Sabre2th 0 #1 June 16, 2004 Hey all, I posted a few weeks ago about me having problems with the girlfriend and us going on a "break". Well, she still insists that she wants things to "work out" between us. I can't take this tourture anymore. There are underlying reasons for her doing this, I just know it. I am sorry to vent to you all, but my "best friend" is the other part to this equation if you catch my drift. Is this ever going to get better? I have had breakups, but none have hurt this bad... not even close. Going to the dz helps, but I can't go all the time. Its so pathetic, I don't eat hardly and can't sleep... life can be such a bitch sometimes. I am usually not one to complain, but this has taken every last bit of my sanity..... At this point I just want to get over it and stop hurting. Anyone want to go drink with me? Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sabre2th 0 #2 June 16, 2004 I'll buy... Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Damion 0 #3 June 16, 2004 like my dad would always say, "pull up your panties" or the classic, "what? does your pussy hurt." with that said, dont take it to serious. if you have having problems, do you really think that a few weeks is gonna cure what a few (fill in amount of time together here) months took to break? :) one last thing, im horrible at giving advice. from experience, i had a girlfriend for 1 1/2 years and we have been broken up almost a year........ it still hurts. good luck with all your ventures. :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misskriss 0 #4 June 16, 2004 Love shouldn't hurt that bad... remember that we have all had our hearts broken... Remember that when one door closes another one will open. Something much better will be waiting for you... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Beerlight 0 #5 June 16, 2004 Forgive and forget....... is best. If that is the issue here? People make mistakes....just ask my girlfriend. B2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Sabre2th 0 #6 June 16, 2004 I have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skydiver30960 0 #7 June 16, 2004 QuoteI have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles Hehe good one... Yeah, and I bet you love "jumpin'" her, huh? But trust me, she'll end up like all the others... taking all your money, all your time, she's always on your back (I like that one), and in your heart you know it's only a matter of time before you are going to have to cut her away! Elvisio "mine's named Javelin" Rodriguez Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Beerlight 0 #8 June 16, 2004 QuoteI have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles See, humor is the best medicine..... Now, chin up meester, and no more sulking!! Walk tall, stand proud, and don't take no shit offa nobody!!! B2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites TypicalFish 0 #9 June 16, 2004 The cutaway handle is the big red one..."I gargle no man's balls..." ussfpa on SOCNET Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ACMESkydiver 0 #10 June 16, 2004 QuoteQuoteI have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles Hehe good one... Yeah, and I bet you love "jumpin'" her, huh? But trust me, she'll end up like all the others... taking all your money, all your time, she's always on your back (I like that one), and in your heart you know it's only a matter of time before you are going to have to cut her away! Elvisio "mine's named Javelin" Rodriguez That's good stuff... Hey don't worry about it Sabre...I'm sure you'll have the girls all over ya once they find you're single again, and the pain will melt away very fast. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites smellysue 0 #11 June 16, 2004 hey mate it will may never go compleatly but it will get easier to handle and kind of hide at the back of yor mind. Non of my break-ups have every hurt but if i was to lose Jumpmunki i would be heart broken so going on that i say you must really love this lass even after she has hurt you. In that case sit down talk to her and tell her how you feel this can't hurt mate trust me. if she wants the relationship to work she will do what you would like and come to some sort of agreement that wil help ease the pain of what ever happened (if you get my drift) I feel for you mate and wish you all the best problems do get easier and sorted if you are proparied to talk... Good luck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites yeehaa 0 #12 June 16, 2004 I can't see how you could still be friends with either of them. I had a friend (not a best friend) screw the girl I was in a semi-casual relationship (long story) and I was fairly pissed off. But I didn't really care about her so I cut her loose immediately and told him he could have her. He realised she was obviously a bit of a tramp and told her not to contact him again. She lost bigtime. He and I still see each other occasionaly because of mutual friends but our friendship is nothing like it once was. The reason for this big rant is that in my experience things will never be the same with either of them. Best to cut your losses in my opinion. Good luck. Life does not cease to be funny when people die any more than it ceases to be serious when people laugh. George Bernard Shaw Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites turtlespeed 226 #13 June 16, 2004 QuoteIn that case sit down talk to her and tell her how you feel this can't hurt mate trust me. I disagree - past experiance is screaming at me to say that if she could do the cheating thing, with one of your friends even, she is kniving enough to use the "I love you" speech to use you and hurt you even more. *Sigh* What is it they say - Good Judgement comes from experiance, and experiance comes from bad judgement.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Sabre2th 0 #14 June 16, 2004 Thanks all...this stuff really does help. I am still talking to her, and yes she does the "I love you" thing... and somehow I still believe her. I have no direct proof of anything ever happening. You are right, I should cut my losses. My "friend" has become distant also. Oh well.... Thing do happen for a reason. Any skydiving chick looking for a good time? Just kidding! This is why I love the skydiving community...THANK YOU! Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites metalslug 36 #15 June 16, 2004 Quote I am still talking to her, and yes she does the "I love you" thing... and somehow I still believe her. I have no direct proof of anything ever happening. You are right, I should cut my losses. My "friend" has become distant also. Oh well.... I dont mean to be a nasty critic but... Are you sure you're not being a little paranoid ? Could it be that your "friend" may be getting distant, not from guilt or a conflict of interest, but because he feels insulted by what you might be implying of him? The strength of a bond is measured by the force required to break it. I wouldn't throw a relationship away unless the facts were both crystal clear and unforgivable. Dont always assume the worst. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Sabre2th 0 #16 June 16, 2004 I don't really think that is the issue anymore. I feel we have gotten past all that, but she insists on us doing this, and how it is the best idea right now. I just think she has other reasons.... I am not usually paranoid, but i have this feeling. He has told me before that he had feelings for her, they dated for a week before me and her got together...go figure. Whatever...I just need to get over it and go to the dz this weekend, party and jump my ass off Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites metalslug 36 #17 June 16, 2004 Quote...but she insists on us doing this, and how it is the best idea right now. I just think she has other reasons.... I am not usually paranoid, but i have this feeling. He has told me before that he had feelings for her... Perhaps she wants to strengthen or "confirm" her relationship with you in order to send a message to your "friend". Maybe he is trying to get her, and the best defence or excuse she has against his advances is to show him that she's already taken.. by you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Sabre2th 0 #18 June 16, 2004 She hangs out with him all the time...they have known each other for 6 years...It sound like she sees him as a friend, but he wants something more.....we'll see what happens. If she really wants this to work, then I will hear from her one day. I feel as though she thinks she cannot lose me to someone else. Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites WrongWay 0 #19 June 16, 2004 Listen bro, it sounds like you're in a bad situation that's getting worse by the minute. You need to cut away soon or it's only going to hurt worse in the end. If there's another guy involved like you say there is, then that alone, for me at least, would be more than enough reason to end it without question. Relationships are built on trust. If there is infidelity, then where is the trust? Do what is right for you. It may hurt for a while, but it's better than torturing yourself by being in a relationship like that. Like I said, do what's right for you. I'll buy you a drink next time I meet you bro. You deserve it. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mgerra28 0 #20 June 16, 2004 Is she a jumper or whuffo? All i gotta say is whuffo chicks are good for one thing and that gets old after you've missed a few week-ends doing what you love. Goto a few boogies theres always people there who need TLC. And if your any good you may get a free pack job!!!!!!http://www.skydivethefarm.com don't sweat the small stuff, in fact don't sweat at all,, you get smelly!! ORFUN #2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Faber 0 #21 June 16, 2004 QuoteI have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles so why should we feel sorry for you? your not better than your x... get a life... EDIT: just to add that i dont know the rest of the storry,but i dont feel sorry for cheaters.. Stay safe Stefan Faber Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Sabre2th 0 #22 June 16, 2004 Stefan....I meant my rig...MIRAGE, get it? EDIT: I bought her a tandem once....but other than that, no she does not jump. Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jonege 0 #23 June 16, 2004 I have heard all of this stuff before from a girl I used to date, and in my case, there was definitely a "reason." Apparently, she had come to the conclusion that she did not want to be with me, but rather with one of her friend's boyfriend. However, she wasn't sure about it, and she did not want to cut me loose until she WAS sure. So instead, she gave me a bunch of business about how she loved me and ultimately wanted to be with me, but she needed a break to work on herself. This went on for several months, primarily because I WANTED to believe her. But eventually, I did a little checking, and it was very apparent she was seeing someone else (all the while still telling me she wanted things to work out with me). Finally she got to a point where she was pretty sure she wanted to be with the other guy, and at that point, she got very ugly with me and basically told me to get lost. It was an ugly scene and it hurt, but it also made it very easy to let go. On the bright side, though, after a couple of months to get past it, a friend at work introduced me to a girl he had been telling me about for months (he knew my other relationship was in a non-recoverable tailspin). Meeting her was like a revelation for me, as she and I had a tremendous amount in common and right off the bat seemed way more compatible than I ever felt the other girl and I were. After dating for 2 1/2 years, this new girl and I married, and now after almost 4 years of marriage, we are happier than ever. So, as someone else mentioned, frequently when one door closes (in my case, it literally closed, as she slammed the door in my face the last time I saw her!), another opens. Finally, I can't say the situation with your girlfriend is the same--maybe it's not; but I can say that usually when a person says they need a "break," that is NOT a good sign and it usually means it's over. I know that can be painful and scary to think about because you get used to being with someone and the idea of then having to go back to going it alone can be a bummer. But being in a bad or tumultuous relationship is worse than being on your own. Good luck, be strong and have confidence that you will eventually find someone better suited for you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Slappie 9 #24 June 16, 2004 I don't normally get in on these personal posts about relationships and such.. But here goes.. Quit being a pussy, dump the hoe, move on.. You're a fucking skydiver.. don't dwell on it.. There are wayyyyyyyy to many chix in this world to worry about one who's probably fucking your so called best friend. Intuition is normally always right. Sorry to be an ass about this, but life is short.. Don't sit and let someone else makes yours miserable. Tough cookie bro, she turned out to be a skank. Live and learn.. /flame on baybay!! 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Beerlight 0 #5 June 16, 2004 Forgive and forget....... is best. If that is the issue here? People make mistakes....just ask my girlfriend. B2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sabre2th 0 #6 June 16, 2004 I have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiver30960 0 #7 June 16, 2004 QuoteI have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles Hehe good one... Yeah, and I bet you love "jumpin'" her, huh? But trust me, she'll end up like all the others... taking all your money, all your time, she's always on your back (I like that one), and in your heart you know it's only a matter of time before you are going to have to cut her away! Elvisio "mine's named Javelin" Rodriguez Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Beerlight 0 #8 June 16, 2004 QuoteI have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles See, humor is the best medicine..... Now, chin up meester, and no more sulking!! Walk tall, stand proud, and don't take no shit offa nobody!!! B2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TypicalFish 0 #9 June 16, 2004 The cutaway handle is the big red one..."I gargle no man's balls..." ussfpa on SOCNET Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ACMESkydiver 0 #10 June 16, 2004 QuoteQuoteI have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles Hehe good one... Yeah, and I bet you love "jumpin'" her, huh? But trust me, she'll end up like all the others... taking all your money, all your time, she's always on your back (I like that one), and in your heart you know it's only a matter of time before you are going to have to cut her away! Elvisio "mine's named Javelin" Rodriguez That's good stuff... Hey don't worry about it Sabre...I'm sure you'll have the girls all over ya once they find you're single again, and the pain will melt away very fast. ~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smellysue 0 #11 June 16, 2004 hey mate it will may never go compleatly but it will get easier to handle and kind of hide at the back of yor mind. Non of my break-ups have every hurt but if i was to lose Jumpmunki i would be heart broken so going on that i say you must really love this lass even after she has hurt you. In that case sit down talk to her and tell her how you feel this can't hurt mate trust me. if she wants the relationship to work she will do what you would like and come to some sort of agreement that wil help ease the pain of what ever happened (if you get my drift) I feel for you mate and wish you all the best problems do get easier and sorted if you are proparied to talk... Good luck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yeehaa 0 #12 June 16, 2004 I can't see how you could still be friends with either of them. I had a friend (not a best friend) screw the girl I was in a semi-casual relationship (long story) and I was fairly pissed off. But I didn't really care about her so I cut her loose immediately and told him he could have her. He realised she was obviously a bit of a tramp and told her not to contact him again. She lost bigtime. He and I still see each other occasionaly because of mutual friends but our friendship is nothing like it once was. The reason for this big rant is that in my experience things will never be the same with either of them. Best to cut your losses in my opinion. Good luck. Life does not cease to be funny when people die any more than it ceases to be serious when people laugh. George Bernard Shaw Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
turtlespeed 226 #13 June 16, 2004 QuoteIn that case sit down talk to her and tell her how you feel this can't hurt mate trust me. I disagree - past experiance is screaming at me to say that if she could do the cheating thing, with one of your friends even, she is kniving enough to use the "I love you" speech to use you and hurt you even more. *Sigh* What is it they say - Good Judgement comes from experiance, and experiance comes from bad judgement.I'm not usually into the whole 3-way thing, but you got me a little excited with that. - Skymama BTR #1 / OTB^5 Official #2 / Hellfish #408 / VSCR #108/Tortuga/Orfun Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sabre2th 0 #14 June 16, 2004 Thanks all...this stuff really does help. I am still talking to her, and yes she does the "I love you" thing... and somehow I still believe her. I have no direct proof of anything ever happening. You are right, I should cut my losses. My "friend" has become distant also. Oh well.... Thing do happen for a reason. Any skydiving chick looking for a good time? Just kidding! This is why I love the skydiving community...THANK YOU! Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
metalslug 36 #15 June 16, 2004 Quote I am still talking to her, and yes she does the "I love you" thing... and somehow I still believe her. I have no direct proof of anything ever happening. You are right, I should cut my losses. My "friend" has become distant also. Oh well.... I dont mean to be a nasty critic but... Are you sure you're not being a little paranoid ? Could it be that your "friend" may be getting distant, not from guilt or a conflict of interest, but because he feels insulted by what you might be implying of him? The strength of a bond is measured by the force required to break it. I wouldn't throw a relationship away unless the facts were both crystal clear and unforgivable. Dont always assume the worst. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sabre2th 0 #16 June 16, 2004 I don't really think that is the issue anymore. I feel we have gotten past all that, but she insists on us doing this, and how it is the best idea right now. I just think she has other reasons.... I am not usually paranoid, but i have this feeling. He has told me before that he had feelings for her, they dated for a week before me and her got together...go figure. Whatever...I just need to get over it and go to the dz this weekend, party and jump my ass off Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
metalslug 36 #17 June 16, 2004 Quote...but she insists on us doing this, and how it is the best idea right now. I just think she has other reasons.... I am not usually paranoid, but i have this feeling. He has told me before that he had feelings for her... Perhaps she wants to strengthen or "confirm" her relationship with you in order to send a message to your "friend". Maybe he is trying to get her, and the best defence or excuse she has against his advances is to show him that she's already taken.. by you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sabre2th 0 #18 June 16, 2004 She hangs out with him all the time...they have known each other for 6 years...It sound like she sees him as a friend, but he wants something more.....we'll see what happens. If she really wants this to work, then I will hear from her one day. I feel as though she thinks she cannot lose me to someone else. Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WrongWay 0 #19 June 16, 2004 Listen bro, it sounds like you're in a bad situation that's getting worse by the minute. You need to cut away soon or it's only going to hurt worse in the end. If there's another guy involved like you say there is, then that alone, for me at least, would be more than enough reason to end it without question. Relationships are built on trust. If there is infidelity, then where is the trust? Do what is right for you. It may hurt for a while, but it's better than torturing yourself by being in a relationship like that. Like I said, do what's right for you. I'll buy you a drink next time I meet you bro. You deserve it. Wrong Way D #27371 Mal Manera Rodriguez Cajun Chicken Ø Hellfish #451 The wiser wolf prevails. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mgerra28 0 #20 June 16, 2004 Is she a jumper or whuffo? All i gotta say is whuffo chicks are good for one thing and that gets old after you've missed a few week-ends doing what you love. Goto a few boogies theres always people there who need TLC. And if your any good you may get a free pack job!!!!!!http://www.skydivethefarm.com don't sweat the small stuff, in fact don't sweat at all,, you get smelly!! ORFUN #2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faber 0 #21 June 16, 2004 QuoteI have a new girlfriend anyway....see I've been cheating on my ex with this girl Mirage. She has all kinds of handles so why should we feel sorry for you? your not better than your x... get a life... EDIT: just to add that i dont know the rest of the storry,but i dont feel sorry for cheaters.. Stay safe Stefan Faber Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sabre2th 0 #22 June 16, 2004 Stefan....I meant my rig...MIRAGE, get it? EDIT: I bought her a tandem once....but other than that, no she does not jump. Nick. Those who dance, are cosidered insane by those who can't hear the music. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jonege 0 #23 June 16, 2004 I have heard all of this stuff before from a girl I used to date, and in my case, there was definitely a "reason." Apparently, she had come to the conclusion that she did not want to be with me, but rather with one of her friend's boyfriend. However, she wasn't sure about it, and she did not want to cut me loose until she WAS sure. So instead, she gave me a bunch of business about how she loved me and ultimately wanted to be with me, but she needed a break to work on herself. This went on for several months, primarily because I WANTED to believe her. But eventually, I did a little checking, and it was very apparent she was seeing someone else (all the while still telling me she wanted things to work out with me). Finally she got to a point where she was pretty sure she wanted to be with the other guy, and at that point, she got very ugly with me and basically told me to get lost. It was an ugly scene and it hurt, but it also made it very easy to let go. On the bright side, though, after a couple of months to get past it, a friend at work introduced me to a girl he had been telling me about for months (he knew my other relationship was in a non-recoverable tailspin). Meeting her was like a revelation for me, as she and I had a tremendous amount in common and right off the bat seemed way more compatible than I ever felt the other girl and I were. After dating for 2 1/2 years, this new girl and I married, and now after almost 4 years of marriage, we are happier than ever. So, as someone else mentioned, frequently when one door closes (in my case, it literally closed, as she slammed the door in my face the last time I saw her!), another opens. Finally, I can't say the situation with your girlfriend is the same--maybe it's not; but I can say that usually when a person says they need a "break," that is NOT a good sign and it usually means it's over. I know that can be painful and scary to think about because you get used to being with someone and the idea of then having to go back to going it alone can be a bummer. But being in a bad or tumultuous relationship is worse than being on your own. Good luck, be strong and have confidence that you will eventually find someone better suited for you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #24 June 16, 2004 I don't normally get in on these personal posts about relationships and such.. But here goes.. Quit being a pussy, dump the hoe, move on.. You're a fucking skydiver.. don't dwell on it.. There are wayyyyyyyy to many chix in this world to worry about one who's probably fucking your so called best friend. Intuition is normally always right. Sorry to be an ass about this, but life is short.. Don't sit and let someone else makes yours miserable. Tough cookie bro, she turned out to be a skank. Live and learn.. /flame on baybay!! "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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