tspillers 0 #26 September 10, 2004 Quote What does he say to them? "She's my fiance." Yup I am not totally useless, I can be used as a bad example. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Squeak 17 #27 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuote Marriage is not about sex. Bzzzzzt! WRONG! The three legs of a successful marriage are Sex, Money, and Housekeeping. Lack of any of those (money meaning contributing to the maintenance of the household) is a dealbreaker. Not in my world JPYou are not now, nor will you ever be, good enough to not die in this sport (Sparky) My Life ROCKS! How's yours doing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tspillers 0 #28 September 10, 2004 Quote would Queen B change????? Probably everything...maybe just her boyfriend.. I am not totally useless, I can be used as a bad example. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #29 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuote would Queen B change????? Probably everything...maybe just her boyfriend.. LMAO...you know I'm kidding. You two are perfect for each other and I admire the ehck outta her for putting up with you. -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tspillers 0 #30 September 10, 2004 Hell, why do you think I held on to her. No one else will put up with my crap... Why she held on to me...no idea I am not totally useless, I can be used as a bad example. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bolas 5 #31 September 10, 2004 Old joke: What is the biggest killer of sexual appetite in women? Wedding Cake. Stupidity if left untreated is self-correcting If ya can't be good, look good, if that fails, make 'em laugh. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ianmdrennan 2 #32 September 10, 2004 Been married for over 5 years. Knew her for 3 months when we tied the knot. Honestly, we both agree that it was the best thing that ever happened to us. Sure it isn't always rosey, but the goodtimes far, far, far outweigh the bad. Blues, IanPerformance Designs Factory Team Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zenister 0 #33 September 10, 2004 when i was working as a bartender we had a bachelorette party that was having a ball... being one of two the two male wait staff, Terry and i were serving the whole party... as i walked up to drop on the latest round of 'rita's one of the bridesmaids loudly declares "I know why Theresa will be smiling on Tuesday, she will have given her last blow job the weekend before...." statements like that kind of put me off marriage completely....____________________________________ Those who fail to learn from the past are simply Doomed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rickjump1 0 #34 September 10, 2004 My marriage for 34 year has been rough and smooth. We have both packed and left only to return within hours. We both laugh when we say the reason we stay together is because of my work schedule (gone over 6 months out of the year). I honestly think that was probably true at one time. Now I hate going back to work and look forward to retiring.Do your part for global warming: ban beans and hold all popcorn farts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mailin 0 #35 September 10, 2004 I'm not married that long (just about 2 years) but we've lived together in an exclusive relationship for more than 5... Time has changed our relationship, for the better (in most instances). Sex is much better because over time you understand what each other wants and have the time to experiment ways to achieve that. IMO if someone says sex is boring after they got married is because they got lazy and selfish. JenArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahC07 0 #36 September 10, 2004 Quotei dunno but then again i never want to get married. i'm scared of commitment I fall into that category as well... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
racer42 0 #37 September 10, 2004 Hmmm....worked for the first 18 years. But yeah that other stuff too. There a lot of things that make marriages successful.L.A.S.T. #24 Co-Founder Biscuit Brothers Freefly Team Electric Toaster #3 Co-Founder Team Non Sequitor Co-Founder Team Happy Sock Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #38 September 10, 2004 QuoteIs it really that bad?? It's not bad for me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites ACMESkydiver 0 #39 September 10, 2004 Marriage rocks. 10+ years. And.. the 'private time'... definitely... gets... BETTER!!! (<--No that's not a clicky you perves...)~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites skymama 37 #40 September 10, 2004 Having children will change your sex life, especially when they are young. The exhaustion factor is huge. I can remember being up at night with my youngest because he had colic and when I would finally get him back to sleep, my 2 year old would be waking up for the day and be full of energy. During that period, sleep was on my mind more than sex.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #41 September 10, 2004 Quote"I know why Theresa will be smiling on Tuesday, she will have given her last blow job the weekend before...." I know NOTHING about marriage or relationships, but I wanted to comment on this. #1 No woman should give a blow job as a chore (yes, I know, it's called a job.) What's the fun in that? #2 Problems like getting worried blow jobs will disappear could easily be solved with communication. She could've told him long ago that she doesn't like doing it. #3 Are there people still like that? Are there really women who will do things that they don't want to do just to get married? That's sick. Plus, I doubt it would work. If she doesn't like giving blow jobs, I doubt she's very good at it, so he's probably gotten better head from somewhere else anyways.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jimmytavino 16 #42 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuotei dunno but then again i never want to get married. i'm scared of commitment I fall into that category as well... But to answer the original question,,,,,, Sure the sex gets better... cause when you find the right partner the LOVE gets better.... Since i have never been what I'd consider,, a "handsome ' or "attractive" kind of person, "casual sex",,, "sport sex",, " alcohol inspired" sex and "one nighters" never have applied..it just never seemed to happen.... Same with my wife..( although she is terrifically attractive,, and sweet too ). While we both had a number of significant others,,, before we met,,, neither of us were players, but we did learn about intimacy, sexual performance, and good quality lovemaking,,well before we met each other.... We were in our late 20's... were both, well versed in a variety of healthy and fullfilling sex "techniques" and valued the benefits of "close physical contact".... Since we knew pretty early on that we were falling in love with each other,,, AND since we didn't "hit the sheets" within 24 hours of meeting each other,,,we soon decided that all sorts of foreplay, sex play,,, humor, and cuddling would be fine,,,,,, But decided to delay,, "intercourse" at first.... Got engaged within 2 months of meeting,,,,and married 8 months after that,,,,, and shared a honeymoon vacation,,, with " no holds barred".... we are so happy that we did that.....There's nothing like the feeling of the "first time",, when it doesn't include the usual jitters, uncertainties, and awkwardness usually associated with it.. Now 23 years later the communication is still great,,, our closeness grows, the lovemaking has been sweet.. and as an earlier poster noted,,,, we "Know" each others',, likes and desires........ It no different than anything else in this world... If it means something to you,, and if you want it to be GOOD, and if you are thoughtful and considerite,, and if you exert some EFFORT.... everything in your life can be great..... sex between married people,,, sure falls into this category for US anyway.... So if you're married and the B. J's have slowed down....find some way to communicate your desires to your partner,,,, don't just shrug your shoulders, and feel sad.... Contrary to what Cosmo, or Playboy might advocate,,, sex is so much more,, than a physical connection,,,,, it's a mental, emotional, and soul reaching.. BOND... which absolutely CAN get better with time......it just takes a bit of consideration, the key point of which is To "Think about your Spouse's needs,,,,, before your own".... Of course it helps alot to find the right person..... and if you are a "sexually oriented" person,,, find someone with whom you are compatible,,and develop that part of your life with each other... don't just settle for someone for all the wrong reasons,,, or simply because they are " willing to give it up "..... Where is the Passion,,, there??????? " make love with your S.O. with the same energy with which you skydive. "... and vice versa... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites crwmike 0 #43 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuote Great. Now, I'm wondering if you will, too. WTH? Who knows, I'll show my fiance this thread when she gets home from work, she'll get a kick out of it. My joke was in response to Angela's original post sounding like she was worried she wasn't going to get any blowjobs once she was married. Since she's obviously not a guy, I thought it was funny. Bare with me here, I never claimed to have the best sense of humor, but I like it. Insist on a blow job pre-nup, Dave. Michael Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Airman1270 0 #44 September 10, 2004 ...#1 No woman should give a blow job as a chore... _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ If she regards it as a chore, then she's the one with the problem. I do things that, on the surface, might seem ridiculous and even unpleasant at times, but I do it because my wife likes it. This fact make it all worthwhile for me. Unfortunately, she won't reciprocate; a brief summary of our marriage could be described as "If she knows I like it, she won't do it for me." Damn shame. Yet, if I ever have have an affair she'll be real angry. Don't tell me we need to "communicate" or get counseling. Both are good ideas, but both require cooperation. If she were willing to do these things we probably wouldn't have a problem in the first place. It becomes especially maddening listening to women complain about how their husbands lack any romantic inclinations. Ladies, if you don't love your man enough to be a wife to him, then don't marry him. Do these things because you want to please him, not because it's your turn. We don't need (insert intimate suggestion here) every night or even every week, but once in a while would be nice, especially when we're plenty eager to rock your world. (We, uh, DO rock your world, right?) Blue (not blew) Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Vallerina 2 #45 September 10, 2004 QuoteIf she regards it as a chore, then she's the one with the problem. I wouldn't say that she has a problem. There are people who aren't going to like doing it. That's fine. That should be made clear before. Nobody should be deceitful about it.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mailin 0 #46 September 10, 2004 QuoteLadies, if you don't love your man enough to be a wife to him, then don't marry him. Ok, so giving blow jobs are the only thing that makes a woman a wife? If she doesn't give him head she's a bad wife? How about all the house cleaning (woman do 90% of it)? Or taking care of the kids? Tending house? I guess none of those things work in a marriage - its all about blow jobs. Give your wife a break - if she doesn't like it, then don't get resentful; instead look at everything else she does for you. JenArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SarahC07 0 #47 September 10, 2004 Just to throw something else out there... Does anyone feel that marriage is something you'd rather put on hold for now and instead go out and experience the world? Travel a lot? Do everything you've always wanted to do? Accomplish a few things first? Being single, I've noticed that after people are married (and especially after having children) their individual life seems to slow down and revolve more around the family. And there is nothing wrong with that. I suppose you have to sacrifice one or the other, or try hard to have both. ...OR do you think you will find someone to do all these things with you? Someone you can marry and then do all of the fun stuff you've always wanted to do? Or... Am I an ignorant 'youngin' who will eventually know what she wants? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites RoysPlayThing 0 #48 September 10, 2004 Sex doesn't change with marriage.... It would have to be just the relationship of the two people. I was married for 14 years and the sex was always full force. It was just the guy I was married to was bad and so I finally left. People that talk down on marriage, and the sex going away are the one's that I guess have experienced it that way. .... You won't here people nagging about marriage when they have a good one and are getting all the sex they want... because... well... there's nothing then to nag about. .... I am proof that even in a not so good marriage, that the sex last's. Any other sex questions??... This is fun! _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Darius11 12 #49 September 10, 2004 #3 Are there people still like that? Are there really women who will do things that they don't want to do just to get married?Quote I don’t know Val I have never been married, but have been in nice long relationships. I am guessing marriage is kind of the same. You will do things that you might not like to do. You do it for your SO because you love to make them happy. That’s how it works. Maybe that’s why we have so many divorced and single people. Every one wants to only please them self’s. Marriage is about compromise. You don’t get to do every thing you want all the time.I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Airman1270 0 #50 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuoteLadies, if you don't love your man enough to be a wife to him, then don't marry him. Ok, so giving blow jobs are the only thing that makes a woman a wife? If she doesn't give him head she's a bad wife? How about all the house cleaning (woman do 90% of it)? Or taking care of the kids? Tending house? I guess none of those things work in a marriage - its all about blow jobs. Give your wife a break - if she doesn't like it, then don't get resentful; instead look at everything else she does for you. Jen _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ Wow - way to fall into my trap. Can't disagree with most of what you say, but you may be missing an important point. Each spouse is responsible for serving the other. This is not limited to sex. After I wash the dishes, vacuum & shampoo the carpets, clean the stove & the bathrooms, take out the garbage, do the yard work, help with the laundry, spend much time playing with the kids, and work two jobs to help pay the bills, I'm not sure I appreciate being lectured on the importance of pulling my weight around the house. Of course, any man who fails to lift a finger to help out with life's routine chores would eventually prompt the kind of resentment that would interfere with his wife's amorous attitude. No argument here. My point about serving each other was based on the ASSumption that there was not any conflict regarding the points you mentioned. For maximum satisfaction for both spouses, and to increase the odds the marriage will thrive, each spouse has an obligation to serve the other's desires & needs, short of doing things that are illegal, immoral, or dangerous. If you're going to react with hostility because your man might want to do something that most guys like, perhaps it's not the man who's being unreasonable. And if you don't love him enough to want to do these things for him, give him a break and let him marry someone who does. That's all. (And for the record, my wife is a sweetie. This doesn't mean there can't be room for improvement. I'll accept her suggestions... ) Cheers, Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 2 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. 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ACMESkydiver 0 #39 September 10, 2004 Marriage rocks. 10+ years. And.. the 'private time'... definitely... gets... BETTER!!! (<--No that's not a clicky you perves...)~Jaye Do not believe that possibly you can escape the reward of your action. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #40 September 10, 2004 Having children will change your sex life, especially when they are young. The exhaustion factor is huge. I can remember being up at night with my youngest because he had colic and when I would finally get him back to sleep, my 2 year old would be waking up for the day and be full of energy. During that period, sleep was on my mind more than sex.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #41 September 10, 2004 Quote"I know why Theresa will be smiling on Tuesday, she will have given her last blow job the weekend before...." I know NOTHING about marriage or relationships, but I wanted to comment on this. #1 No woman should give a blow job as a chore (yes, I know, it's called a job.) What's the fun in that? #2 Problems like getting worried blow jobs will disappear could easily be solved with communication. She could've told him long ago that she doesn't like doing it. #3 Are there people still like that? Are there really women who will do things that they don't want to do just to get married? That's sick. Plus, I doubt it would work. If she doesn't like giving blow jobs, I doubt she's very good at it, so he's probably gotten better head from somewhere else anyways.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jimmytavino 16 #42 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuotei dunno but then again i never want to get married. i'm scared of commitment I fall into that category as well... But to answer the original question,,,,,, Sure the sex gets better... cause when you find the right partner the LOVE gets better.... Since i have never been what I'd consider,, a "handsome ' or "attractive" kind of person, "casual sex",,, "sport sex",, " alcohol inspired" sex and "one nighters" never have applied..it just never seemed to happen.... Same with my wife..( although she is terrifically attractive,, and sweet too ). While we both had a number of significant others,,, before we met,,, neither of us were players, but we did learn about intimacy, sexual performance, and good quality lovemaking,,well before we met each other.... We were in our late 20's... were both, well versed in a variety of healthy and fullfilling sex "techniques" and valued the benefits of "close physical contact".... Since we knew pretty early on that we were falling in love with each other,,, AND since we didn't "hit the sheets" within 24 hours of meeting each other,,,we soon decided that all sorts of foreplay, sex play,,, humor, and cuddling would be fine,,,,,, But decided to delay,, "intercourse" at first.... Got engaged within 2 months of meeting,,,,and married 8 months after that,,,,, and shared a honeymoon vacation,,, with " no holds barred".... we are so happy that we did that.....There's nothing like the feeling of the "first time",, when it doesn't include the usual jitters, uncertainties, and awkwardness usually associated with it.. Now 23 years later the communication is still great,,, our closeness grows, the lovemaking has been sweet.. and as an earlier poster noted,,,, we "Know" each others',, likes and desires........ It no different than anything else in this world... If it means something to you,, and if you want it to be GOOD, and if you are thoughtful and considerite,, and if you exert some EFFORT.... everything in your life can be great..... sex between married people,,, sure falls into this category for US anyway.... So if you're married and the B. J's have slowed down....find some way to communicate your desires to your partner,,,, don't just shrug your shoulders, and feel sad.... Contrary to what Cosmo, or Playboy might advocate,,, sex is so much more,, than a physical connection,,,,, it's a mental, emotional, and soul reaching.. BOND... which absolutely CAN get better with time......it just takes a bit of consideration, the key point of which is To "Think about your Spouse's needs,,,,, before your own".... Of course it helps alot to find the right person..... and if you are a "sexually oriented" person,,, find someone with whom you are compatible,,and develop that part of your life with each other... don't just settle for someone for all the wrong reasons,,, or simply because they are " willing to give it up "..... Where is the Passion,,, there??????? " make love with your S.O. with the same energy with which you skydive. "... and vice versa... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crwmike 0 #43 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuote Great. Now, I'm wondering if you will, too. WTH? Who knows, I'll show my fiance this thread when she gets home from work, she'll get a kick out of it. My joke was in response to Angela's original post sounding like she was worried she wasn't going to get any blowjobs once she was married. Since she's obviously not a guy, I thought it was funny. Bare with me here, I never claimed to have the best sense of humor, but I like it. Insist on a blow job pre-nup, Dave. Michael Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Airman1270 0 #44 September 10, 2004 ...#1 No woman should give a blow job as a chore... _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ If she regards it as a chore, then she's the one with the problem. I do things that, on the surface, might seem ridiculous and even unpleasant at times, but I do it because my wife likes it. This fact make it all worthwhile for me. Unfortunately, she won't reciprocate; a brief summary of our marriage could be described as "If she knows I like it, she won't do it for me." Damn shame. Yet, if I ever have have an affair she'll be real angry. Don't tell me we need to "communicate" or get counseling. Both are good ideas, but both require cooperation. If she were willing to do these things we probably wouldn't have a problem in the first place. It becomes especially maddening listening to women complain about how their husbands lack any romantic inclinations. Ladies, if you don't love your man enough to be a wife to him, then don't marry him. Do these things because you want to please him, not because it's your turn. We don't need (insert intimate suggestion here) every night or even every week, but once in a while would be nice, especially when we're plenty eager to rock your world. (We, uh, DO rock your world, right?) Blue (not blew) Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #45 September 10, 2004 QuoteIf she regards it as a chore, then she's the one with the problem. I wouldn't say that she has a problem. There are people who aren't going to like doing it. That's fine. That should be made clear before. Nobody should be deceitful about it.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mailin 0 #46 September 10, 2004 QuoteLadies, if you don't love your man enough to be a wife to him, then don't marry him. Ok, so giving blow jobs are the only thing that makes a woman a wife? If she doesn't give him head she's a bad wife? How about all the house cleaning (woman do 90% of it)? Or taking care of the kids? Tending house? I guess none of those things work in a marriage - its all about blow jobs. Give your wife a break - if she doesn't like it, then don't get resentful; instead look at everything else she does for you. JenArianna Frances Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahC07 0 #47 September 10, 2004 Just to throw something else out there... Does anyone feel that marriage is something you'd rather put on hold for now and instead go out and experience the world? Travel a lot? Do everything you've always wanted to do? Accomplish a few things first? Being single, I've noticed that after people are married (and especially after having children) their individual life seems to slow down and revolve more around the family. And there is nothing wrong with that. I suppose you have to sacrifice one or the other, or try hard to have both. ...OR do you think you will find someone to do all these things with you? Someone you can marry and then do all of the fun stuff you've always wanted to do? Or... Am I an ignorant 'youngin' who will eventually know what she wants? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #48 September 10, 2004 Sex doesn't change with marriage.... It would have to be just the relationship of the two people. I was married for 14 years and the sex was always full force. It was just the guy I was married to was bad and so I finally left. People that talk down on marriage, and the sex going away are the one's that I guess have experienced it that way. .... You won't here people nagging about marriage when they have a good one and are getting all the sex they want... because... well... there's nothing then to nag about. .... I am proof that even in a not so good marriage, that the sex last's. Any other sex questions??... This is fun! _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Darius11 12 #49 September 10, 2004 #3 Are there people still like that? Are there really women who will do things that they don't want to do just to get married?Quote I don’t know Val I have never been married, but have been in nice long relationships. I am guessing marriage is kind of the same. You will do things that you might not like to do. You do it for your SO because you love to make them happy. That’s how it works. Maybe that’s why we have so many divorced and single people. Every one wants to only please them self’s. Marriage is about compromise. You don’t get to do every thing you want all the time.I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Airman1270 0 #50 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuoteLadies, if you don't love your man enough to be a wife to him, then don't marry him. Ok, so giving blow jobs are the only thing that makes a woman a wife? If she doesn't give him head she's a bad wife? How about all the house cleaning (woman do 90% of it)? Or taking care of the kids? Tending house? I guess none of those things work in a marriage - its all about blow jobs. Give your wife a break - if she doesn't like it, then don't get resentful; instead look at everything else she does for you. Jen _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ Wow - way to fall into my trap. Can't disagree with most of what you say, but you may be missing an important point. Each spouse is responsible for serving the other. This is not limited to sex. After I wash the dishes, vacuum & shampoo the carpets, clean the stove & the bathrooms, take out the garbage, do the yard work, help with the laundry, spend much time playing with the kids, and work two jobs to help pay the bills, I'm not sure I appreciate being lectured on the importance of pulling my weight around the house. Of course, any man who fails to lift a finger to help out with life's routine chores would eventually prompt the kind of resentment that would interfere with his wife's amorous attitude. No argument here. My point about serving each other was based on the ASSumption that there was not any conflict regarding the points you mentioned. For maximum satisfaction for both spouses, and to increase the odds the marriage will thrive, each spouse has an obligation to serve the other's desires & needs, short of doing things that are illegal, immoral, or dangerous. If you're going to react with hostility because your man might want to do something that most guys like, perhaps it's not the man who's being unreasonable. And if you don't love him enough to want to do these things for him, give him a break and let him marry someone who does. That's all. (And for the record, my wife is a sweetie. This doesn't mean there can't be room for improvement. I'll accept her suggestions... ) Cheers, Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 Next Page 2 of 3 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
Airman1270 0 #50 September 10, 2004 QuoteQuoteLadies, if you don't love your man enough to be a wife to him, then don't marry him. Ok, so giving blow jobs are the only thing that makes a woman a wife? If she doesn't give him head she's a bad wife? How about all the house cleaning (woman do 90% of it)? Or taking care of the kids? Tending house? I guess none of those things work in a marriage - its all about blow jobs. Give your wife a break - if she doesn't like it, then don't get resentful; instead look at everything else she does for you. Jen _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ Wow - way to fall into my trap. Can't disagree with most of what you say, but you may be missing an important point. Each spouse is responsible for serving the other. This is not limited to sex. After I wash the dishes, vacuum & shampoo the carpets, clean the stove & the bathrooms, take out the garbage, do the yard work, help with the laundry, spend much time playing with the kids, and work two jobs to help pay the bills, I'm not sure I appreciate being lectured on the importance of pulling my weight around the house. Of course, any man who fails to lift a finger to help out with life's routine chores would eventually prompt the kind of resentment that would interfere with his wife's amorous attitude. No argument here. My point about serving each other was based on the ASSumption that there was not any conflict regarding the points you mentioned. For maximum satisfaction for both spouses, and to increase the odds the marriage will thrive, each spouse has an obligation to serve the other's desires & needs, short of doing things that are illegal, immoral, or dangerous. If you're going to react with hostility because your man might want to do something that most guys like, perhaps it's not the man who's being unreasonable. And if you don't love him enough to want to do these things for him, give him a break and let him marry someone who does. That's all. (And for the record, my wife is a sweetie. This doesn't mean there can't be room for improvement. I'll accept her suggestions... ) Cheers, Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
