jumpinjackflash 0 #1 March 7, 2004 Ok, trying to move forward, advance, change. House is a total disaster (in my book). Too much stuff per square foot. Eaten alive by disorganization. Eaten alive by things that just seem to have no "place". Eaten alive by broken things needing fixing. Stuck in a muck and can't seem to break free. Overwhelming chaotic and nutso. Need peace, need order. Anyone have the same issues? This does tie in to the old not enough time to do it all theory. The last six months have been about "white knuckling it" in regards to a marriage that isn't going to be fixed, and millions of other things. I seem to have just enough time to stay afloat, not enough to improve the situation. Freaking me out. I need order now!!! Anyone going through the same, or gone through and on the other side, advice would be appreciated. jjfIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #2 March 7, 2004 Sorry.. thought you were talking to me.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #3 March 7, 2004 In honor of SkyBytch's ADIDAS thread and your avatar, it's a real tough thing not to turn this into a flirt post . So I'll resist. But, I'm thinking it. laters, jjfIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #4 March 7, 2004 You need some deep relaxation....try yoga!! (Or don't...hell I wouldn't know I've never done yoga...)~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gary350 0 #5 March 7, 2004 This one is too easy! Two words for you, both start with the letter 'D': Denial and Dropzone! Get out of the damn house, away from the mess and disorganization and chaos in your life. Yes, it will still be there when you eventually get back, but you won't care - not nearly as much anyway, hopefully. . . Your issues do resonate with me. Good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #6 March 7, 2004 LOL YOU'VE NAILED THE LAST SIX MONTHS FOR ME!!!! Done with the denial, tryin to clean it up, come back to life. Set my DZ sched this summer to every two weeks. Next weekend is DZ time. This one is let's get our head out of our ass weekend. Or try I suppose. jjfIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gary350 0 #7 March 7, 2004 Quote Done with the denial, tryin to clean it up, come back to life. jjf No, No, No - you misunderstood. Denial can be your friend Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #8 March 7, 2004 Re-direct your "adidas" and "avatar" energy and put it in to cleaning. Does that work for men? My house is spotless! hehe. Seriously.. turn off your computer, put some tunes on, and dig in to it. Dont forget to throw stuff away and give stuff to goodwill. You know you've got too much stuff. Then hire a cleaning lady. Get all your shit organized, then have someone else do all the dirty work.. dusting, bathrooms, floors, windows, etc. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #9 March 7, 2004 Gee, I've never dealt with that both at home and at work Take - or make - the time. That's the only way I can get it done. You don't have to get it all done in one day though. Break the overwhelming mess into smaller messes in your mind. It's easier to find/make the time and easier to get started on it if you know that all you have to accomplish today is cleaning out one drawer. Tomorrow you can attack another drawer. Etc... It's amazing how good you'll feel just getting one little piece of the disaster area back into some sort of order. Get your kids involved in the clean up. The job will go faster because you have help, and it won't seem like such a chore because you have someone to chat with while you work. Good "bonding" time too. If it's broken and you don't have time to fix it - toss it. If it's not broken and you haven't used it or looked at it in over a year - sell or give it away. If it's sentimental crap that you can't bear to part with but hardly ever look at, box it up and put it on a shelf somewhere. Don't forget to reward yourself for getting each little mess cleaned up. If you spent an hour working on it this morning, go spend an hour doing something fun this afternoon. I like to take before and after pictures - mainly to remind myself to never let it get that bad again. *looking around mess in office* Yeah, not that those pics do me any good... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #10 March 7, 2004 EXACTLY!!!! That "energy" is bein redirected right now! Trust me, I redirect it all the time. I've been redirecting it for so long in fact it may be whats making me lose my mind. Somewhere in here I'll have to take care of that as well. Not now though, not yet, not ready for that at all. But, I can still flirt, thats harmless you know. You nailed it, I'm stopping to reply like a "coffee break". Since I don't smoke anymore, I can check the posts. Throwing away, goodwill, storing things, these are all at the top of the list and what I'm all about at this point. My Bar seems to be a place for everyone to leave laundry, I'm gonna kick their butts (lol and mine) and keep it clear. jackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #11 March 7, 2004 The thing that pisses me off beyond belief and I can't seem to wrap a handle around. Get one nice and clean, try to keep it clean and work on another. Get that done, come back to the original, and it's now trash!!!!! Course some of this is kid management, some is me management. All of it can be quite irritating at times, but I"M WORKING ON IT. It's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #12 March 7, 2004 K.. you get back to work.. I'm gonna go jump! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpinjackflash 0 #13 March 7, 2004 K I'm going back to work! YOU TEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So wrong, JackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Michele 1 #14 March 7, 2004 LOL, what an interesting post... First, enjoy the chaos. It's no big deal; has it killed anyone? Made anyone sick? Have you lost the housecat in the detritus? NO? Then it's all good. Second, if you're really interested in "cleaning house", not just moving piles (which is what I seem to do...dining table pile to the coffee table to the chair back to the dining table...), then take three big boxes. In the first box, put all the clothes/shoes you've outgrown, don't like, out of style, whatever. If you haven't worn it in a year, you're not going to wear them again. Sort them into "good" and '"bad". Take the "good" to the local charity. Throw the bad out. In the second box, take all the things which can be easily fixed, and set it aside. These are your rainy day projects. Put it into the garage for rainy days. Those things which are not easily fixed - may not even be recognizable - throw out. If you haven't missed it yet, you're not going to. In the third box, put all the papers that are in piles in it. Just dump them in, no order. Daily, take a handful out, and decide: keep? toss? Need this? Or just stuff? If the kids' clothes are bugging you, grab them all, and deposit them onto the floor of their room (do the same to your stuff). It's their job to keep their rooms tidy, so if they want tidy, they can do it (you too....). But if it's out of your sight, then it's their issue...and let them have whatever they want on their "terriroty". You can always keep the door closed. And then, realize that you can spend your life cleaning your house to instill a sense of order in the midst of chaos, or realize that life has chaos, and that if your house is clean or not won't make life less chaotic. The trick is finding your sense of balance on an everchanging platform called life...and when you trip, get back up again, regain your feet, and keep on keeping on. Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpinjackflash 0 #15 March 7, 2004 Been boxing my butt off. Cleaning out areas that have been neglected way too long. This project is partially "physical" in nature, partly "emotional", cleaning up, moving on, moving forward. Closing the door on what was and looking forward to what will be. It's time. Mourning is over. Warmth, JackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jahk 0 #16 March 7, 2004 When you've reached the point of desperation, go to Yahoo, sign in to their 'groups', and join something called 'Flylady'. This started with a couple of women who wrote a book about cleaning up and getting organized. Their followers are a bit rabid. Once you've signed up, you'll get frequent emails directing you to do certain tasks. Each week, they focus you on a certain part of the home, with a different task every day. Each task will take about 15 minutes, and it really makes a difference over time. Oddly, they always harp on having a clean kitchen sink. Why? Because you have to start somewhere, and that's where they start. I un-joined after a couple of weeks, because the incessant emails started to feel like nagging. Also, they are oriented toward a female, do-all-the-housework, keep the home fires burning, take care of the kids and make hubby happy division of labor. But if you need directions on *exactly* what to do today to get your home in order, they'll do it. Judith _________________________________________________-Imelda Marcos just wanted some cute shoes that didn't make her feet hurt. Why's that so hard to understand? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpinjackflash 0 #17 March 7, 2004 Judith, very funny. My sink in my kitchen is awesome. I actually have the flylady book and I'm working on some of the techniques to build better habits and a cleaner house. Very good stuff, even more so for us single fathers that have a household full of kids and too many things to do. Problem is, I have to keep working on the techniques and not back slide into crappy habits. I do recommend the book for everyone, good stuff. I hear you on the female orientation, not many guys are in my position though where things are reversed. However, I take all the things I have as a blessing and I'll do my best to take care of the kids and all the things associated with them and the house. Thanks Judith, I'll look at signing up for the emails too. JackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites kai2k1 0 #18 March 7, 2004 ARE YOU DONE YET??? At least get it done by next saturday!! for the first time (BEER) Ill be at the DZ on a saturday!! There's no truer sense of flying than sky diving," Scott Cowan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jumpinjackflash 0 #19 March 8, 2004 Dude, next saturday, definitly. I've got a jump on account there and I'm gonna add three more... Are you going to stick around after? I'm thinking of taking my time chilling, having dinner/beer out there and being in absolutely no hurry to run.... How the hell are you Rick? jackIt's a gas, gas, gas... 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jumpinjackflash 0 #13 March 7, 2004 K I'm going back to work! YOU TEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So wrong, JackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #14 March 7, 2004 LOL, what an interesting post... First, enjoy the chaos. It's no big deal; has it killed anyone? Made anyone sick? Have you lost the housecat in the detritus? NO? Then it's all good. Second, if you're really interested in "cleaning house", not just moving piles (which is what I seem to do...dining table pile to the coffee table to the chair back to the dining table...), then take three big boxes. In the first box, put all the clothes/shoes you've outgrown, don't like, out of style, whatever. If you haven't worn it in a year, you're not going to wear them again. Sort them into "good" and '"bad". Take the "good" to the local charity. Throw the bad out. In the second box, take all the things which can be easily fixed, and set it aside. These are your rainy day projects. Put it into the garage for rainy days. Those things which are not easily fixed - may not even be recognizable - throw out. If you haven't missed it yet, you're not going to. In the third box, put all the papers that are in piles in it. Just dump them in, no order. Daily, take a handful out, and decide: keep? toss? Need this? Or just stuff? If the kids' clothes are bugging you, grab them all, and deposit them onto the floor of their room (do the same to your stuff). It's their job to keep their rooms tidy, so if they want tidy, they can do it (you too....). But if it's out of your sight, then it's their issue...and let them have whatever they want on their "terriroty". You can always keep the door closed. And then, realize that you can spend your life cleaning your house to instill a sense of order in the midst of chaos, or realize that life has chaos, and that if your house is clean or not won't make life less chaotic. The trick is finding your sense of balance on an everchanging platform called life...and when you trip, get back up again, regain your feet, and keep on keeping on. Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #15 March 7, 2004 Been boxing my butt off. Cleaning out areas that have been neglected way too long. This project is partially "physical" in nature, partly "emotional", cleaning up, moving on, moving forward. Closing the door on what was and looking forward to what will be. It's time. Mourning is over. Warmth, JackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jahk 0 #16 March 7, 2004 When you've reached the point of desperation, go to Yahoo, sign in to their 'groups', and join something called 'Flylady'. This started with a couple of women who wrote a book about cleaning up and getting organized. Their followers are a bit rabid. Once you've signed up, you'll get frequent emails directing you to do certain tasks. Each week, they focus you on a certain part of the home, with a different task every day. Each task will take about 15 minutes, and it really makes a difference over time. Oddly, they always harp on having a clean kitchen sink. Why? Because you have to start somewhere, and that's where they start. I un-joined after a couple of weeks, because the incessant emails started to feel like nagging. Also, they are oriented toward a female, do-all-the-housework, keep the home fires burning, take care of the kids and make hubby happy division of labor. But if you need directions on *exactly* what to do today to get your home in order, they'll do it. Judith _________________________________________________-Imelda Marcos just wanted some cute shoes that didn't make her feet hurt. Why's that so hard to understand? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #17 March 7, 2004 Judith, very funny. My sink in my kitchen is awesome. I actually have the flylady book and I'm working on some of the techniques to build better habits and a cleaner house. Very good stuff, even more so for us single fathers that have a household full of kids and too many things to do. Problem is, I have to keep working on the techniques and not back slide into crappy habits. I do recommend the book for everyone, good stuff. I hear you on the female orientation, not many guys are in my position though where things are reversed. However, I take all the things I have as a blessing and I'll do my best to take care of the kids and all the things associated with them and the house. Thanks Judith, I'll look at signing up for the emails too. JackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kai2k1 0 #18 March 7, 2004 ARE YOU DONE YET??? At least get it done by next saturday!! for the first time (BEER) Ill be at the DZ on a saturday!! There's no truer sense of flying than sky diving," Scott Cowan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinjackflash 0 #19 March 8, 2004 Dude, next saturday, definitly. I've got a jump on account there and I'm gonna add three more... Are you going to stick around after? I'm thinking of taking my time chilling, having dinner/beer out there and being in absolutely no hurry to run.... How the hell are you Rick? jackIt's a gas, gas, gas... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
