Need education advice for daughter

[skipro101 0]

Make sure she knows that employers will see that she spent half of her college educaiton at a comunity college. it matters.

Employers see transcripts...

[DTOXX 0]

Printing now.

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D.T. Holder
SIMstudy

[wmw999 2,589]

Well, I know you've printed, but I'll add mine too.

My advice is to remember that if she doesn't make it into college at 18 and out at 22 with a job that can turn into a career, the world will not stop turning on its axis. On the other hand, her current path isn't great either.

If there's something that motivates her (a sport, theater, whatever), then encourage that; the self-confidence she gets may just bolster her willingness to do high school. In other words, if she does her work (i.e. school), then she gets a bonus (i.e. extra cooperation in the late hours of theater, or really good skates if she's a skater, etc). That ties it to pay-for-performance in something that she thinks is important. Grounding in our case just bred resentment, and no real improvement. I used that kind of thing for behavior problems more than for school problems. But he did have to finish summer school before we went on a vacation one year, and he KNEW I'd blow off the vacation if he hadn't finished on time. Boy that worked!

My son decided about halfway through his junior year that maybe high school was necessary after all; fortunately, he hadn't blown everything, but there was some definite catch-up to play. But by then, he realized that his work was his responsibility. It was the most valuable thing he learned in high school.

Make sure she knows you love her; make sure she knows there are many paths to an end, but that you want the easier and more possible ones for her. There are CEOs who dropped out of high school, but very few of them, and she's much more likely to get there if she's on the list of people they don't have to make exceptions for.

I like the idea of having her get a crappy job to pay for the things that you pay for now. You owe her food and appropriate clothing; the rest is gravy, and if she wants it, she can either work for it at school or at McDonald's.

Then make sure she knows you love her again. Good luck, and then go do something that makes you relax, because you need it too.

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

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