grrrr, job opportunity ruined by potential relative

[EricaH 0]

So, my job's going away @ the end of the month. I had a great almost guaranteed job hook-up @ a great company in a position I'm 99% sure I would have loved in a neighborhood I want to work.

Well, I heard of the job through my b/f's sis-in-law. She's one of the supervisors, though I wouldn't be under her & she wouldn't even be involved in my interview process. HOWEVER, now her boss is saying that because we COULD POTENTIALLY, IN THE FUTURE, be related as sisters-in-law; they are not going to consider me for employment.

Instead they've already filled 2 of their 5 openings w/ schmucks that have no idea what they're doing. And they have more people leaving so there'll be more openings; but I'm SOL.

What do you all think - should the fact that there's possible potential for me to marry her brother-in-law affect my employment opportunity? I don't think so. I wouldn't start working under her. But the possibility for me to advance to manage her or that they may need to move me into her department is job blocking me.

Sorry for the long post - I'm pretty upset.

There is no can't. Only lack of knowledge or fear. Only you can fix your fear.

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[JohnnyD 0]

Send an email or voicemail up the foodchain that says you would like the opportunity to interview and you understand that there may be a potential for nepotism at some point in the future and you would be open to any solutions of the matter, should it arise. Who knows, persistence may pay off.

Good luck!

[JohnRich 4]

What JohnnyD said!

I've worked for companies that have rules about spouses. But nothing that crazy.

For example, you don't want a husband working in Receiving, while the wife works in Accounts Payable. Because they could collude with each other to buy stuff and have the company pay for it, while nobody notices.

However, as long as the two are in unrelated positions, which don't offer any opportunity for fraud, then there shouldn't be a problem.

Explain that to them! They'll be impressed with your logic and intelligence.

[Vallerina 2]

Get married to someone else to get the job! I'm sure Peter will understand!

Hope it works out for you!

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[tigra 0]

I think its BS and possibly even illegal. You aren't related, by blood or by marriage. At best there is the possibilty that you could become "sort of related" by marriage- husband's sister-in-law?? Puhleeze! Maybe there's another reason they won't consider you. Did you hear this directly from the supervisor you'd be working under or from your b/f's sister-in-law? Is it possible she isn't being completely honest with you? Can you go around her and submit your application/ resume directly?

Just some thoughts.....

[EricaH 0]

I called my sister-by-boyfriend to ask her to push the topic. Stating that it doesn't make sense for some potential relationship issues to stop a current opportunity. She said it's the highest up boss that doesn't like the idea, but she'll try to get the middle boss to ask me in for an interview.
Apparently they tried to fire someone for not doing his job, he threatened a law suit & so they transferred him w/ a slight promotion, he resigned. To protect against his claims, my sister-by-boyfriend is being forced to transfer her cousin-in-law; and apparently the company is very concerned about hiring people so close.

I'm talking to her, I guess she could be lying to me; but I don't think so. I told her Val's suggestion she laughed & said her husband (my b/f's brother) told her he'd divorce her & then there'd be no issues - TOTALLY JOKING - but it's still nice for me to hear.

The job is not posted to the public yet, so I can't really go through any other channels. She's one of 4 supervisors; I'd be working under one of them - just not her - I really don't understand. UGH.

I'm pretty sure it's not a legal reason to not hire someone; but whaddaygonnado?

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[bobsled92 0]

It really borders on UNFAIR hiring practices protected under Fed. Labor laws.
THAT deal officially sucks. I know it's not my own deal but, it pisses me off to hear someone getting screwed by Co. bullshit.
(F-it! I'm staying UNION)
I hope things get better.
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[tigra 0]

Its a form of discrimination, but just about impossible to prove.

And, hey you know her so you would probably know if she was being honest with you or not. I just thought I would put that out there as a possibility. If she told you about the job to begin with, I doubt she'd be so underhanded now.

BTW- Love it- "Sister-in-boyfriend", "cousin-in-law"!

In my office we have an ex-husband and wife working in the same department! Talk about awkward!

[EricaH 0]

C, Tigra; I know of bunches of circumstance like that w/ real relatives or ex's working together - just pisses me off more.

Thanks for liking my take on the in-law
I know it's bordering on discrimination & unfair stuff; but as you said - basically impossible to prove. I'm sure they could come up w/ other reasons to not hire me. Now, if I'd been given an offer - then it was retracted... that'd be a different story!

Grant - stay Union! I sure wish I had any kind of a skill that would pay decently & would fit in a union. If I had any kind of land surveying experience; I'd have employers fighting over me.

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[TypicalFish 0]

Quite frankly, I think you might be getting off easy by NOT going to work for them. The company sounds kind of psycho, if their H/R and employee relations departments are run that way you should probably be glad you aren't there.

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[HeatherB 0]

You're probably better off not working for that company - it's a glimpse of their stupidity.

A certain city's chamber of commerce pulled a similar act on me....and now I'm glad I never worked there!