goinskydiving 0 #1 March 2, 2004 Just had this stupid argument with my girlfriend and now she wont talk to me.... I cannot understand women...we all argue and stupid things are said and then thats it....But I love this women...she loves me... I`ve said I`m sorry but she isn`t having any of it... help Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vt1977 0 #2 March 2, 2004 Simple question – what was the argument about? Do you think she perceives that you’ve done something wrong? Vicki Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
goinskydiving 0 #3 March 2, 2004 just difference of opinion...nothing major...infact bloody stupid really...harsh words were said...it was over in 20 seconds... how do I make her see Im sorry Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vt1977 0 #4 March 2, 2004 Well, if it's definitely something minor... a nice bouquet of flowers sent to her at work should do the trick, together with a card saying how sorry you are and offering to take her out for dinner. Vicki Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #5 March 2, 2004 Do something really dorky while declaring your love to her, and tell her that you're not going to stop until she forgives you for being such an ass. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #6 March 2, 2004 Sometimes sorry isn't enough - especially if it's a repeat offense. Sit down and talk to her when you're in a good mood and discuss your relationship and what the issues are - and make sure that she feels comfortable in telling you what the problems are and doesn't feel like you will attack her when she says what she feels. Keep yourself open to what she has to say and openly discuss what is going on with you as well. You may not like what you hear, but you have to listen and understand. (NOTE: Understand does not equal agree.) If you want the relationship to work, you MUST keep the lines of communication open. "I'm sorry" does need to be said when there is a screw up, but what will have her believing you really are sorry is by your actions. Once "I'm sorry" is said...do your actions follow your words? If you say you're going to do "x" when a situation arises, do you do it? Or do you do your usual "y"? Good luck. I wish you the best. Hopefully by talking to her and keeping the lines of communication open and showing her that you're trying (and do try if she means that much to you), you will be able to work it out.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefalle 0 #7 March 2, 2004 Its kind of funny, each of the post above indicate that you need to "say your sorry and do something nice" Why does it seem its always the mans responibility it "make things right again" regardless of the reason for the fight, you and your girlfriend are entilted to your opinions. You BOTH need to respect eachother and some times that means agreeing to disagree. If she can respect your opinion and your right to voice your opinion you should fire her. One the other had you need to respect her, if your acting like an asshat eventually, shell fire you. Good luck and dont piss on any electrical wires Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #8 March 2, 2004 If the Drama seems endless and unjustified. There is nothing you can do. Next red light, just put the car in Park and run ! If this is the first time this has happened, there might be hope. on the bright side , silence is better than the oppisite reaction. But we all know how you feel. Thing is.... we can't help ya bro.Take all of your advice from the women here. All 100 different options/solutions/ideas they give ya. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #9 March 2, 2004 QuoteIts kind of funny, each of the post above indicate that you need to "say your sorry and do something nice" Why does it seem its always the mans responibility it "make things right again" Because he's a man, i.e. wrong. Next silly question. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
goinskydiving 0 #10 March 2, 2004 I took her to work and we spoke little...she was still angry with me and was sticking by her guns... But I can see she is sad by what has happened and has too much pride to let it go,even though I shoulder all the blame...many tears were shed but little movement forward...I hope this is not the end... Tonight I will try and get her to come around when I cook for her.... She`s worth every effort,a beautiful person.....as I will have to leave for Europe if she doesn`t accept my apology. Thanks you guys for the advice,it helps me see through the fog that surrounds me ... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kid_Icarus 0 #11 March 2, 2004 Arguments are tough. I read once the magic question....what women really want... and it never occured to me to think of it like this, but (what I read) women really want is..... to be in charge of thier own life. seems remarkably simple...i still don't get women... ________________________________________ "What What..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #12 March 2, 2004 QuoteArguments are tough. I read once the magic question....what women really want... and it never occured to me to think of it like this, but (what I read) women really want is..... to be in charge of thier own life. seems remarkably simple...i still don't get women... Yes, it is amazing. Once you get to know them, women are almost exactly like people. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH 0 #13 March 2, 2004 QuoteOnce you get to know them, women are almost exactly like people It's true though. I had an arguement w/ my b/f a bit back. We talked it through, he apologized for his actions, I apologized for my reaction. Then we went out & he was the designated driver this time so I got TRASHED. He was trying to be really really nice to me, I wouldn't let him (stupid pride) & told him "to bug off cause I was just gonna be mad for a bit longer". Silly, I know, but by the end of the night we were back to normal. After talking things through & making sure you will follow up on any promises. I think one thing here, is that since women tend to feel things & think things through a bit more deeply (again this in not true in every case of women or men) - it takes us a bit longer to correct our balance & get the issue sorted out on the inside.... just a thought & my silly 2cents worth. There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear. PMS #227 (just like the TV show) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pleifer 0 #14 March 2, 2004 my $.02 is that remember for next time Don't get into the argument in the first place... before you act... think... is this going to matter in a year? How about tomorrow? what about in five minutes.... let that be your gauge... as far as this jam..... Skymamas advice usualy works for me _________________________________________ The Angel of Duh has spoke Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #15 March 2, 2004 Quote& told him "to bug off cause I was just gonna be mad for a bit longer". You just wanted to vent a little longer. The key to keeping the build-up pressure low is her girlfriends. They go out to lunch together and talk. 1st 15 minutes - stuff from work. Next 30 minutes - the stupid things that their SOs do and how much it pisses them off. The last 15 minutes - the balancing. "Yeah, he does stupid stuff, but that doesn't matter because he also...." and they talk about how great he is on the other stuff. End result? Venting over piddly stuff done. Reinforcement of positive attributes. Assessment of relationship as good overall. Guys should send their g/fs over to Bennigans for dinner once a month and let them get polluted with their friends. Then they come home smiling. Personal theory. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
