dzdiva 7 #1 July 28, 2004 .....why a 14 year old would feel it necessary to take his own life. I got the call that my friend's son committed suicide. I was at a loss for words. I just didn't know what to say to her. What do you say? What do you do? I'm just not sure. My heart is breaking for her and her husband. Sorry for the downer thread, but I'm just feeling a little lost right now. I can't imagine what she must be feeling right now and I don't know what to do to help her."It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aprilcat 0 #2 July 28, 2004 That is so incredibly sad. My guess is hormones--kids sometimes don't realize that life has its ups and downs and it will get better & even out. Hugs and vibes to you all. How traumatizing.~~April Edited to add: Try to help them find a support group in the area... Camelot II, the Electric Boogaloo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brian425 0 #3 July 28, 2004 Some {{vibes}} to you and to his family. I can't offer anything other than my sympathy. The only time you should look down on someone is when you are offering them your hand. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AirMail 0 #4 July 28, 2004 Oh God that sucks. I'm so sorry. P--- It's never too late to have a happy childhood. Postal Rodriguez, Muff 3342 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #5 July 28, 2004 What you say: "I'm so sorry" and add "Is there anything you need me to do?" only if you mean it. What you do: Give her a hug and a shoulder to cry on whenever she needs it. HUGS AND VIBES!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dzdiva 7 #6 July 28, 2004 QuoteWhat you say: "I'm so sorry" and add "Is there anything you need me to do?" only if you mean it. That is what I said, but somehow it just doesn't seem like enough. As a parent myself, of course my thoughts turned to my son and how precious he is to me. I can only imagine what she must be feeling right now."It's not just a daydream if you choose to make it your life..." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #7 July 28, 2004 Quotewhy a 14 year old would feel it necessary to take his own life the qusetion isn't why qwould a 14 year old, it should be why would someone................ in my mind age plays no difrence in someones disision to end thier own life, they think things are bad and and that it's the only way out.. for an adult it might be depresion about so many diffrent things like money, relationships, family life, work... for a kid it just might be a diffrent set of things like school, friends, grades or any number of things..... to try and figure it out would just makemy brain hurt and that aint good.... people do things for no reason sometimes too... only way to find out is to wait untill it's your trun and then ask em..... ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kris 0 #8 July 28, 2004 *hugs* Sorry that you're going through such a rough time.Sky, Muff Bro, Rodriguez Bro, and Bastion of Purity and Innocence!™ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cocheese 0 #9 July 28, 2004 you need to stick together. She needs someone to drive her around i would assume.And someone to be with and keep her from going over the edge and doing something drastic. I don't know. If you need anything from us just ask. Very Sad. Breathe... let it out. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Evelyn 0 #10 July 28, 2004 So sorry to hear the sad news. Like others have said, just be there for her, a shoulder to cry on, someone to bring meals, drive her around, etc. I think it is especially disturbing when a young person takes their own life. Maybe due to hormones, lack of life experience, everything seeming more intensified. I had a cousin who committed suicide at 16. That was 30 years ago and I don't think my aunt and uncle have gotten over it, but they went through therapy and got on with their lives for the sake of their other children. Thoughts and prayers for you and your friends. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing ~ Helen Keller Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peregrinerose 0 #11 July 28, 2004 I could name a million reasons, but primarily teens tend to be hormonal and easily depressed. There's a way that I have found works with battling those bits of depression and I've shared it primarily with teens... Make mental bookmarks on those moments when death appears better than life. Wait a while, look back at the mentally bookmarked place and all the smiles that have happened since then that would have been missed out on. I had two friends that committed suicide at young ages, there are no words to describe the pain felt by survivors, and there is no complete healing. All you can do is listen and be there, it may not feel like much to you, but you are that ray of hope that will help your friend keep taking one step a a time forward. Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
