My Boss Hired His Girlfriend

[Evelyn 0]

He could never have gotten away with it if we were at the corporate offfice, but since we are a jobsite office he pretty much has free reign. She's nice enough, but what pisses me off is the special treatment she gets from sleeping with the boss. Examples: I work my 40 hour week and then some, never asked for overtime, was never offered. But it works out because if I occasionally come in late or leave early I'm not docked. My bosses girlfriend gets paid overtime for the time she spends waiting for him to leave (they usually drive together). Another example: She took off like 6 days the first month she worked, the rest of us were forced to put in extra hours. Another example: We have 1/2 hour lunch but she and the boss go out together for long lunches. Another example: She's making her own hours. Since she doesn't want to fight traffic she is going to come in early and leave early, okayed it with the boss. So I'm left with no assistant the last hour of the day when it gets busy. I can't really say anything, but am just going to sit back and see what happens. I think either the relationship won't work out (he is on the rebound from a 4 year relationship) or she will get tired of the commute. So for now I'm keeping my mouth shut.

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing ~ Helen Keller

[quade 4]

Keep your mouth shut.

Document everything.

quade -
The World's Most Boring Skydiver

[Evelyn 0]

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Keep your mouth shut.

Document everything.

Oh yeah, I am documenting everything. As far as keeping my mouth shut, I am doing that but a co-worker isn't and some things have already gotten back back to corporate. Will be interesting to see what happens.

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing ~ Helen Keller

[YahooLV 0]

some casual photos might be fun too!

"Oops, did I just take that picture?"

http://www.curtisglennphotography.com

[quade 4]

Well, you wouldn't want to raise suspicion that you were building a doomsday file, but a couple of casual "office party" type photos of him getting snuggly with her wouldn't hurt.

I don't think it would be a good idea to try to blackmail anyone or try to get them in trouble. My guess is that after a period of time this will come to a head all by itself and it's usually "the girl" that ends up going away, getting fired or whatever. The doomsday file is to make sure that you don't get caught up in the aftermath or if you're really taken advantage of.

quade -
The World's Most Boring Skydiver

[Evelyn 0]

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Well, you wouldn't want to raise suspicion that you were building a doomsday file, but a couple of casual "office party" type photos of him getting snuggly with her wouldn't hurt.

f.

We really don't have office parties, but if I borrow my daughters camera phone I may be able to get photos.

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing ~ Helen Keller

[LuvToFly 0]

Ouch!

I know someone that has just been in the same situation not six months ago.

It is so grossly unfair. The same type stuff - special privileges, totally excused absences and lateness. Very lame stuff to see when you are working your butt off and seem to be gettin' nowhere while some bimbo scoops up all the benefits without conscience towards the other people that have to play by the rules.

Keep your file detailed. Especially pay attention to anything that may be a bad reflection on the company, like behavior, language, work being screwed up, not done. done poorly or not done when due.

This is a bad scenario. And for the person I know that went through this - they tried to fire THEM because they knew too much. Long story short however - it was indeed the girlfriend that got canned in the process. Too much evidence on her.

Don't let this bite you. Be a lot smarter -

"The helicopter approaches closer than any other to fulfillment
of mankind's ancient dreams of a magic carpet" - Igor Sikorsky

[Evelyn 0]

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Don't let this bite you. Be a lot smarter -

Thanks for the info. That is exactly my plan, to be a lot smarter. I've been with the co. five years and she's been there a month. I know a lot more people and have a lot more resources. If things get tough on the home front I know exactly where to go ( as a last resort, but at least an option.)

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing ~ Helen Keller

[PhillyKev 0]

Just curious why you find it necessary to bring her down because she has advantages that you don't? Jealousy is a waste of energy. People like that get what's coming to them. Don't waste your time dwelling on it.

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Just curious why you find it necessary to bring her down because she has advantages that you don't? Jealousy is a waste of energy. People like that get what's coming to them. Don't waste your time dwelling on it.

Hi Phillykev

I'm a little surprised at your response based on the challenging situation you've faced in the past because of "them".

This crap will eventually go one way, if/when the shit hits the fan everyone in the office can be hurt. Who know's what the boss is doing with everyones time cards, if he's not paying attention to the company's business some could be a scape goat and maybe not him.

Wonder how many folks see this crap at the DZ.?

If the Boss owned the company than whatever he did at work would be his option, his nickel, etc.

Another soap opera

R.I.P.

[lawrocket 3]

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Keep your mouth shut.

Document everything.

Why? It's just a blowjob or office sex. There's nothign wrong with that, and it has no implications on how he performs his job.

It's just sex. Sex is not a crime. Let's focus on real issues, like the economy. Quade, you right wing conspirator, you.

[Sorry. Just had to add my "Speaker's Corner" commentary.]

Edited to add: I find this conduct unacceptable. I work with my wife, and our employees know that we get affectionate at times. But we are both the bosses, and have equal footing.

My wife is hotter than your wife.

[vonSanta 0]

Hm. Unfair, to be sure.

On the other hand. You got your job, your responsibilities, your set of routines and rules. If they aren't good enough for you, regardless of how other people work, get a new job.

Sometimes, one has to work more and harder for less than others. But, the responsibilities and privileges/paychecks of others matter little to me. I have my deal, which I can accept or discard, and whether others get another 0 at the end of their paycheck for 40 hours less doesn't change that deal.

Nepotism is still ugly. I guess it's all about drawing the line and monitoring the situation, and planning for an out landing.

Santa Von GrossenArsch
I only come in one flavour
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[ScubaSteve 0]

Ive been in the same situation and see what happens to the ones that daicumant everything and try to blow the whistle (SP). Usually all parties involved are terminated and if your boss is a good revenue gererator all will be fired ecept him. I have seen this happen many many times at different companies. I would talk to your boss before going to brass about it. Just explain you frustration in a kind way.

[LuvToFly 0]

Okay, caution, Soapbox ahead!

You're largely fighting a winless battle on this front. In order for ethics to be an issue, you need to have some presuppositions.

Two of them are:

1) You could escalate a situation in a corporation and the persons you escalate to have higher moral values than the activities that you are describing, and thereby, find it offensive

2) They are not more moral, but don't want to get caught approving or ignoring certain written guidelines in a situation based on their own CYA.

The latter is what is suggested by you keeping some documentation on the situation. It's more to protect yourself than harm anyone else.

Many people are passed up for promotions, raises, etc for reasons that are little more than predudicial in the final analysis, and the concept that great and ethical work being rewarded is today, a flawed one at best. The reasons for this are fairly straight-forward:

With the Enron-esk things spilling out on the table, there should have been a wake up call - not to the fact that Enron execs were "bad," but that to think Enron was unique is a joke.

With free enterprise there is a price to be paid. Still the best system in the world, but let's face it, of all the CEO's I know, most of them are lying bastards - and more are "found out" seemingly every month. But it's just a bandaid in this arena where the brutal get rewarded. Some may see that as the natural order of things - survival of the fittest, but it has cost corporations the loyalty of their employees as well. Many employees today would jump ship in a moment for a better deal elsewhere. When one does not get to the top of the pile of a corporation by exhibiting good character or honesty in business, you can expect little relief for such offenses -

The business world is both brutal and merciless, given over to the almighty dollar. Your only recourse is to cover your butt because it will probably be the same elsewhere. Do not for a moment assume that the corporate world is ethical.

Okay, I'm off the soap box now.

"The helicopter approaches closer than any other to fulfillment
of mankind's ancient dreams of a magic carpet" - Igor Sikorsky

[quade 4]

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Why? It's just a blowjob or office sex. There's nothign wrong with that, and it has no implications on how he performs his job.

Absolutely. It's NOBODY'S business who's doing who -- UNLESS it impacts them directly: passed over for a higher position, given unfair work assignments . . .

THAT'S why you keep a doomsday file. Any onther reason isn't justifiable.

AND . . . you should ONLY pull out the doomsday file if it really is doomsday. To do so prematurely could be YOUR doomsday.

quade -
The World's Most Boring Skydiver

[cameramonkey 0]

Just dont get too carried away on the doomsday file or any other investigatory techniques like this poor sap...

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Two wrongs don't make a right, however three lefts DO!

[slug 1]

I've read the referenced newpaper article the whistle blower blew it! He broke the law to collect the evidence and the chain of command was a bunch of good old boy's, so the deck was stacked against him. I doubt if he'll win on appeal, the idiot bugged his bosses computer & the Governor doesn't get involved in petty crap he just passes it back to the good old boy's.

I started a doomsday file five years befor I retired. After I retired it took 2 yr's but Bingo!.

Documentation can work if there are checks and balances and the paper trail is collected in a legal manner.

See below Recent events:

after 9/11 FBI employee pulled out her file about the failure to comunicate within the agency. About questionable flt training requests.

Enron: Acct met with Ken Lay about irregularities. She didn't get anywhere until after the shit hit the fan and Mr lay said he didn't know anything. The juries still out on that one.

Exxon Valdez: had a drunk for a captain the good old boys protected the guy and ended up with a lot of crude oil on there faces.

Blowing a whistle in a good old boys club or in a deaf school won't work. But in the right place at the right time with the correct paper it might help.

Email makes great documtation! Very little effort, hit print button three ring binder, chronoligical order.

R.I.P.

[DJL 235]

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UNLESS it impacts them directly: passed over for a higher position, given unfair work assignments . .

That's exactly what she said, that it's creating an unfair work environment. She's left without an assistant for the busiest hour of the day and gets paid overtime when she does nothing but wait around for her boyfriend the boss.

Eveyln, what you need to do is ask for her assistance during those times in which her absence affects you the most. That way it isn't about favoritism but about her lack of application to her duties. If she's unwilling to give it then you go to your boss and without mentioning his girlfriend tell him that you need more help during these periods.

"I encourage all awesome dangerous behavior." - Jeffro Fincher

[mardigrasbob 0]

Find him a new girlfriend. preferably one with a communicable disease. Problem solved!



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[squirrel 0]

to the orginal poster,

welcome to the real f***ing world. if you dont like your situation in life, which yes can be affected by others, go do your own thing. the sooner you get away from working for other people the better...the energy you spend in "getting even" will just delay your ultimate freedom. really, how much can you benefit from getting back, whats the dollar amount? i would not do anything for under a million, thats just my number. if your gonna go, go big. life is unfair, when it is ruled by someone other than yourself.

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[Evelyn 0]

I think this thread has gotten blown out of proportion. I guess I posted it mainly to vent my frustration with an unfair situation that I can't do anything about. And I don't intend to do anything about it, just live with it and hope for the best. The only time I would do something about it would be if we were running less jobs from our site and only needed one project assistant and he kept her and sent me to another site (I work only a mile from my house so am pretty spoiled), but I don't think he would do that. For the most part I love my job and the people I work with so I can deal with a little inconvenience.

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing ~ Helen Keller

[squirrel 0]

yeah, i used to work for a company where the owner's nephew toured with me...hell, that guy could do no wrong...and i mean no wrong. what would you say if you saw a guy pass out from drinking and smoking pot on the job, and not get canned...well, i no longer work there. and he still does.

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[RkyMtnHigh 0]

Sheesh... I smell t-rouble

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[MarkM 0]

Is this situation supposed to be unusual? If so, I've been living in Florida for too long.