freeasabird 0 #26 May 30, 2004 I know how you feel. I am facing some hard times myself. Just when everything seemed to be looking up in my life - POW!, I get hit with some really, really bad luck! To get through all of this I had to take a step back and look at my life to see what it all meant. This introspective look helped me to see what I have been wasting my time on in my life, and what I need to spend more time on in the future. A very good friend of mine bought me a book to read which he claimed would put my life into perspective. The name of the book is "The Purpose Driven Life". It is a religious publication that I highly recommend. It has helped lift my spirits tremendously these past few weeks. If religion is not your thing, then another book given to me by my wife may be more up your alley. It is called "How To Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie. This book offers many tips on how to put your worst problems into perspective. It does so mainly by presenting true stories of people that had some of the worst things imaginable happen to them - but yet still managed to get through it all. After reading some of those stories you will think, "Man! I thought I had it bad!" In fact, if I could tell you the story of what is happening with me right now, I am pretty sure you would probably say something like, "Holy shit! I'm glad I'm not you!" Maybe your problems aren't that bad and you are just looking for somewhere to vent your angst. But if you ever get in one of those ruts that seem to suck you in and won't let go, keep these books I mentioned in mind. Good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slug 1 #27 May 30, 2004 QuoteQuoteStressing about getting my A and the rest of my gear. Now I have heard EVERYTHING. Stressing about your A and gear??? Your A and gear??? I can see work related, family related, but you better not be "stressing" about fucking gear and an A. Buck Hi Beerlight IMO Different strokes for different strokes. Sometime I'll tell you about how bad I felt when I broke a finger nail, and a rainstorm ruined my fresh hair doo all in the same year. R.I.P. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Beerlight 0 #28 May 30, 2004 QuoteQuoteQuoteStressing about getting my A and the rest of my gear. Now I have heard EVERYTHING. Stressing about your A and gear??? Your A and gear??? I can see work related, family related, but you better not be "stressing" about fucking gear and an A. Buck Hi Beerlight IMO Different strokes for different strokes. Sometime I'll tell you about how bad I felt when I broke a finger nail, and a rainstorm ruined my fresh hair doo all in the same year. R.I.P. My apologies. I guess that really is something to worry about...... Finger nail, huh? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
damion75 0 #29 May 30, 2004 Dude, I have told you before that doctors / radiologists rock! Chin up!! Personally I have had about 6 hours sleep in the last 60hrs but I am high as a kite because I get out of this place (Iraq) in only 7 weeks and then I have the whole summer to jump my tits off!! *************** Not one shred of evidence supports the theory that life is serious - look at the platypus. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrad 0 #30 May 30, 2004 Cheers Frank, Glad you're heading back soon, keep your head down out there. maybe we can share some air when you get back. J When an author is too meticulous about his style, you may presume that his mind is frivolous and his content flimsy. Lucius Annaeus Seneca Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
damion75 0 #31 May 30, 2004 Great idea - PM inbound.*************** Not one shred of evidence supports the theory that life is serious - look at the platypus. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airtwardo 7 #32 May 30, 2004 QuoteIm just majorly stressed out and need a little way to vent. Quote Kinda funny how you know what's wrong.. and you know how to help fix it already?! Venting is good...and we're all here for bro. It great how much this bunch of special interest like minded air junkies supports one another. Someone here no doubt has BTDT and can offer a bit... Wendy...whom I've never met personally, assisted my family 'way above the call' during a recent crisis. All I did was ask...(Thanks girl) But back to my point... You seem to know what's not working in your life right now. It's disturbing you...but as humans we all resist drastic change until the discomfort of the situation becomes enough we're prompted to action. A lot of little things can link together to make a bigger feeling of dissatisfaction... Try breaking them down and changing a little at a time... SO being unreasonable? Talk about it...won't get better? Buy a new one! Job sucks? Start formulating a plan to get where you really wanna be in that area of your life. Just the process of working on the details of correcting a negative situation is positive therapy, in that you know inside you're taking steps to get right with things. Be honest w/ yourself health wise.... no one else is gonna care if YOU don't... Are you drinking / drugging / not eating / sleeping / exercising right? Get some fresh O2 & clean blood in the brain and you might be shocked at how clearer things seem to be. Like you...I believe it's just a ride. And none of us get out alive... so if you don't like the ride the way it is... Get to working on changing your part of it... If you can't change it enough right away, maybe just change the way you're looking at it. You've taken destiny in your own hands many times leaving that jump door... with far greater and immediate consequences should you fail.... Take that experience and translate it to your day to day. You've proven you can handle the high speed life & death chapter... Get your priorities in line... the black & white ~ day to day is cake! You and me both...have gotta a lotta trips around the sun still ahead of us. And trust me it's going to get both better AND worse... that's a given. The greatest thing about this little meaningless adventure book we're all in, is the only pages written on are yesterdays... Get out a COLORED pen and get creative! See ya up there! ~ If you choke a Smurf, what color does it turn? ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phillbo 11 #33 May 31, 2004 4. Smile and say hello to strangers Best advice I have seen so far !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Makes me feel good .. and you get a little chuckle knowing they are thinking " why did that goober just smile at me ?" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyIvan 0 #34 May 31, 2004 Quote4. Smile and say hello to strangers Best advice I have seen so far !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Makes me feel good .. and you get a little chuckle knowing they are thinking " why did that goober just smile at me ?" Yeah...but don't try that in NJ or NY, you'll get a very loud FUCK YOU __________________________________________ Blue Skies and May the Force be with you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slug 1 #35 May 31, 2004 QuoteQuote4. Smile and say hello to strangers Best advice I have seen so far !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Makes me feel good .. and you get a little chuckle knowing they are thinking " why did that goober just smile at me ?" Yeah...but don't try that in NJ or NY, you'll get a very loud FUCK YOU Hi CrazyIvan Hell I live in the PNW and I say Howdy neighbor and wave but he runs and hides, His wife asked me why I'm being so nice and please stop saying hello. It makes them nervous because they can't figure what I'm up to. Of course now I drive by their place more often and say Howdy neighbor wave and smile. I'm waiting for the Fuck you or the shotgun blast or both. R.I.P. BTW Spent 19 yr's in the Bronx, Fuck you is same as good morning. Nothing personnal Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacefuljeffrey 0 #36 May 31, 2004 QuoteQuoteHang tight.........it WILL pass. Are you sure? Cause, I don't know..............I'm tired of this ride too. J Guys, gals, tough it out, no matter how bad it might seem. Just remember that you've got eternity to be dead -- no point in rushing it. --Jeffrey "With tha thoughts of a militant mind... Hard line, hard line after hard line!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #37 May 31, 2004 Hey Kai, Just when you think you've had enough, think of other people that have life worse. Hang in there, see you in August.May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tcnelson 1 #38 May 31, 2004 no"Don't talk to me like that assface...I don't work for you yet." - Fletch NBFT, Deseoso Rodriguez RB#1329 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kramer 0 #39 May 31, 2004 Hang in there bros. Just remember, whatever you're going through, there is someone out there who has made it through worse. Stay strong. The FAKE KRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMER!!!!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
catfishhunter 2 #40 May 31, 2004 Life is a Journey not a destination. Keep the wheels rollin' and you never know whats just around the bendI have felt that way many times through out my life. I am just lucky that that 2 boxes of over the counter sleeping pills and 1 1/2 cases of beer was only enough to make me sleep for 2 days and wake up really really sick in a pool of vomit. Don't ever want to get that low again. As of this very minute I have 841 days 8 hours and 5 minutes Clean! Recovery didn't just save my Life it fucking gave me a LIFE!..... Ok gotta go first load is at 10 am!!!! MAKE EVERY DAY COUNT Life is Short and we never know how long we are going to have. We must live life to the fullest EVERY DAY. Everything we do should have a greater purpose. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LoudDan 0 #41 May 31, 2004 Dude if you really think things can't get worse..........always remember, you could also be covered in shit. Sounds stupid, but anytime I start to get really depressed I think that quick little thought and start to laugh. And a laugh my friend is some powerful stuff. Coming soon to a bowl of Wheaties near you!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
steve1 5 #42 May 31, 2004 I've known several people who at one time in their life were serious about killing themselves. Years later nearly all said they were so glad they didn't do it. Life had changed for them dramatically as time passed. I knew one guy who had just been through a bitter divorce and he felt like he was also losing his kids. He was very close to offing himself. Years later he told me of how he was taking his son hunting and doing other things with his kids, and how happy he now was. He said it scared him to think back to how close he had come to dieing by his own hand. They did a study once of survivors of suicide. There was a very high bridge that sometimes people jumped off of to kill themselves. Not all of them died though. Someone decided to interview those who survived. One question asked, was "What was going through your head as you were falling to your death?" Every one of them said, "I wish I hadn't jumped, but it was too late." Down deep a depressed person, contemplating suicide, does not want to die. They are just tired of suffering and can't see a way out of it. Many even think the world would be a better place if they were gone. Of course they aren't thinking rationally, but down deep this is often what they are thinking. I know this is hard for many people to understand because they have never been there for any length of time. It's an extremely low feeling that often lasts for weeks or even months. Saying that we all feel bad at times, isn't going to help because a suicidal person knows you don't understand. My suggestion Kai2k1 would be to realize that there is a way out of the hole you find yourself in now. Now is the time to summon all your courage and to fight. Find a counselor that is worth talking to. Some are a lot better than others. Talking can help a lot. If you have health insurance you may be covered. I know counseling can be expensive. Also don't isolate yourself. Many depressed people do this, but you need other people who care about you (particularly now). Don't turn to alcohol or drugs...this will make it worse. You may also need to realize that you do have problems with depression. Many people have trouble coming to grips with this, because they don't know any other way of living. We all may have had fleeting thoughts of suicide. If these feelings keep coming back, and if you have a plan in mind...these are all serious signs. It does no good to deny the seriousness of all this. As Artwardo mentioned start working in a positive direction that will change all this. E-mail me, if you want, we all need someone to talk to, at times....Steve1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #43 June 1, 2004 QuoteQuoteQuoteHang tight.........it WILL pass. Are you sure? Cause, I don't know..............I'm tired of this ride too. J Guys, gals, tough it out, no matter how bad it might seem. Just remember that you've got eternity to be dead -- no point in rushing it. well thats one way of looking at it.....____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NoShitThereIWas 0 #44 June 2, 2004 Kai, I just saw ya this weekend and didn't realize you were in such a rut! We should have gone and made a jump or something! Is there anyway you can cut back on some work hours? 65 hours is alot. All work and no play, well you know. As far as matters with the SO always on your back. Yeah, that kinda sucks and I am not the best person to go to for marital advice. In my earlier years I would have said, stick around try harder to make it work, yada yada yada, I think now I would just say life is too short cutaway. Since I know nothing about your situation, I will just keep my mouth shut. But getting your "A" should not be a stress factor! That IS something I can help you with. Heck, Todd just did his checkout dive and we had a great time! I got him all signed off and he is ready to go. If there is anything I can help you out with related to skydiving just ask! Also, a group of us are going fishing, floating and skydiving next weekend. Maybe you should get away for the weekend and join us. I can guarantee it will be fun. Breakaway from what is bothering you for a while and try and find some fun and peace. PM me anytime!Roy Bacon: "Elvises, light your fires." Sting: "Be yourself no matter what they say." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #45 June 2, 2004 kai... you need an air bath! you stink! seriously.. hang in there, bro. we all go through some shit. this, like everything else, will pass. PM me if you want to vent. we're all here for yah bud. 321cya, Liz Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DrunkMonkey 0 #46 June 2, 2004 QuoteAnyone else feel the same way? Yes. Solution: 12 hrs sleep, delivery gourmet food, mindshattering sex, skydive. Repeat as needed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kai2k1 0 #47 June 2, 2004 The air bath and coach jump on sunday definetly helped. Also the weather has broken after a week of severe storms. Things are looking up. All in all thanks for all of your concerns. I'm glad to know that so many of you were concerned enough to post and to the one that called the DZ to have them check on me, Thanks..Jen, As soon as I get the rest of my gear and my A im going to throttle it back to about 50 hrs a week. I wish i could make it out there with you all this weekend, but as always I can't. Im hoping to have enough saved by the end of the month to get my rig and finish out my A. There's no truer sense of flying than sky diving," Scott Cowan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #48 June 3, 2004 Save some of that energy for WFFCMay your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #49 June 3, 2004 Quote... SO always on my ASS. Rent cheesey pornos with half-hearted plot and watch them together...that's good for a laugh!! -And maybe something else too, if you're lucky... There's a great one that's a spoof on Star Trek...it was so funny we didn't get anything 'done' after watching it...~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedRacer 1 #50 June 3, 2004 yep I know how this feels. nothing to do with skydiving, and nothing self-destructive but,...does anyone ELSE ever feel the need to tell the whole world to JUST FUCK OFF!!!!! Speed Racer -------------------------------------------------- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
