FallinWoman 1 #1 May 3, 2004 I need hugs. http://www.dropzone.com/cgi-bin/forum/gforum.cgi?post=1059812;sb=post_latest_reply;so=ASC;forum_view=forum_view_collapsed;;page=unread#unread ~Anne I'm a Doll!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Michele 1 #2 May 3, 2004 Anne, I'm no parent, so I sure can't give you any advice. But hugs? hell I've always got those around!!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~HUGS~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ to you. You'll get through this, and you'll be fine. HUGS again! Ciels- Michele ~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek While our hearts lie bleeding?~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lifewithoutanet 0 #3 May 3, 2004 I'm not a parent, but given the vast age differences between myself and my 16 and 14 year old little brothers, 'parenting' is a role I've often found myself falling into when 'cool big brother' just isn't appropriate. From what I read in the other thread, you're off to a good start by 1.) reinforcing that the punishment is for the forgery, not the missed assignment and 2.) making her follow through on the assignment, even for no credit at all. One thing my folks drilled into me--and that I continue to instill in my little bros--is that the truth does not get better with age. If you deal with it up front ('it' being the f-up w/ the assignment in the first place), you can quickly move past it. If she just covers it up, she's got to maintain that lie. One perpetuates the next, becomes a big mess, she gets grounded...whereas if she'd just fessed-up in the first place, she might have faced disappointment, but likely wouldn't be grounded. Hope this helps. Sounds like you've already got it handled in the right way to me, though. -C. Edit: PS Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #4 May 3, 2004 sending a good bra your way.. that work for suport for ya???????.. that sucks about the forging......... had she hidden the note better or thrown it away you would of never found out....well unles it was brought up in a parent teacher confrence. and as for me well , when i was 10 i had to come home from school and do my homework before i could do anything else... no t.v. no playing outside.. and the internet wasn't available then.....some times it would take till after dinner but it always got done........now when i got to high school it changed and well they didn't hand out slips anymore i just got a big fat "f"...... and then got grounded for bad grades in school..... ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #5 May 3, 2004 Speaking from a teachers point of view, you did the right thing all the way. I don't however know if you sat her down and spoke calmy to her about the importance of coming to you before this progressively gets worse. Also I try and get parents to actively participate in the homework process. i.e. .."Do you havve any homework today, can I help you with it?" If you make it a regular thing and discuss things with her, you can build stronger bonds with her. As you help with homework you can initiate other conversations, How's your day? Anything wierd happen at school? How are you and your friends doing? that sort of thing.It's can really be helpful to both of youYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
