genoyamamoto 0 #1 May 26, 2004 DZ.commer's, I need your opinion. I just met this girl and she's really sweet but a bit shy, possibly as shy as I am, maybe more. We had a very nice time talking on the phone a few days ago and also in person, but there just wasn't a "click". (Think two nerds on a date...) So i'm wondering how important you think it is to feel something right off the bat. Do you think it's absolutely necessary or have you been in relationships that started off a little slow? Gotta go... plaything needs to spank me Feel the hate... Photos here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #2 May 26, 2004 Chemistry? Like her blood alcohol level? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vdschoor 0 #3 May 26, 2004 QuoteDZ.commer's, I need your opinion. I just met this girl and she's really sweet but a bit shy, possibly as shy as I am, maybe more. We had a very nice time talking on the phone a few days ago and also in person, but there just wasn't a "click". (Think two nerds on a date...) So i'm wondering how important you think it is to feel something right off the bat. Do you think it's absolutely necessary or have you been in relationships that started off a little slow? Dude.. you said it yourself, you're shy, she's a bit shy but you like her.. give it a little more of a chance even though there wasn't a "click" Slow starts can be good my friend.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #4 May 26, 2004 Question: Are you settling and thinking "ah, she'll grow on me over time"? I hope not. You dig her, but she doesn't dig you and claims to be "shy"? I hope not. It's happenin' or not..you'll know it. But who am I? certainly not a relationship expert! Good luck to ya! _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vertifly 0 #5 May 26, 2004 Molto Importante!!! I've dated girls who were the nicest you'd ever want to meet. Sweet, pretty, smart, responsible, etc... but without chemistry, it is a no-go. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #6 May 26, 2004 QuoteBut who am I? certainly not a relationship expert! You have even less claim to that title than I do! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #7 May 26, 2004 Ummm... Geno? Hun.. sweet young friend of mine... ummm..... You said to me, and I quote.. "My stomach feels all funny" .. ummm... that sounds like your answer to this whole postwhoring thread, my young stomach paining friend. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
genoyamamoto 0 #8 May 26, 2004 Yeah it's actually my impression that she's a bit shy. So how many dates should you go out on before throwing in the towel? It was a bit awkard, possibly also because this has been my first venture back into the relationship game in quite a while... Gotta go... plaything needs to spank me Feel the hate... Photos here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
genoyamamoto 0 #9 May 26, 2004 QuoteUmmm... Geno? Hun.. sweet young friend of mine... ummm..... You said to me, and I quote.. "My stomach feels all funny" .. ummm... that sounds like your answer to this whole postwhoring thread, my young stomach paining friend. Actually that's 'cuz I had a cheese sammich for lunch and i'm lactose intolerant. Had to go to the little boys room. Gotta go... plaything needs to spank me Feel the hate... Photos here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
genoyamamoto 0 #10 May 26, 2004 QuoteQuoteBut who am I? certainly not a relationship expert! You have even less claim to that title than I do! I think i'm the keeper of that title. You guys can fight me for it but you're gonna go down! Gotta go... plaything needs to spank me Feel the hate... Photos here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #11 May 26, 2004 Triple posting on your own thread! ... I think you owe beer ... And nobody better be looking up my threads on this.. I am innocent dammit! _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #12 May 26, 2004 QuoteSo how many dates should you go out on before throwing in the towel? Well.....I can say this. Don't be in a rush. You act like you have to get to the theatre before the movie is over. If you had a good time and she had a good time and you both want to go out again.....do so. If you find that it seems like a hassle or there are other things you would rather be doing.......don't bother with her. I had one last year that made my stomach feel funny. Unfortunately, I'm not lactose intolerant. (I even left the DZ early one day because she had a bad day and wanted to take a bubble bath at my house. Crazy I tell you!!!) Thank God she got scared and started acting crazy. Otherwise.......I could have been in serious trouble by now. WHEW!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #13 May 26, 2004 give her another date or two... shy people need to warm up sometimes. BUT... chemistry is very very very important... so if you don't see it soon... cut away. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #14 May 26, 2004 QuoteQuoteBut who am I? certainly not a relationship expert! You have even less claim to that title than I do! So..are you saying that we just might be a match made in heaven, Clay? We know nothing..so that makes us know about the same? _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #15 May 26, 2004 QuoteSo..are you saying that we just might be a match made in heaven, Clay? I'll chase you around manifest a time or two! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #16 May 26, 2004 QuoteQuoteSo..are you saying that we just might be a match made in heaven, Clay? I'll chase you around manifest a time or two! Betcha can't catch me...did you see how long my legs are? I have a loooong stride! But I do like your taste in music... _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lawrocket 3 #17 May 26, 2004 Chemistry is good, but isn't everything. I'll put it this way. last April, I had a lot of chemistry with this awesome gal I met one night. Great chemistry for a whole week. Didn't last. It was a bomb - explosive chemistry that ran out. On the other hand, my wife was someone with whom there was a little, but not much. (there was none ten years ago). Like a strike of a match, it lit the fuse, that lit the blasting cap that blew the dynamite. it keeps building, too, with no signs of fizzle. I'd have answered that question so differently a year ago. Back when I thought I knew what love was and instead was an ignorant ass. My wife is hotter than your wife. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #18 May 26, 2004 QuoteI'd have answered that question so differently a year ago. Back when I thought I knew what love was and instead was an ignorant ass. After reading many of your posts, I highly doubt that you were ever an "ignorant ass" about love, Jerry! However, when it comes to love, we can only learn more and more as the years go by and as we gain more experience...good or bad. Love is a never-ending journey...Edited: Geno, I think that a certain amount of chemistry must be there between you two, in order for something to develop. There must be at least an initial spark. Also, chemistry cannot necessarily be manufactured by you/your mind towards someone whom you like...you must FEEL it from within. Sometimes, you cannot explain an animal attraction to someone else. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #19 May 26, 2004 QuoteChemistry is good, but isn't everything. chemistry is also something you can create if your both willing to put the time and energy into it...sometimes its there from the start, sometimes it evolves... ive always prefered the 'wave' analogy.sometimes your right together with someone, 'synced' on the same wave, other times your many cycles apart. if your lucky enough to meet while close to the same wave? "its chemistry!!" but change the timing slightly and suddenly you might wonder how you ever started talking at all....... but if your willing to put the energy into it isnt hard to get it together... of course that assumes you dont put artificial barriers up with thoughts like.." this isnt working, the chemistry just isnt there.." because of course then it wont be.... timing is everything, but your not a slave to it unless you (or she) chooses to be..____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #20 May 26, 2004 Quotedid you see how long my legs are? Oh........I didn't miss those........ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
headoverheels 334 #21 May 26, 2004 What have you done to date, on these magic encounters? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #22 May 26, 2004 A)give it a chance BUT don't put any rules or stipulations on it, if it's gonna happen, it'll happen. If not, you more than likely have a good friend because of it. Except, if she can't handle you at the DZ every weekend skydiving and won't hang out, CUT her away NOW :) FWIW, Skye n I started out slow. I didn't see any spark at first so we just hung out as friends. I was too focused on what I thought was the perfect woman. After awhile, I started to realize that she was right there the whole time...I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
genoyamamoto 0 #23 May 27, 2004 Quotegive her another date or two... shy people need to warm up sometimes. BUT... chemistry is very very very important... so if you don't see it soon... cut away. That's kinda what I was thinking but it's nice to know that other people are thinking that way! Damn those shy people!!!! Gotta go... plaything needs to spank me Feel the hate... Photos here Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #24 May 27, 2004 "FWIW, Skye n I started out slow. I didn't see any spark at first so we just hung out as friends. I was too focused on what I thought was the perfect woman. After awhile, I started to realize that she was right there the whole time... " OMG!! How sweet...and for you to acknowledge that on a public forum is even more sweet. I'm sure she is flattered! I just love hearing about happy people in love...*sniff sniff* _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chopchop 0 #25 May 27, 2004 Give it a few more dates.. if she still doesn't put out.. dump her like last week's leftovers.. chopchop gotta go... Plaything needs a spanking.. Lotsa Pictures Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
