just skydiving..additional drama is not required" Some people dream about flying, I live my dream SKYMONKEY PUBLISHING Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sdgregory 0 #9 January 12, 2004 I am afraid I never really took the time to understand what the definition of passive agressive is. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #10 January 12, 2004 Someone who aggressivly doesn't do what they are expected to (in one case). The boy who doesn't do his homework so instead of discussing solutions with teacher/parents just continues to not do anything but knows there will be consequences and fears the consequences.Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FallRate 0 #11 January 12, 2004 Say, a wife complains to her husband about him leaving the toilet seat up. A passive-aggressive husband may elect to remove the toilet seat completely in order to solve the problem. "But, Honey, if there is no seat, I can't leave it up." FallRate Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmatousek 0 #12 January 12, 2004 Life doesn't have to be perfect in order to be beautiful! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #13 January 12, 2004 Why can't you say?www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
beej 0 #14 January 12, 2004 is this like... when my wife once complained at me for forgetting the toilet paper from walmart..i went back and purchased 2 carts full of the stuff :) ---------------------------------------------------- If the shit fits - wear it (blues brothers)-- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
