Acensky 0 #26 August 11, 2004 OK, OK, All of you have made your point that I am a not that good of a MH. So, I came up with a half ass diecent plan. Since I had plans to go to the airshow **way** before the shower, I will still go to the show. But when the shower starts at noon I will leave the show and make both people happy. and I will be at the shower for about an hour. And then go back to the show. How long can these bridal showers last anyway? I thank all of you for your opinions. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #27 August 11, 2004 I think you need to stay at the shower for the entire time. It's a great honor to be chosen as a MOH, and I think it would be really disrespectful to only stay for an hour ( assuming it will last longer than that ) becasue you care more about being at an airshow. This is one of the most important things in your friends life, be there for her. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ryoder 1,590 #28 August 11, 2004 Tell her you can't make this one, but will be available for her next wedding. FYI: An airshow just a few people up in the air having fun, and a few thousand on the ground getting sunburned. I won't go to an airshow unless I'm in it."There are only three things of value: younger women, faster airplanes, and bigger crocodiles" - Arthur Jones. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #29 August 11, 2004 Bridal showers are usually 2-3 hours in length. You should stay for the whole thing.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #30 August 11, 2004 QuoteBut when the shower starts at noon I will leave the show and make both people happy. and I will be at the shower for about an hour. And then go back to the show. How long can these bridal showers last anyway? You should stay at the shower the whole time. You have a responsibility to do that. In this instance, the bride's needs come before your own. It really doesn't matter how far in advance you made your plans. If you leave the shower to go back to an airshow, it will show that you have very little class to your circle of friends.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #31 August 11, 2004 QuoteYou have a responsibility to do that I knew agreeing with Andrea wouldnt last long... I dont think its a question of responsibility. To me, its a question of friendship and loyalty. If your friendship with the girl isnt strong enough to put her shower before your airshow, then you really shouldnt have accepted to be her maid of honnor.Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #32 August 11, 2004 QuoteI knew agreeing with Andrea wouldnt last long... You're so funny! QuoteIf your friendship with the girl isnt strong enough to put her shower before your airshow, then you really shouldnt have accepted to be her maid of honnor. Right, but she did accept the honor, so she does have that responsibility. It's all in the Maid of Honor Code. Didn't you get your copy? She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #33 August 11, 2004 QuoteDidn't you get your copy? Yeah... It was perfect (for starting the fire in the fireplace )Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #34 August 11, 2004 My advice: Just decide which you would regret the most and go to that one. Your friend will eventually get over it, or I'm sure there will be another Airshow next year. I seem to be in these types of similiar situations all the time; most of the time I just do whatever the hell I want to the most. You can't worry about what others will think. If it were me, I'd go to the shower over an airshow, but that is just me. But I was the bridesmaid at my best friend's wedding (her sister was maid-of-honor, but I was the next closest thing by far). Honestly, I don't like weddings, and hers was the ONLY one I'd ever agree to be in. I went to the shower, but did not go to the bachelorette party or even the rehersal dinner; I mean did I really need to reherse walking down an isle and sitting down? I can follow a leader. She was a bit upset I didn't make the bachelorette/rehearsal next day, but she got over it. I made some great money by staying at work that Friday AND enjoyed a well-deserved relaxing day the next day during the rehearsal. There was no point in my flying out three times to be there for the three different occassions (it would have required me taking nearly an entire week off work last minute). Sometimes, you just have to be practical, and we ALL know that women tend to be VERY impractical when it comes to their wedding day, but most of the time it's best to try and accomodate them. To each their own. My wedding will be a very casual wedding; , just good ol' burgers and chicken. No suits; wear jeans and a T if you want. I really don't care. My dress will be SPECTACULAR and that's about all I care about. Ha ha ha. ...and as for the "maid of honor" and bridesmaids; I'll have only 1 and that is my best friend to whom I already told she can wear whatever the hell she wants. Unlike at her wedding where I already had the EXACT same shoes she wanted us to buy, but in leather, not fabric and she made me spend another $100 on the same damn pair, but in fabric. PLEASE! Do NOT feel guilty whatever your decision. (Edited for spelling)Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jose 0 #35 August 11, 2004 QuoteSo, I came up with a half ass diecent plan. That's putting it mildly.... QuoteSince I had plans to go to the airshow **way** before the shower, I will still go to the show. But when the shower starts at noon I will leave the show and make both people happy. and I will be at the shower for about an hour. And then go back to the show. You don't deserve to be in her wedding. She's better off going with your "competition" QuoteI thank all of you for your opinions. Not mine, I'm sure..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kallend 2,150 #36 August 11, 2004 The last two bridal showers I heard about seemed to involve getting dressed up in stupid clothes and games with large plastic penises. I'd go to the airshow.... The only sure way to survive a canopy collision is not to have one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #37 August 11, 2004 Y'all are totally missing the point. If you agree to be in someone's wedding, you are agreeing to support them in whatever they need in order to make their event special. It doesn't matter what you want to do, it only matters what the bride wants you to do. As this article states, if you can't or won't do the things that the bride expects of you, then bow out gracefully. If you don't want to go to showers, rehersal dinners, bachelorette parties, etc., then you have no business being in your friend's wedding. If you don't participate in these things without a very good reason, you're just being rude and inconsiderate. She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kellysalt77 0 #38 August 11, 2004 she asked you to be maid of HONOR and you should consider it as that-- an honor. it's one of the biggest events in her life and she wants you to be such a huge part of it-- don't let her down. not only does she want you there, she most likely NEEDS you there. help to make this occasion as perfect as she's always dreamed and hoped it would be. besides, it's an airshow. you're not even gonna be jumping. if there was jumping involved, well, now that would be a whole other story Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveNFlorida 0 #39 August 11, 2004 You're the maid of honor, you should WANT to be at the shower. The airshow will come back around, ... hopefully she'll only be married ONCE! If you were really good friends, there would be no question. Not trying to offend you too terribly, but this is without a doubt my unbudging opinion. You should be there for a good friend's wedding shower, especially if you're the maid of honor. Angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveNFlorida 0 #40 August 11, 2004 QuoteOK, OK, All of you have made your point that I am a not that good of a MH. So, I came up with a half ass diecent plan. Since I had plans to go to the airshow **way** before the shower, I will still go to the show. But when the shower starts at noon I will leave the show and make both people happy. and I will be at the shower for about an hour. And then go back to the show. How long can these bridal showers last anyway? I thank all of you for your opinions. In that case, why don't you just tell her to find a better friend to be MOH because you don't care enough about the important things in her life to be called a good friend (you sound more like an acquaintance). That would be WAY more reasonable than showing up for an hour and leaving so that you can watch some planes fly around in circles. Just tell her that you're roommates and you are sorry but you're not up for the responsiblity of being her maid of honor. JMHO. Angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #41 August 12, 2004 I agree you plan is half ass ...at best. If you don't want to be the maid of honour just tell your friend, but be honest with her. I absolutely ahte it when someone is so vague about what theya re willing to do in the name of friendship. GEEZ, if you agreed to be the maid of honour then start acting like one, and if you dont' want to do that let her get someone else to do it. Trust me I am so far away from am arriage that I wouldn't say this lightly. Either be a good friend and be a supportive maid of honour for the ENTIRE freakin wedding (showers included) or back out and be a crappy friend. Either way at least be honest with her....dishonest people just aren't cool. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tbrown 26 #42 August 12, 2004 You agreed to be her Maid of Honor. She may be a whiny little twerp, but you made the commitment. Sometimes life demands that we do more than just the things we want. Your humble servant.....Professor Gravity ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Remster 30 #43 August 12, 2004 QuoteENTIRE freakin wedding (showers included) Well, maybe not the 1st shower of the honeymoon!Remster Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #44 August 12, 2004 QuoteQuoteENTIRE freakin wedding (showers included) Well, maybe not the 1st shower of the honeymoon! AW, come on....share the love baby. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
linny 1 #45 August 12, 2004 all this wedding and shower shit is lame. tell her to elope, buy her a toaster, and go to the airshow. simple! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #46 August 13, 2004 Ha ha ha! Great answerPaint me in a corner, but my color comes back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
