Remster 30 #51 August 5, 2004 Quote love my B-sized na-na's b/c I can wear whatever shirt I want and not look slutty, You dont wear the right kinda shirts thenRemster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AndyMan 7 #52 August 5, 2004 QuoteThe reason Americans do not want to see an obese woman in a tiny tube top is b/c our standards here set by the vicious circle of us and the media say that fat is unattractive. I don't think you can blame it on the media. Historically, in times of starvation - being big is attractive. In times of "plenty", being thin is in style. The odd thing is that the western world is experienceing whats basically now 3 generations of relative prosperity, something thats effectively never been seen before. Being "big" hasn't been in style for an awefull long time, and hopefully never will again. _Am__ You put the fun in "funnel" - craichead. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #53 August 5, 2004 QuoteBeing "big" hasn't been in style for an awefull long time, and hopefully never will again. At least our standards are getting better, now, though, with new models and idols and stars who are more healthy-shaped, then looking like a rail with limbs. And just for the records, skinny girls get made fun of just as much as fat ones. I can't count the # of times I've been told to eat a burger. And I do, all the time, so hate me for it, people (not meant to be taken seriously) (edited for spelling)Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #54 August 5, 2004 Two women in their 30's talking: "I can't believe she's dressing like I did when I was her age." I remember the 70's. Bikinis made out of yarn, knitted tighter in some spots. The limits of proper dress are usually determined by women who see another women dressed in an outfit that won't fit them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #55 August 5, 2004 If you feel good about yourself and are happy with the way you are; you can look sexy in a potato sack. Confidence exudes sexy!Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #56 August 5, 2004 QuoteMini-skirts that were shorter than anything I see worn today. Those skirts were so impossibly short that a girl could not sit in any position with any thought of propriety. You obviously live in a shorts skirt deprived area Bill. I've seen underwear from women standing... never mind sitting (and I'm not talking about thongs sticking out from the top of the skirts... lol)Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #57 August 5, 2004 aw, man! ... Now I'm feeling all guilty about wearing those itsy bitsy tops!.. I think I need to go work out now. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,588 #58 August 5, 2004 Excellent post. I'm plus-sized by Hollywood standards (the vast majority of the women on dz.com are). To me, that's a terrible standard, because it sets the standard at the low end of ideal. It's like saying that the only acceptable grades to be proud of in school are A+. I don't see the same "me" in the mirror that others see. But whether that "me" is fatter and older, or younger and thinner with better skin is up to me. And if I wear something someone else thinks I shouldn't due to age or whatever else, well, tough shit. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #59 August 5, 2004 QuoteAnd if I wear something someone else thinks I shouldn't due to age or whatever else, well, tough shit. AMEN!Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
craichead 0 #60 August 5, 2004 Have you seen these rants (from both sides) about exposed fat rolls in Savage Love? http://www.thestranger.com/2004-04-29/savage.html http://www.thestranger.com/2004-05-13/savage.html _Pm__ "Scared of love, love and aeroplanes...falling out, I said takes no brains." -- Andy Partridge (XTC) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gjhdiver 0 #61 August 5, 2004 QuoteHey! Ladies. If you have to look way out over your belly to see your toes the latest midrif exposed look that Britney or Christina are sporting JUST might not be for you, ok? Put on a full shirt, they don't cost any more. (Note: not directed at anyone I know personaly.) Tell me about it. I see women here who must have taken time out from being hooked up to the gravy IV to get into those outfits. Just before I get slammed by the fat police, If you're a guy, and too familiar with the great taste of butter, I want you to keep your damn shirt on too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #62 August 5, 2004 QuoteI want you to keep your damn shirt on too. Make me Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Breezejunky 0 #63 August 5, 2004 Having spent so much of my life over 200 lbs, you would think that I'd disagree with you but I don't. I was always careful to dress as flattering as possible, though at a certain point not very much in the way of casual clothes is flattering. Why do so many fat people put themselves at a further disadvantage? It's hard enough to get people to look past your size and see the person you are. I don't think they really do feel comfortable. Ever notice how often they are picking and pulling at their clothes? I think some people wear these things because they have no clue how bad they look. It might be denial that they've actually gotten that big or perhaps their friends/family, trying not to be mean (or maybe the opposite) tell them they look OK because they think they have to, for whatever reason (maybe they think that person would look crappy no matter what and they don't want to hurt them) Large women can look great and sexy, why would they want to wear something that looks so bad? Why don't they do themselves a favour? When you look good, you feel good. I have also lost a fair amount of weight but like someone else said, the damage is done. I started wearing shorts for the first time just a few years ago. My legs aren't attractive (AT ALL) but I'm cooler in shorts and my legs don't rub any more so why not? I am finally comfortable in my less-than-perfect-40-year-old body and I don't care that shorts don't look great. Having said that, it would be ridiculous and degrading to myself to wear tiny but-cheek, hipsters with a shorty shirt. I agree that the picture of that fat chick with the thong is not funny. It's pathetic. No it's not good for her that she wears a thong. She looks disgusting. Period. Someone may still love her, but you won't convince me that anyone would look at that and feel proud that she's their SO. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #64 August 5, 2004 QuoteYou obviously live in a shorts skirt deprived area Bill I do. Fortunately, I also live near a lot of thong-friendly beaches. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #65 August 5, 2004 Quote I am finally comfortable in my less-than-perfect-40-year-old body and I don't care that shorts don't look great. Having said that, it would be ridiculous and degrading to myself to wear tiny but-cheek, hipsters with a shorty shirt. Funny how you get more tolerance and less self-conscious when you get older, huh? She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Breezejunky 0 #66 August 5, 2004 Ain't that the truth! I don't know who said this but "youth is waisted on the young" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #67 August 5, 2004 Quote"youth is waisted on the young" That is a funny typo / lapsus in the context of this thread! Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #68 August 6, 2004 Quoteaw, man! ... Now I'm feeling all guilty about wearing those itsy bitsy tops!.. I think I need to go work out now. Pictures...we need PICTURES!"There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #69 August 6, 2004 QuoteQuoteaw, man! ... Now I'm feeling all guilty about wearing those itsy bitsy tops!.. I think I need to go work out now. Pictures...we need PICTURES! Of me working out?? _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #70 August 6, 2004 QuoteQuoteQuoteaw, man! ... Now I'm feeling all guilty about wearing those itsy bitsy tops!.. I think I need to go work out now. Pictures...we need PICTURES! Of me working out?? Well, the itsy, bitsy top was what we had in mind, but we'll take the other, too."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #71 August 6, 2004 QuoteQuoteQuoteQuoteaw, man! ... Now I'm feeling all guilty about wearing those itsy bitsy tops!.. I think I need to go work out now. Pictures...we need PICTURES! Of me working out?? Well, the itsy, bitsy top was what we had in mind, but we'll take the other, too. We?? .. *Looks around in confusion* ... Who are these "we" people? .... anyway.. kinda difficult to get the right pose in the camera sitting on my tripod while I'm pumping out some muscle.. ... Itsy bitsy top picture coming soon. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
