Viking 0 #1 October 3, 2001 Have you ever met a girl that just makes you smile for no reason what so ever?? There is a girl in my Creative Photography class that pretty damn fine and she is always smiling at me and talking and asking questions and stuff. I always look forward to going to class b/c i know she is there and when she isn't it just drags me down for the rest of the day!! man i wish i wasn't so damn shy i might actually try to ask her out.........I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Albatross 0 #2 October 3, 2001 Just ask her out! what is the worse she can say... NO and you are in the same placeGod bless us and God Bless AmericaAlbatross Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #3 October 3, 2001 Thats exactly my problem in my 21 years i have been on like two or three dates!! (stop laughing chris!!{mad}) so needless to say i don't even know how to start. And i don't take rejection very well so her saying no would supper suck ass. I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkymonkeyONE 4 #4 October 3, 2001 QuoteI don't know what to say...Tell her you want to EAT THAT THANG!Chuck"I'd rather have a bottle in front of me than a frontal lobotomy" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freaksister 0 #5 October 3, 2001 Chuck...great advice!! hahahaha ROFLMAOI love your sig line by the way...heheThe Freak KittyI lust for the ultimate rush... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #6 October 3, 2001 Viking, dude!You jump out of airplanes, for pete's sake. Make it something simple, like meeting her for coffee after class, or something. Or making a photography date. Find out if she likes to shoot sunsets, and then make a plan to go to the beach and shoot sunsets together. Or trees. Or cars along the highway. Or headstones in graveyards in Old San Diego.Conversation will go like this:You: I wanted to go take some pix of pink elephants. Wanna come?Cutie: Hey, that'd be fun.You: O.K., how about Sunday? Cutie: SureYou: What time's good for you?Cutie: 3 in the afternoon.YOu: Great. Let's trade numbers, and we'll talk on Friday, o.k.?Cutie: Sure. Then you both go and have a blast taking photos of pink elephants. Then, go grab a bite to eat somewhere. There's your date. You're a good looking guy, and you're a nice one, at that. So get over it already, and ask her out. She'll say yes.Ciels-Michele"What of the dreams that never die? Turn to your left at the end of the sky". ~e e cummings~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #7 October 4, 2001 dude,go for it like michele said!!! i had the same thing happen to me...i happend tp pick up on the fact that my girl liked to bowl, so i sked if she wanted to go bowling... don't tell anyone but, if you take the time to ask a girl out, more often than not she will say yes...(this doesn't work in bars as most of the girls have been harased by drunk guys all night and will not be as likley to say yes.)"up my noooossseee"- wingnut, at first euro dz.com boogie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Schroeder 0 #8 October 4, 2001 Lets find the hint:blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blahand she is always smiling at me and talking and asking questions and stuffblah blah blah blah blah blah blah blahI went every weekend to this pool hall across the street from where I lived, and there was this absolutely gorgeous young lady working there, hourglass figure, long dark hair, big dark eyes, beautiful smile. After a while of going there, she got to know what I liked (tea and the newspaper, while I was waiting for a table) (I'm 21). Eventually, when I'd go in, she'd just come over with the tea and paper. So I started talking to her a little more, and weeks later I was at the point where I'd shoot a few games with her when she had 5 minutes to spare.This girl had everything. She could play, she was in a band, she was a industrial design student, it just kept getting better. Then I got a job offer to move away, and I took it, I just went. No time to say good bye. In retrospect, I missed out big time, because I was too chicken.But this story's not over.I went back on holiday's last week. I went back to the pool hall (like 8 months later), just to see in she was there. She was. She asked me where I had run off too, and how things were, and how work was, and we talked and caught up and everything was great. As I left the hall, I got her email address, and told her I'd write her. I said I'd be back in the spring.I quit my job the other day (nothing to do with her)(that'd make me look crazy) and in 2 weeks, I'll be back down in that city, and I'll go in, and I'll take her out for coffee, for anything, I just know I wont run the risk of missing out on potential like that again.So man, if this girl girl makes you feel that good, and that sad when you don't see her, consider what it'd be like knowing (and having to live with) the idea that you probably missed out big-time. Go, ask her out, be confident, and let me know how it goes. I'll try to follow my advice and conviction when I get back to the city. I'll do it if you do it.....Good luck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #9 October 4, 2001 That's so sweet. Girls dream about finding a guy to feel that way about them. Ask her out. Sounds like there is definately potential there. Let us know how it goes!!Cowboy take me away. Fly this girl as high as you can into the wildblue ~ Dixie Chicks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FallinWoman 1 #10 October 4, 2001 What if this girl is telling her friends, "There is this really cute guy in my photography class. Just seeing him makes me smile!! I am kinda worrieed that he doesn't like me or isn't interested because he doesn't talk a whole lot and he had yet to ask me out!"Just a thought...there is one way to find out.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Spectrejumper 0 #11 October 4, 2001 I feel your pain man. I also have something of a shyness problem myself when it comes to women. But I have to agree with the other replies, just ask her out. I wish I hadn't passed up so many possible opportunities when I was younger. Not that I'm old now (turned 30 yesterday), but I rarely meet interesting single women these days. I really wish there were more single female jumpers at my DZ. Oh well, they say love comes along when you least expect it. It just seems like I haven't been expecting it for an awfully long time. :-)Mike D-23312"It's such a shame to spend your time away like this...existing." JMH Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #12 October 4, 2001 Viking-I agree with everyone else....ask her out! She isn't smiling at you for nothing! She's probably saying to herself, "now, what am I going to ask him today, to get him to start talking to me?" Don't wait too long, she may think you don't like her, and give up!AndreaThe brave may not live forever, but the timid may not live at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Spectrejumper 0 #13 October 4, 2001 Whew, the door has been opened for me to ask a question that has been mystifying me (and probably most other guys) for years. If Andrea's theory is correct, why doesn't this girl just ask him out if she's interested??? It almost always ends up being the guy's responsibility to do the asking. Mike D-23312"It's such a shame to spend your time away like this...existing." JMH Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #14 October 4, 2001 Thanx for all advice guys. i have never been sure of myself around cute girls, i turn into a big slush ball. its so hard for me to calm down and be my usual self. The last time this happened was back when i went to Europe and by pure chance got paired with a group from New York. In that group were these three girls We made friends almost right away and spent the week long trip together. I even spent two nights in there room at there request. the last night they made me take one of the beds instead of the floor. Then when the trip over i found out that Jen (the one on the left) was transfering to Tulane University in New Orleans. I lived just an hour away and visited her many times but my shyness kept me from making it more than a friendship. That fear rejection is somthing that will take a while to get over. I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #15 October 4, 2001 Spectrejumper tradition is a powerfull thing man I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
homer 0 #16 October 4, 2001 I've only got one nut and its big enough to ask the girl out. Take her to the pack shed and knock her stockings off. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MarkM 0 #17 October 4, 2001 QuoteAnd i don't take rejection very well so her saying no would supper suck ass. In the words of Homer Simpson to his son: "Don't try. Trying can lead to failure."Personally, I intend a long life full of failures.Figure how you're gonna play your life, then just DO it. You want this girl? TAKE her, she's right there man. Nobody but you is can stop you if it's what you want.Remember your first jump? What was harder, leaving the plane or getting on it in the first place?That's the metaphor for all life baby. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #18 October 4, 2001 First of all, don't listen to Homer! Ok, I'll admit that I'm kind of a flirt. When I want a guy to notice me, guess what I do Viking? I smile a lot,and ask him a lot of questions, because, let's face it, guys like to talk about themselves! So, I'm telling you, she's giving you all the signs you need. If you get rejected, I will be VERY surprised! There is that long shot that she could be using you to help her get a better grade in the class, but if she's that kind of chick, you don't want her anyway.Now, why do the guys have to do it? Just because! That's the way it's always been, and that's the way it will always be for the most part. I wouldn't have a problem making the first move, but I'm a skydiving chick, so I believe I can do anything now! Just think of it as a balance of the sexes...we have to have babies, you have to make the first step. The pain is equal! As far as the fear of rejection goes, you guys, I swear it gets easier the more times you do it. I know this, not from asking a buch of guys out, but because I've had a bunch of sales jobs. You just ask, and if it doesn't work out, move on to the next girl. No big deal. What's the worst thing she could do? She could say no, that's it...it's not like she's going to put a gun to your head! And, if she does say no, just think that it wasn't meant to be, and she wasn't really the right girl for you.So, the weekend is coming, you guys! Find a girl, ask her out and let us know how it went!AndreaThe brave may not live forever, but the timid may not live at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #19 October 4, 2001 Well.... not many people (only 3, now all of DZ.com) know the story about how I got into this wonderful sport. I was working at this horrible job and this new girl caught my eye, after hanging out on our lunch breaks and stuff we eventually started to hang out just after work and then every couple of weekends. At this stage of my life I was really shy and would never talk to anyone, I'm not like that anymore, I know that I missed a really great girl but at least I feel better knowing I tried..... If I never had tried who knows if I would have ever decided to try "just one jump".....Dude, give it a shot at the least......Be safe, be smooth, be fast..... and most importantly.... be phree Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Viking 0 #20 October 4, 2001 theres an idea i will ask her if she has ever wanted to go skydiving and if so if she wouldn't mind if i came along for her first jump!!! I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Albatross 0 #21 October 4, 2001 O.K. My friend. Don't complicate things. 1. Start talking to her SOON the opportunity is like a plane it is there for a little while but it will leave with out you. This results in you having a bunch of female friends and no dates. 2. Talk about what you know that you have in common: Photography.Show her your recent work. Ask a question about the composition. ASK HER OPINION. If she wants to make something of it she will feed the conversation. Show her a bunch of things over a few classes(1 or 2) and see what she reacts to and then take the information and act on it. Failure is only the first step to success.God bless us and God Bless AmericaAlbatross Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Viking 0 #22 October 4, 2001 dude i won't be able to see her until maybe this coming monday unless she comes in to develope some film. Jesus i feel like a fucking stalker I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites 3fLiEr 0 #23 October 4, 2001 Dont worry man......... shes only human........ I mean you plummet to earth at between 120mph & 200mph come on put things in perspective - it wont kill ya....... just make sure from the start she is aware of what comes first - I have been out with "the perfect women" who ask me to give up jumping!!!! --- ha ha ha ............... whatcha reckon i said to that!!!be honest from the start and they should have no reason to moan later when you take off every weekend and dont phone them............. first love - skydiving - second love - the relationship that runs Mon - Thurs (unless you have time off then you go to the DZ!!!)If loneliness is the price of freedom - then so be it!BSBD"Go hard, fast & WayLow" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Viking 0 #24 October 4, 2001 oh trust me if she doesn't want to skydive she is gone!!! but she seems like the type that would have no problem with me jumping.....i hopeI swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites FreeflyPlaymate 0 #25 October 4, 2001 Viking,I think that is so adorable that you are verbalizing how you feel. I can totally relate, stopping by in places just to get a glimpse of that person. No one ever seems to believe me when I say that I am a very shy person. I can flirt with everyone I do actually lol, alot I think it's fun, but it's so easy because I'm not head over heals for them. When I am I'm shy and nervous, and blush alot...basically I'm the butt of all of it lol I'm like a total schoolgirl, and it's like my first crush. The point it that she may be feeling the same, or she may not, but how are you ever going to know unless you jump? **BLUE ONES** BITE ME.... :P Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 5 Next Page 1 of 5 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
Viking 0 #20 October 4, 2001 theres an idea i will ask her if she has ever wanted to go skydiving and if so if she wouldn't mind if i came along for her first jump!!! I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Albatross 0 #21 October 4, 2001 O.K. My friend. Don't complicate things. 1. Start talking to her SOON the opportunity is like a plane it is there for a little while but it will leave with out you. This results in you having a bunch of female friends and no dates. 2. Talk about what you know that you have in common: Photography.Show her your recent work. Ask a question about the composition. ASK HER OPINION. If she wants to make something of it she will feed the conversation. Show her a bunch of things over a few classes(1 or 2) and see what she reacts to and then take the information and act on it. Failure is only the first step to success.God bless us and God Bless AmericaAlbatross Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #22 October 4, 2001 dude i won't be able to see her until maybe this coming monday unless she comes in to develope some film. Jesus i feel like a fucking stalker I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
3fLiEr 0 #23 October 4, 2001 Dont worry man......... shes only human........ I mean you plummet to earth at between 120mph & 200mph come on put things in perspective - it wont kill ya....... just make sure from the start she is aware of what comes first - I have been out with "the perfect women" who ask me to give up jumping!!!! --- ha ha ha ............... whatcha reckon i said to that!!!be honest from the start and they should have no reason to moan later when you take off every weekend and dont phone them............. first love - skydiving - second love - the relationship that runs Mon - Thurs (unless you have time off then you go to the DZ!!!)If loneliness is the price of freedom - then so be it!BSBD"Go hard, fast & WayLow" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viking 0 #24 October 4, 2001 oh trust me if she doesn't want to skydive she is gone!!! but she seems like the type that would have no problem with me jumping.....i hopeI swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FreeflyPlaymate 0 #25 October 4, 2001 Viking,I think that is so adorable that you are verbalizing how you feel. I can totally relate, stopping by in places just to get a glimpse of that person. No one ever seems to believe me when I say that I am a very shy person. I can flirt with everyone I do actually lol, alot I think it's fun, but it's so easy because I'm not head over heals for them. When I am I'm shy and nervous, and blush alot...basically I'm the butt of all of it lol I'm like a total schoolgirl, and it's like my first crush. The point it that she may be feeling the same, or she may not, but how are you ever going to know unless you jump? **BLUE ONES** BITE ME.... :P Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
