AggieDave 6 #26 April 9, 2004 QuoteHow hard could it be? You just sit in a chair and talk to people and type, right? No, no, no, you've got it all wrong. You sit in a chair doing math all day in a different measuring standard then the one being used on the project, then forget to change it back when you submit the numbers. Then you blame the loss of the rover on "large martian monsters" and go on with life.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #27 April 9, 2004 Quote How many people here think rocket science is easy Wendy W. Well, Wendy - as it seems, MY PHONE has more memory and more computing power than the WHOLE SPACE SHUTTLE! and I can work my phone - yeah - how hard can it be?I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #28 April 9, 2004 Quote it's to the point that I would love to pay allimony and child support It's a new world. You can get custody. The old idea that women are somehow all wonderful mothers and better custodial parents is sexist rubbish. My ex tossed my son out one week after the last child support check cleared. He lived with me for 4 years after that. I know guys who have custody. They are wonderful parents raising wonderful kids. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpergirl 0 #29 April 9, 2004 The fact that she has the children to take care of is a HUGE MAJOR factor!! When I first read your initial post I thought, "WOW! I was in that same situation (with my ex husband) not too long ago." But then I read the rest... the addition of this children changes the whole thing. You need to sit down and talk to her. Make a "chore list" or something. Split things up. Share. Compromise. That's what a marriage is all about. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #30 April 9, 2004 I have to tell you that having 3 kids in the house TAKES UP TONS OF TIME AND ENERGY. Currently my wife works and I run our business out of the home so I take care of the kids during the day. We have 3 kids.. I have to tell you that sometimes I don't manage to have the house clean, I rarely do laundry, and I make dinner half the time.. any parent staying home with children has their hands full. IT IS EASIER TO BE AT WORK THAN IT IS TO BE HOME CHASING 3 CHILDREN ALL DAY. Speaking from experience.. You should get home, hand her a few $$ and tell her to leave the house, goto a coffee house and take a break while YOU cook dinner every now and then. Walk a mile in her shoes my friend.. I understand the issues from BOTH prespectives trust me.. Rhino Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #31 April 9, 2004 QuoteWow... .what a sweety you are. I can' t on earth figure out why she wouldn't feel like making you a nice , warm meal and then be on her knees under the table as soon as you're finished eating. It really escapes me what with how fondly you speak of her. LOL Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sdgregory 0 #32 April 9, 2004 To no one and everyone: There was a time where I had been layed-off from a Union job and had a hard time finding work. My wife was already making more money than me and we decided that it would be best for me to sit out on the bench and stay home with the kids. Three of them aged 7, 2, and 1. I did all the domestic crap for over a year before I was able to afford to actually take a job (child care being expensive). I cooked, cleaned, did laundry, grocery shopping, etc. It took me a while to come up with a routine that enabled me to get everything done and still have a little free time. I learned a few things. One, that there is more to my day taking care of a house than there was driving an hour forty-five to work each day and working 45 hours a week. Just cuase five oclock hits or the sun goes down does not mean that your day is over. Two, if you BUDGET your time, even though there is a lot to do, it can be done. I have seen both sides. I think that if you stay home and your SO works, you should cook, clean, take care of kids, etc. It is a team effort and everyone has to pull their weight. My wife stays home now and has for a few years. She loves it. And because I had done it first I was able to give her advice on how to manage it. And still, sometimes, I am down to no jeans or a pair of socks and underwear and I get a little frustrated. But, it rarely happens and I know that sometimes she needs a break. Her job is 24-7. Mine is not. Help your SO figure out how to organize. Set up a routine. And find out where they have a bottleneck and help relieve some of that pressure. If you think you bring home the bacon and they do the rest, that is lopsided. They have the toughest job. (Unless there are no kids. - Kids are the bulk of the work.) On the other side of that, if you are a stay at home spouse and you just sit around the house and talk online, go skydiving, or sit around watching TV eating Bon-Bons, while leaving the house to the one who works, your a bum and better rethink your priorities. Or your SO will rethink what value you bring to the relationship. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luv2Fall 0 #33 April 9, 2004 OMG! Now that I'm a domestic engineer with two boys, I can say that this is the toughest job I ever had. There are times where I'll trade and 80 hour work week for what this job entails. My earnest respect to all the housewives and single moms out there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #34 April 9, 2004 one word... "Ew." sorry, bro, i'm sure you are cool, as i've never met you, but after reading your post... if i were your wife, i'd be filing divorce papers. be nice! life is short! put yourself in her shoes for 24 hours and chase 3 kids around. and calling her "fat"???? give me a break! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kris 0 #35 April 9, 2004 Dude, really....the 1950's called. They would like their attitudes on women back. *singing* troll, troll, troll your boat.....Sky, Muff Bro, Rodriguez Bro, and Bastion of Purity and Innocence!™ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #36 April 9, 2004 Jeez, man. It appears to me that you have absolutely no idea what it is to be a housekeeper and a stay-at-home mom. My lady and I decided to go into business together so that we could split the duties with the baby when he comes. I'll do the 6:00 - 2:00 shift, and she can handle the other work as it comes. We even set up a home office. Why not give her the weekend away. Then take tcare of the kids, do the chores, cook and clean, and see how successful you are with it. Try it for a few weekends, and then you'll seek out a therapist for the stress. Lighten up, man. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #37 April 9, 2004 Oh comon y'all - It's obvious she is suffering from depression - Any "Good" woman would be fighting for the chance to clean the house and do his bidding on her knees. Give her some prozac and it'll all be as it should. ducks I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #38 April 9, 2004 Dude really, let's turn the tables for a minute. You're at home with three kids driving you nuts without five minutes between "he hit me" or "im hungry" or changing diapers, calming one or more screaming children. At the moment when your frustration peaks from a long day of little hellraisers, she walks in and says "Damnit man, why don't you have a fucking steak waiting for me?????" Doesn't sound good, does it? She sacrificed her career to be at home raising YOUR children because she LOVES THEM and LOVES YOU. She deserves more credit, and you need to get over yourself pal. The only possible way I'd come close to agreement with you about expecting such things would be if you worked 14 hours a day in a coal mine, and even then I'd smite you for disrespecting your wife in such a way as calling her a lazy fatass on a public forum. My personal opinion, you should be ashamed, and you should go home, give your wife a hug and a kiss, and tell her how much you love her and appreciate what she does. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
brits17 0 #39 April 9, 2004 Dude, with those 3 kids, her work is never done. Appreciate what she does raising them, hell I get tired babysitting 1 kid for an extended period of time (over 2 hours). I can only imagine how hectic her daily life must be. No wonder her ass isn't really fat, she runs around more than you. _______________________ aerialkinetics.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DJL 235 #40 April 9, 2004 And in today's news, a Jacksonville Florida power plant suffered 1 million dollars worth of damages stemming from the negligence of a control room operator, Chad Ehlermann, who's wife bludgeoned him nearly to death. Sources state that after doing a Google search for his name, that she found him making statements in a public online forum about her being a "lazy fat-ass" and further comments about wishing to divorce her so that his life would have less "hassle." Mr. Ehlermann claimed that it was a hoax, commonly referred to as a "Troll.""I encourage all awesome dangerous behavior." - Jeffro Fincher Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #41 April 9, 2004 My best friend's ex-husband had the exact same attitude and was a GD Sonofabitch to her, so she divorced his ass. Now they have 50/50 custody of the kids, and they both work. Hes not so much of a sonofabitch to her anymore now that he doesnt have any help taking care of the boys 3 or 4 days of the week in a row. He keeps trying to reconcile the marriage, but its too late now. Wouldnt it be nice if your wife had an adult to talk to at the end of the day? pity for her she just has you.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #42 April 9, 2004 Wow. I have no words. Really. I'm sitting here, thinking what can I say to tell him to lighten up, see the light, relax, remember the team thing, better or worse... And there's not a thing I can say which he will listen to. Not one single thing. However, the word "asshat" comes to mind... Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #43 April 9, 2004 Quote...and was a GD Sonofabitch to her, so she divorced his ass. So...you guys are dating now that he's single? 'Fess up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #44 April 9, 2004 QuoteQuote...and was a GD Sonofabitch to her, so she divorced his ass. So...you guys are dating now that he's single? 'Fess up. Ohhh yeah.. I have a weakness for men who treat women like dog crap.. just can't help myself! (please read sarcasm in to that!!) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #45 April 9, 2004 QuoteOhhh yeah.. I have a weakness for men who treat women like dog crap.. just can't help myself! (please read sarcasm in to that!!) I understand. If you were into dating self-centered, antagonistic bums, I'd have dated and dumped you by now. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #46 April 9, 2004 Quote I understand. If you were into dating self-centered, antagonistic bums, I'd have dated and dumped you by now. Yeah.. sounds like you're too good for me.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mwabd1 0 #47 April 9, 2004 I knew that this would stir up a shit storm!! but I have taken something away from this......... #1-All woman stick together, and yes you are all evil, if I bled for 4-5 days strait every month I would be dead by now, there for you must all be vampires! #2- Obviously some of you guys are very pussy-whipped and your girl is reading your posts! Grow a sack and speak your mind. ............and I do treat my wife like a goddes, hell I come home to her every day, what more do you woman expect. ...........thanks for the responses, I needed a good laugh! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #48 April 9, 2004 QuoteI knew that this would stir up a shit storm!! So, what you're saying is that you'd like a break from the privledge of posting on these forums? From the forum rules: Personal attacks on another user are a great way to earn some time off, as is posting inflammatory material specifically to provoke a negative response from someone (aka trolling). If you are unclear about what a 'troll' is, a description can be found here. I'll be glad to take care of that for you.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #49 April 9, 2004 Isn't there a penalty for trolldom? My Bad - You so quick Andrea. That is why we all adore you.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mailin 0 #50 April 9, 2004 I see large alimony payments in your future.... Your an ass - I hope she takes you for all your worth (which from the sounds of it, can't be much - you moron!) JenniferArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
