what should i do??

[Daizey 0]

I live in a college dorm. I have a roommate (who i hate) and we dont get along.

Lately I have noticed a lot of my stuff is missing. Im pretty forgetful sometimes, so i just figured i misplaced them...no biggie.

Then this morning i noticed that a $120 was missing...it was part of my skydiving money-I typically keep any of my jump money in a seperate part of my wallet so i wont spend it. I noticed the money was also in a different spot. I had left my wallet on my bed that morning when i went to class, when i came back i thought it was in a differnt place, but again didn't think anything of it....until i saw the money was gone. I looked everywhere-pants, shoes, bags...and nothing...I was soo upset.

Today I decided to clean/rearrange my room in hopes of finding it and to start packing. while i was cleaning I found a shoe of my roommates. I went to go put it in her closet and when i opened it I noticed a bunch of things i had been missing-and more that i hadnt realized were missing. Clothes, CD's, a pair of scissors, then i noticed a bunch of money....ironically enough it was the exact amount I am missing.

I assumed it was mine and took it back. I am planning on confronting her when she comes back. I think it will be easy to accuse her of the other stuff since its all there (i didn't touch it) but the money may be a bit harder-what if she says its hers and i can't prove it isnt...then what do i do...do i hold onto the money and tell her its too large of a coincidence and Im not giving it back, or am I gonna end up short the cash?

Any ideas? Also what is the best way to confront her? Just open her closet and be like umm this is my stuff? Try and get her to admit it first? Ugh.

I am soooo mad right now

*daizey*

[DrunkMonkey 0]

Call the police. Put the fear of God into the asshat.

[Daizey 0]

I went to the RA and explained it...she has it on record and all now, but she told me first to see if i could work something out peacefully with her first....

Ugh what a pain in the neck. Im already stressed enough with finals...now i have this to deal with..

Any ideas on how to confront her?

*daizey*

[Nightingale 0]

Report the incident to your RA and your student housing office. NOW.

That way, if she shows up claiming it's hers, SHE's the one who's got to prove it.

And request to be moved to a new dorm room immediately. Have your mom and dad call the housing office and be very loud and annoying til you get a new room. Schools often brush over students' concerns, but they will listen to parents, because they assume the parents are footing the bill.

This is coming from a former RA.

[Casch 0]

"Look, roomate, for a while now I have been noticing things of mine keep turning up missing. I never thought much of it until money went missing from my wallet that was sitting on my bed. Still, I figured somehow I misplaced it. While I was searching for my money, I found a shoe of yours and went to put it away in your closet. There I found many of the things I was missing, including my money. You want to explain this? Or do I need to call the police?"

[Gawain 0]

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Any ideas on how to confront her?

Whatever you do, make sure you confront her. My very first semester of college, I had a loser roommate too. I noticed over time that my towels were missing. I had no idea what was going on and I was down to a single towel (I brought four with me to school), until I saw one of the towels in the bottom of his hamper. I thought, WTF, I pull it out, it was covered in blood

Turns out, his girlfriend would visit and for him, it didn't matter what time of the month is was.

The look on his face was "stunned" to say the least. He was convinced that dry blood would wash out. He was wrong, and I made sure he understood that.

Make sure your roommate knows that too.

So I try and I scream and I beg and I sigh
Just to prove I'm alive, and it's alright
'Cause tonight there's a way I'll make light of my treacherous life
Make light!

[Daizey 0]

Did it already...

As for moving....im moving home next week so switching rooms doesn't make sense...and im NOT moving during finals week just for a few days...I'll just stay very heads up...

*daizey*

[cloudseeker2001 0]

kick her in the nutz!

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others mean and rueful of the western dream"

[Remster 30]

Any chance a confrontation may turn into a sweaty pillow fight?


That sucks. But yeah, demand a new roommate...

Remster

[Kramer 0]

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Any chance a confrontation may turn into a sweaty pillow fight?

Remster you might be going to hell for saying that...stay tuned! (I'm messin with ya)

Dizaizey wassup. Listen. This "bitch" (you don't mind me calling her that do you?) can't get away with stuff like this. I think you need to call her out on it. People HATE confrontations for the most part, so if you can muster up the strength to just look at her and say "can I have my $120 back please?" I'm bettin your adreniline will take over from there! Hope it all works out for ya. Hang in there...one week left!

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[Daizey 0]

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This "bitch" (you don't mind me calling her that do you?)

nah i call her soemthing along those terms daily....I can't stand her. She sleeps all the time, and expects me to be quiet (sorry but i have a life) shes an alcoholic and a druggie and she never showers so she smells quite interesting (sorry remster no pillow fights..i wouldnt go near her pillow with a 10 foot pole!)....and shes sooo mean to me! And i always thought i was such a nice person-i dont liek people to hate me ! i dont understand it! This morning i got yelled at cause my alarm clock was too loud-she told me i need to buy a new alarm clock so she could sleep in the morning-uhh..ya...right....

I can't wait to get out of here.... But dont worry i will try and confront her...if she ever comes back....

*daizey*

[pilotdave 0]

Damn I thought I had it bad when my roommate told me EVERY night before going to bed "I'm gonna kill you in your sleep tonight." Or my freshman roommate that literally smelled like dirty diapers when he slept. I'd get home from class to find him sleeping, and the room would STINK. I'd open the door and window to air it out, and my neighbors would come by and tell me to shut my door cause it was stinking up the whole hall. But neither of em ever touched my stuff! I'd take it straight to the RD or whatever you have at a higher level than the RA. If you can prove it (especially with he money), she could be expelled. I'd set her up to catch her red handed.

Dave

[wingnut 0]

i would just keep the money and not say anything..... if she asks yo about it it may not have been yours if she says nothing then she will knw that you know and well she is busted and will probly turn taila nd not bother ya....


p.s. i wouldn't leave anything unlocked ever if i was living in a dorm.... oh wait been there , done that, got the tshirt, got it stolen since i left it on my bed.........

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[alanab 0]

tough situation kristi, i would confront her in a nice way and see what she say. if she denys it then theres not much you can do. if she says she took the shit then tell the crazy bitch to seek help immediately!
but, if it makes you feel any better i had a random roommate my sophmore year in college (after my roommate to be didnt come back that year) and she sucked more than anything. she was nasty and smelly. farted in her sleep like a man. she picked her feet and toe skin off and left it in piles around the room. oh sick, i want to barf after remembering those fuckin piles. ehhhhhhhhhhh

[wingnut 0]

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and she sucked more than anything. she was nasty and smelly. farted in her sleep like a man

women fart in thier sleep too.... don't just blame men........ wasn't there a thread on farting here a while ago... oh wait there has probly been more than one.. just not gona search for em.........

second opinion..... get one of those electric fence transformers and hot wire all your stuff... even leave some bait in the form of a few silver dollars on your bed.... hooked up to 110VAC!!!!!! hehehehe

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[Ncrowe 0]

Hmm I think the mature thing to do would be to somehow disguise a big ass rat trap with like a 20 dollar bill attached to the triggering mechanism. And even if it didn't break her finger " that'd be a huge plus though" she'd probably take the hint.

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[jtval 0]

SLAY your roommate. I took in a cousin form the other side of the fam a few years ago. he was a clepto. I kicked his ass a few times then I kicked him out. I no longer want,need to hear from him.
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[Daizey 0]

try asking at the wedding

Shes back now, but theres no way in hell im asking her...shes insanely drunk. So theres no point....she did however yell at me for rearranging my half of the room. "I dont like it-change it by morning" My response was deal with it. I didn't get a response outta her cause she passed out in bed....havent heard form her since

*daizey*

[jtval 0]

lol JAMES won't be at the wedding. trust me on that!

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[peacefuljeffrey 0]

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try asking at the wedding

Shes back now, but theres no way in hell im asking her...shes insanely drunk. So theres no point....she did however yell at me for rearranging my half of the room. "I dont like it-change it by morning" My response was deal with it. I didn't get a response outta her cause she passed out in bed....havent heard form her since

Shit, if she's that drunk, it shouldn't be difficult to smother her and then the story would be she died of alcohol poisoning which must've stopped her breathing. So sad. Don't you get an automatic 4.0 GPA if your roommate dies?

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-Jeffrey
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[TheBile 0]

Next time she comes in and collapses on her bed from drunkenness, tie all four of her limbs to it. Wait patiently ‘til the morning for her to come around. When she does you need to be standing over her with a kitchen knife in your hand.

She's obviously going to be screaming every profanity under the sun and threatening you to release her or else. Do not lose your cool. Calmly walk around her bed, playing with and caressing the knife like it was the most valuable thing in the whole world. Look out of the window for a fast second before turning to her to speak. Then, in a calm and stress free voice, start talking to her about Cesarian sections. Start off with a little history about how it was named after Julias Caesar due to the fact that this was how he came into the world. Intricately go through the facts of the procedure, how it's performed, what it entails and what drugs are used to numb the pain. Then just casually happen to mention that you don't have any such drug, and then head to the freezer to get some ice.

Leave her stew for a couple of minutes and I'm sure she'll never bitch at you again.

Gerb

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[TequilaGirl 0]

If you are already having problems with her....I would not confront her alone....if the RA won't help (which she should) go to your housing authority....I had to do that with a college roommate once and they moved her out of my room that day....also if your stuff is in her closet take a picture....

[Vallerina 2]

I would've just taken the stuff back. She sounds stupid, but no one can be dumb enough to say, "Hey! Did you steal back the stuff I stole from you?" And for revenge, I'd invite all of my friends over to fart on her pillow!

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[Daizey 0]

What a morning!! Haha that was actually kinda fun!!

For once, her coming home drunk last night worked for me....I woke up this morning and was so happy to see the bright sunshine outside....our room has too HUGE windows...i opened the shades, turned on some good loud music, and opened a book to study for a bit while waited for her to wake up. It didn't take long. I had just opened the book when she sat upright in bed and said, "Its fuckin 9 am-I don't have to be to class until 8 o'clock tonight-I need my sleep! What do you think you are doing!?!?!"

"Oh, its just such a beautiful morning today!" I looked at her with a great big smile.

She proceded to yell at me some more-complaining her head hurt and she needed darkness and peace and quiet. I ignored her and started my morning routine while she was sitting in bed rubbing her eyes and glaring at me. Instead of going to my closet to get clothes, i decided to be bold... I went to hers. I then picked my own clothes outta her closet and put them on and said "hmm so what do ya think? Nice and spring like right?"

Her jaw kinda hung open a bit. The look on her face became even more priceless when i turned around and said, "oh by the way, thanks for the extra closet space-mine was getting a little cluttered anyway"

I went back to my side of the room, threw on some socks and brushed my hair....grabbed a baseball hat outta her closet (mine too), put it on and opened my wallet..."gosh I'm short on cash...ya think I could borrow, oh I dunno $120 or so?" Before she could answer I took the money outta my back pocket and hid it in my hand..."Oh wait nevermind. That's right...I forgot you were so kind yesterday to lighten my wallet up a bit for me! Keeping that money on that shelf in your closet for me sure was a good idea! I pretended to go get it, looked at her, smiled and said, "Thanks, thats a good way to prevent me from spending it!!"

Haha by this point she didn't know what to say, and everytime she did try to say something I would make it seem as if I needed something. I worked everything that I knew was mine in her closet into my mornng routine and by the time I was done I had everything back. I sat on my bed and looked at her and said "dont ever touch my stuff again-and if you have anymore, it would be best for you and me that you tell me now-cause if you dont tell me, trust me, Ill find out."

She got all mad, yanked up her covers and rolled over facing the wall. I think shes attempting to sleep now but I'm taking up her nightly habits...whenever I go to sleep she tends to turn on her tv and her music and set each up pretty high. Mine aren't nearly as loud right now (i dont wanna piss off the girls next door) but something tells me shes not sleeping either.

Ahh....sweet, sweet revenge

*daizey*

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You did good. Hehe, now if only you had gotten video for all of us to enjoy.

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