smiles 0 #1 March 15, 2004 S-word A sorry habbit. 0h, sorry (bumping into a stranger in the store) Oops, sorry (to waitress after I knock over vase of flowers on restaurant table).. Questions are taken from the audience- the microphone is passed to me- I stand up and ask my question- "could you speak closer to the mike?", I reply "Sorry!" Pandora's box was nothing compared to what I opened up. It is as if I am apologizing for who I am. "I'm sorry!" ...obviously apologizing is an automatic inbred reaction similar to the fight-or-flight response. I say it without thinking, with little regard for its meaning or implications. When I say "sorry" what do others really hear? Is it that I don't feel free to express anger or frustration? Do we apologize because entitlement isn't part of our self-worth? Is it said to observe politeness, not because I really mean it? If I have not done anything to offend someone, I should not apologize. The person who apologizes too much is obsequious. Answering phone calls in a office environment I drove myself crazy answering calls with..."I'm sorry, Mr. X is not in the office"....wait a minute!....Mr. X is out making a million bucks for himself why should anyone be sorry? I am more aware of how often I say the S-word. I also take note of when others say it to me. Of course, when hurting or offending someone, it's the first thing I say- but not when I reach past a fellow Starbucks customer for the cinnamon shaker. The biggest lesson I've learned is that most times what I really mean to say is actually "excuse me" or even "@#!$ off!." SMiles Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #2 March 15, 2004 Ok...I'm not going to look at your profile...but, I'll bet you're Canadian. When I was up there a couple weeks ago, I hear more "sorrys" in two days than in hte past 32 years. I mean, I know you guys have a lot to be sorry for, but get over it already. Example...crowded bar, shoulder to shoulder, waitress trying to get through with loaded tray of beer. "sorry, sorry,. sorry, sorry". Down here it would be....."Yo, you mind moving your ass?" and if that didn't work, some "accidentally" spilled beer on whoever is in the way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JamesNahikian 0 #3 March 15, 2004 QuoteS-word A sorry habbit. ______________________________________ Sam Gamgee. A sorry hobbit. Profound, isn't it. D. James Nahikian CHICAGO Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites smiles 0 #4 March 15, 2004 QuoteOk...I'm not going to look at your profile...but, I'll bet you're Canadian. - you should have bet bucks! Maybe it is a verbal tic, culturally appropriate to say--like "um" or "you know what I mean" or of course the famous "a"---- SMiles Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites tunaplanet 0 #5 March 15, 2004 Quoteyou should have bet bucks! Yeah, like how hard would it be to look at someone's profile, then respond with all the correct info and say. "I'm not going to look at your profile, but..." Same thing when people respond to trivia questions and riddles. They come off like freakin geniusses, but in fact all they did was look it up on google. Forty-two Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites yardhippie 0 #6 March 15, 2004 QuoteQuoteyou should have bet bucks! Yeah, like how hard would it be to look at someone's profile, then respond with all the correct info and say. "I'm not going to look at your profile, but..." Same thing when people respond to trivia questions and riddles. They come off like freakin geniusses, but in fact all they did was look it up on google. LOL! I love google. ?Why? cuz Im an idiot!Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites gary350 0 #7 March 15, 2004 Karen, Reply attached. . . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites champu 1 #8 March 16, 2004 it's not what you know... it's how quickly you can find it on the internet... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites smiles 0 #9 March 16, 2004 exactly! SMiles Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites WrongWay 0 #10 March 16, 2004 Dude I do the SAME THING!!! I think the reason I do it was I was in a really bad relationship for 3 years, and even though I won't go into details, it was one of those things where I couldn't walk down the street without her seeing something wrong with what I was doing, so I got used to apologizing for everything. Plus, I just hate for people to be angry with me, so I try to take blame sometimes and make everything okay, just cuz I know it's worth saving everyone the hassle in the end. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites riddler 0 #11 March 16, 2004 I have a sorry-problem too. I say it all the time. After a while, it becomes like those checkout people at the store that say "Have a nice day". They don't mean it. You know they don't mean it. They know you know they don't mean it. But they say it anyway, and it's annoying. I think you're right - saying you're sorry should be an apology, not a habit.Trapped on the surface of a sphere. XKCD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Beerlight 0 #12 March 16, 2004 I used to use the S-word up till I was about 15. Then one day my dad said to not use that word ever again......To him "sorry" was a degradation of character or something......truly negative........ Anyway, I actually stopped using it then and there. Now I say "pardon" all the freakin time!!!!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Zenister 0 #13 March 16, 2004 thats totally one of my pet peeves...unless you really mean it dont say it...it becomes pointless when you use it all the time...____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites PhillyKev 0 #14 March 16, 2004 Is there some reason you need to respond to me and insinuate that I'm a liar on multiple occasions? Do you know me? I could care less what you think of me, but what is your fucking problem? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites turtlespeed 226 #15 March 16, 2004 QuoteIs there some reason you need to respond to me and insinuate that I'm a liar on multiple occasions? Do you know me? I could care less what you think of me, but what is your fucking problem? Oh, sorry. Couldn't resist.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites allisonjr 0 #16 March 16, 2004 I do the same thing....ALL the time! For me, it's a southern thing....just always being polite. It was too funny...well, to me anyway!*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Alli P.M.S. #3 If my answers frighten you then you should cease asking scary questions. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
smiles 0 #4 March 15, 2004 QuoteOk...I'm not going to look at your profile...but, I'll bet you're Canadian. - you should have bet bucks! Maybe it is a verbal tic, culturally appropriate to say--like "um" or "you know what I mean" or of course the famous "a"---- SMiles Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tunaplanet 0 #5 March 15, 2004 Quoteyou should have bet bucks! Yeah, like how hard would it be to look at someone's profile, then respond with all the correct info and say. "I'm not going to look at your profile, but..." Same thing when people respond to trivia questions and riddles. They come off like freakin geniusses, but in fact all they did was look it up on google. Forty-two Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yardhippie 0 #6 March 15, 2004 QuoteQuoteyou should have bet bucks! Yeah, like how hard would it be to look at someone's profile, then respond with all the correct info and say. "I'm not going to look at your profile, but..." Same thing when people respond to trivia questions and riddles. They come off like freakin geniusses, but in fact all they did was look it up on google. LOL! I love google. ?Why? cuz Im an idiot!Goddam dirty hippies piss me off! ~GFD "What do I get for closing your rig?" ~ me "Anything you want." ~ female skydiver Mohoso Rodriguez #865 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gary350 0 #7 March 15, 2004 Karen, Reply attached. . . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
champu 1 #8 March 16, 2004 it's not what you know... it's how quickly you can find it on the internet... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #10 March 16, 2004 Dude I do the SAME THING!!! I think the reason I do it was I was in a really bad relationship for 3 years, and even though I won't go into details, it was one of those things where I couldn't walk down the street without her seeing something wrong with what I was doing, so I got used to apologizing for everything. Plus, I just hate for people to be angry with me, so I try to take blame sometimes and make everything okay, just cuz I know it's worth saving everyone the hassle in the end. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
riddler 0 #11 March 16, 2004 I have a sorry-problem too. I say it all the time. After a while, it becomes like those checkout people at the store that say "Have a nice day". They don't mean it. You know they don't mean it. They know you know they don't mean it. But they say it anyway, and it's annoying. I think you're right - saying you're sorry should be an apology, not a habit.Trapped on the surface of a sphere. XKCD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Beerlight 0 #12 March 16, 2004 I used to use the S-word up till I was about 15. Then one day my dad said to not use that word ever again......To him "sorry" was a degradation of character or something......truly negative........ Anyway, I actually stopped using it then and there. Now I say "pardon" all the freakin time!!!!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #13 March 16, 2004 thats totally one of my pet peeves...unless you really mean it dont say it...it becomes pointless when you use it all the time...____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #14 March 16, 2004 Is there some reason you need to respond to me and insinuate that I'm a liar on multiple occasions? Do you know me? I could care less what you think of me, but what is your fucking problem? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #15 March 16, 2004 QuoteIs there some reason you need to respond to me and insinuate that I'm a liar on multiple occasions? Do you know me? I could care less what you think of me, but what is your fucking problem? Oh, sorry. Couldn't resist.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
allisonjr 0 #16 March 16, 2004 I do the same thing....ALL the time! For me, it's a southern thing....just always being polite. It was too funny...well, to me anyway!*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Alli P.M.S. #3 If my answers frighten you then you should cease asking scary questions. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
