AndyMan 7 #1 February 3, 2004 This years Valentines day discussion came up tonight, and craichead said to me "Andy, you know I don't buy into those things. I don't want you to do anything this year". Is this a trap? Is it the proverbial "do I look fat" question? Is it possible for there to be a positive outcome? Last year she said "I don't want nothin", so I brought flowers, and things were good. This year she says "I don't want nothin - so don't bring me no flowers", and I'm worried. What should I do? _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
downwardspiral 0 #2 February 3, 2004 sounds like she wants you to get creative and make an effort. its so easy man....come on think!www.FourWheelerHB.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
craichead 0 #3 February 3, 2004 As Andy's wife, I have to clarify what I said because in true husband form, he didn't listen! I said that he didn't have to get/buy me anything. Yes, last year he brought home roses. While this was a sweet gesture, and I expressed it as so a year ago, I don't really care for roses on Valentine's Day. In my opinion, Valentine's Day is contrived, and everything associated with the "holiday" is contrived. So, this year, I say, "Don't get me anything. Don't buy me roses." I promised that he wouldn't end up in the dog house if he showed up on Valentine's Day empty-handed. I even gave him permission to create a DZ.com poll about it. _Pm__ "Scared of love, love and aeroplanes...falling out, I said takes no brains." -- Andy Partridge (XTC) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydyvr 0 #4 February 3, 2004 Andy, get her some nice flowers and tell her you just couldn't stop yourself. And Craichead, don't read this, thanks. . . =(_8^(1) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveNFlorida 0 #5 February 3, 2004 Dunno, I mean, on one hand, she's here saying don't buy her anything. But, on the other hand, when your friends and family are all getting gifts, flowers, cards, chocolates, it sucks to feel left out. While I do think that it's a ridiculous holiday that is meant to eat away at the consumers xtra cash.... it is always nice to get something so that when your girlfriends ask you what you got for valentine's day.. you can say "My wonderful boyfriend/husband brought me this, or took me here ... " . :) I say get her a card, or take her to dinner. Let her know you care. This way, you're not really ignoring her request that you don't get anything for her... yet still you are letting her know how special she is to you:) Angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #6 February 3, 2004 Andy, Andy, Andy... if she says she doesn't want anything she means it. My suggestion would be to forego cards and/or gifts and instead plan a special day for the two of you on Saturday... y'know, one of those days you don't bother to put clothes on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MagicLou 0 #7 February 3, 2004 QuoteSo, this year, I say, "Don't get me anything. Don't buy me roses." I promised that he wouldn't end up in the dog house if he showed up on Valentine's Day empty-handed. I even gave him permission to create a DZ.com poll about it. Nice conversational Land Mine ! It's right up there with the other things women do to screw with guy's rational thought ([Homer Voice]D'oh ! She said not to get anything, so, I didn't get her anything.[/Homer Voice] Not that she won't remember till the end of time and remind me about it whenever convenient.) You know the things like "Does this Jump Suit make me look fat ?" or "Do you think my Fall Rate has increased?" The smart move is do something completely out of character (also really nice) for you. The pitfall is that she may come to expect you to be more spontaneous all the time. Oh well drastic times (Valentine's Day) call for drastic measures.Lou ___________________________________ . . . now you see that evil will always triumph because good is dumb - Dark Helmet Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dagny 0 #8 February 3, 2004 QuoteI don't really care for roses on Valentine's Day. Not to hijack the thread, but can I just say amen to that? I love flowers, roses are beautiful. BUT, on Valentine's day, I don't want them. It makes me mad that there is such a ridiculous mark up on the flowers and they always seem to die within a day or two of me receiving them. I appreciate the thoughtfulness, but I would rather not see my man getting hit so hard in the wallet for roses on v-day. That being said...I have said it's not necessary to buy me anything, but I do like being remembered on v-day. It doesn't have to cost much of anything either. A card, a special song, some good company over dinner, a nice night spent together...something like that would make me happy. Now since craichead said no...promised the earth will continue moving along without disruption if you don't buy anything, well, i'd take her word for it, man. There are different ways to show that you love someone. Time to get creative! Take me, I am the drug; take me, I am hallucinogenic. -Salvador Dali Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Unstable 9 #9 February 3, 2004 QuoteWhat should I do? Trust me - this is a trap. I've been a floral Salesman for over 5 years - I have learned a thing or two about Vday. Suprise her, dont' spend more than $50, just something random, tasteful, elegant. Whats the worst that could happen???=========Shaun ========== Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flygirl03 0 #10 February 3, 2004 craichead cover your eyes AndyMan.. don't get her anything for Valentine's day.... (ok, maybe a card ) Instead surprise her another day when she least expects it, with roses, dinner.... etc ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ earthbound misfit Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
champu 1 #11 February 3, 2004 Shopping List... -One bottle of red wine -Two steaks -One bottle of massage oil -One box of condoms Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #12 February 3, 2004 Quote My suggestion would be to forego cards and/or gifts and instead plan a special day for the two of you on Saturday... y'know, one of those days you don't bother to put clothes on. I'm with Skybytch on this. There's nothing better then locking out the rest of the world and spending a good solid chunk of day/night focusing on the one you love. I don't mean taking them out and buying things for them or spending loads of cash on some elaborate dinner. I mean touching, holding, rubbing, feeling them. Talk. Hold. Just love. Just make each other feel how much you care for each other. Both of you. Ignore the phone. Don't turn on the TV or the computer to post whore. Just curl up together and do what you used to do when you first met and couldn't get enough touches... Do that for hours. Sit close and massage each others arms, legs, talk. Whisper. Make the person you're with feel how much they are loved. If you're the person feeling loved then make the other one feel it back. That's so important. Don't just take. Give too. Flowers should be bought randomly. Not because they have to be bought. I don't want flowers because some holiday makes the guy I'm with buy them. I'd much rather get them out of the blue, just because or on a day I'm feeling down. rant over... -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dagny 0 #13 February 3, 2004 QuoteShopping List... -One bottle of red wine -Two steaks -One bottle of massage oil -One box of condoms -Candles -Bubble bath -CD of sexy music Take me, I am the drug; take me, I am hallucinogenic. -Salvador Dali Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #14 February 3, 2004 QuoteAndy, Andy, Andy... if she says she doesn't want anything she means it. My suggestion would be to forego cards and/or gifts and instead plan a special day for the two of you on Saturday... y'know, one of those days you don't bother to put clothes on. My thoughts exactly! ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #15 February 3, 2004 I agree with girlfalldown on this.... That is just the kind of Vallentine's I would enjoy, and no need to buy flowers if you can just pick them from somewhere, just preferably not out of someone elses garden. .... Just bring a big wet passionate kiss, and lots of warms hugs... that'll do the trick. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jimmytavino 16 #16 February 3, 2004 account balance @ the dz...is a due to your love of her.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
samhussey 0 #17 February 3, 2004 Why wait til Valentines day to make a special gesture? Any day is as good as another to tell someone how much you care. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #18 February 3, 2004 First of all...it's IMPOSSIBLE to please a woman, there's always SOMETHING wrong, you should know that, and in tis case is the TYPICAL example of: READ MY MIND. __________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AndyMan 7 #19 February 3, 2004 Quoteits so easy man....come on think! Ok, so maybe something like this? http://www.salon.com/mwt/wire/2004/02/03/valentine/index.html. In all seriousness though, a bearded dragon does sound interesting... From the AP: Cockroaches suggested as valentine gifts. Feb. 3, 2004 | BINGHAMTON, N.Y. (AP) -- Looking for a little something special for your valentine? How about a hissing cockroach? That's the suggestion from the folks at the Ross Park Zoo in Binghamton, N.Y. The zoo is running a Valentine's Day adoption program called "Give Your Beauty a Beast." For ten bucks, you can adopt a hissing cockroach for your sweetheart. The adoption includes a photo, cockroach fact sheet and a free pass for your special friend to visit the little hisser. If a roach doesn't say "I love you," the zoo has some romantic alternatives. There's a bearded dragon, a black vulture and a bleeding heart dove. _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #20 February 3, 2004 Don't buy a card - they're stupid, don't buy flowers - they die & are stupid, don't buy chocolates - they just get thrown away also. Do that skybytch idea, or ... I have some other ideas, I'll PM. But do something, if not just the greatest kiss of her life. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zeemax 0 #21 February 3, 2004 Quotey'know, one of those days you don't bother to put clothes on you mean weekdays?Phoenix Fly - High performance wingsuits for skydiving and BASE Performance Designs - Simply brilliant canopies Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misskriss 0 #22 February 3, 2004 QuoteDon't buy a card - they're stupid, don't buy flowers - they die & are stupid, don't buy chocolates - they just get thrown away also. I love cards, flowers and chocolates.. I have saved a flower or rose(press them usually) out of bouqets I've received and I'll keep them forever. Also, I save and keep forever the cards that my love would give to me...and the chocolates.. I eat them....and share them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #23 February 3, 2004 Wow, you must have a lot of flowers & cards then.... I understand keeping some, but after a while, guess I'm just not that sentimental. I use to keep them, but the dried flowers started to break, the cards got to be too many & I didn't read them again, chocolates can be had anytime. I guess I was being base calling them stupid, but I don't like conventional gifts. I'm happy to get anything, but would prefer something that lasts - or that the memory of will last. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misskriss 0 #24 February 3, 2004 QuoteWow, you must have a lot of flowers & cards then LOL.....I do. I am sentimental. About once a year I go through everything.. I'm happy to get anything as well. It's the thought that counts and honest to God, i'm just as happy with a single rose as I am with a dozen. I can say though that I might not be thrilled about getting an appliance for Valentine's Day.. unless it vibrates of course.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #25 February 3, 2004 Quotethat I might not be thrilled about getting an appliance for Valentine's Day.. unless it vibrates of course heck yah!! But I don't think AM & Criac need help in that area - they could give us advice There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
