Vallerina 2 #51 September 10, 2004 QuoteYou will do things that you might not like to do. You do it for your SO because you love to make them happy. But, I can't make anyone happy except for myself.... I somewhat see your point (ie, I wouldn't make myself a huge, nice dinner, but I would make one for a s.o.), but I just can't see myself doing something that I dislike for someone else. There are things that I wouldn't necessarily do (watch Nascar), but I also don't mind doing them. Basically, I would do things that I like or am neutral about. I just can't see myself doing something that I dislike (ie, I'm not going to go to Catholic church to make someone else happy.)There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brains 2 #52 September 10, 2004 QuoteMarriage is not about sex. Having said that .....I have the best sex since being married. That doesn't count for you, you can't REMEMBER anything before you were married. Never look down on someone, unless they are going down on you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #53 September 10, 2004 QuoteHow about all the house cleaning (woman do 90% of it)? Or taking care of the kids? Tending house? Those pesky guys are so worthless (each and every one of us). I wonder why women bother with us at all. I guess it's just another example of the wonderful qualities that make all women perfect. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bodyflight.Net 0 #54 September 10, 2004 The poll says " Marrie people" then your question, is it really that bad? My answer was No, it's really not that bad. There are ups and downs, but yes, the more that is on your plate, the easier it is to forget such important things of course! but the good part is your not the ONLY one there to remind you I wouldn't trade this for anything. The comfort you feel lying next to someone you've dedicated yourself to, the trust you have that this person, loves you no matter what and will forever. That is the type of sensuality that holds you through the 'dry' spells. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmanpilot 0 #55 September 10, 2004 QuoteI wouldn't say that she has a problem. There are people who aren't going to like doing it. I'm not necessarily responding to you Val, but Airman didn't even mention blowjobs, he did say, >>We don't need (insert intimate suggestion here) every night or even every week, but once in a while would be nice, especially when we're plenty eager to rock your world.<< I'm no marriage counselor, but that constitutes a huge problem in my book. I will admit that I am partial to high-quality nookie, but I can tell you that problems in that area constitute a very good barometer of the overall health of a relationship. In other words, fucking is important._________________________________________ -There's always free cheese in a mouse trap. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #56 September 10, 2004 QuoteAirman didn't even mention blowjobs Well, he did respond to the part of my post about bjs, and he did say that she doesn't reciprocate. I figured that he was talking about bjs. QuoteIn other words, fucking is important. To some people. Everybody has their list of priorities in a relationship. It's not as important to everyone. Plus, I realize there will be a time when I'm old, and if I get married, my husband would be old, too. He won't be able to perform at all, so hopefully, it's not so important to me that I can't live without it.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fireflytx 0 #57 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuoteIf she regards it as a chore, then she's the one with the problem. I wouldn't say that she has a problem. There are people who aren't going to like doing it. That's fine. That should be made clear before. Nobody should be deceitful about it. I think that the women that don't like to give blow jobs are the ones who do not know how to give a good one, no offence to anyone....... Once you get really good at it, it is something you look forward to doing"Well behaved women rarely make history" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Airman1270 0 #58 September 10, 2004 ...I figured that he was talking about bjs... ...QuoteIn other words, fucking is important. ... _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ My my, I feel like I should be paying $3.95 per minute for this conversation... At age 46, I can do anything I could do 25 years ago. I just can't do it again. , Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #59 September 10, 2004 QuoteOnce you get really good at it, it is something you look forward to doing I always look forward to compliments!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmanpilot 0 #60 September 10, 2004 QuoteI realize there will be a time when I'm old, and if I get married, my husband would be old, too. He won't be able to perform at all, so hopefully, it's not so important to me that I can't live without it. I'm hip to that, I guess I was referring to while you can participate._________________________________________ -There's always free cheese in a mouse trap. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveNFlorida 0 #61 September 10, 2004 Jimmy, your reply was really beautiful and thought out:) I'm so glad to hear that for so many of you, marriage has been a good thing. I was actually expecting a lot of bitterness and unhappiness. angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkydiveNFlorida 0 #62 September 10, 2004 Quote...OR do you think you will find someone to do all these things with you? Someone you can marry and then do all of the fun stuff you've always wanted to do? Even without being married, but just deeply committed, I think this can surely be the case! Seems to me that it all depends on what you're looking for, what your partner is looking for... and most importantly, that you communicate that to one another. Of course, i've never been married, so i'm certainly no expert there. Angela. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caress 0 #63 September 10, 2004 Angela, a marriage is what you and your spouse make it. I have been married going on 15 years, and I just gave my hubby a blow job the other night. I love sex alot. So even when I am having the monthly visitor, hell my neck ain't broke! We have sex every chance we get. Kids just make it so you have to wait till they go to bed, and you actually have to do some planning for things at times and you can be a little less spontanious because you find yourself censoring yourselves for their sakes. Sorry my time is up, and I gotta go. Hope that helps Angela! -Caress I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peregrinerose 0 #64 September 10, 2004 My husband is the best friend I have ever had. We take care of each other and understand each other on every level, and that closeness transcends into our sex life as well. We're big kids, and have as much fun playing in the bedroom as outside of it. When we have kids, though we certainly won't be screwing in front of them, neither of us wants to hide the fact that we have a healthy sex life from them. They will know from a young age, if the door is locked, stay out We feel that it's a good thing for a kid to know that married sex is good and fun, and see what a truly healthy marriage is like. Something that neither of us ever got to really see as kids. We want our kids to know that THIS is the way it is supposed to be and never settle for anything less. Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
captain1 0 #65 September 10, 2004 Been married over ten years and the sex is as good as ever. Anything goes. Unfortunately, I am now going through a seperation but bad sex was never an issue in the relationship. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jeth 0 #66 September 10, 2004 I didn't need to hold off -- I'm experiencing the world with my husband! (But I'm still never having kids... don't like 'em. ) Oh, and the sex definitely gets BETTER after marriage. You can tell your partner exactly what you want and really have fun cuz theres nothing to hide. QuoteJust to throw something else out there... Does anyone feel that marriage is something you'd rather put on hold for now and instead go out and experience the world? Travel a lot? Do everything you've always wanted to do? Accomplish a few things first? Being single, I've noticed that after people are married (and especially after having children) their individual life seems to slow down and revolve more around the family. And there is nothing wrong with that. I suppose you have to sacrifice one or the other, or try hard to have both. ...OR do you think you will find someone to do all these things with you? Someone you can marry and then do all of the fun stuff you've always wanted to do? Or... Am I an ignorant 'youngin' who will eventually know what she wants?"At 13,000 feet nothing else matters." PFRX!!!!! Team Funnel #174, Sunshine kisspass #109 My Jump Site Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
