shellybellyfly 0 #1 September 22, 2004 Man, how do you get an ex to just leave you the fuck alone??!!!! Mine just keeps calling me and whining about why can't he get a girl and how he screwed up letting me leave him. I want to just say, yes, you were a complete asshole, that's why. But I'm too nice.... I've tried everything, but he won't leave me alone!! Any ideas? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ne146t9 0 #2 September 22, 2004 Don't be nice Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #3 September 22, 2004 Yeah, seriously, don't be nice. Worst case, you may have to get the court involved (i.e. restraining order), but hopefully it won't come to that and he won't do anything that will warrent that sort of response.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #4 September 22, 2004 There is some advice on here that helped me out... but then again being married to someone is different sometimes then dating someone.. I still get men that won't leave me alone from just dating... I would like to know some advice also. Here is my link from my recent thread ---> http://www.dropzone.com/cgi-bin/forum/gforum.cgi?do=post_view_flat;post=1254493;page=1;sb=post_latest_reply;so=ASC;mh=25;_______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zee 0 #5 September 22, 2004 Just put on about 100 pounds - should do the trick Action©Sports Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #6 September 22, 2004 being nice sends a mixed message. tell him not to call again, and hang up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shellybellyfly 0 #7 September 22, 2004 I've even tried being a bitch about it and it only helps for a couple of weeks... I'm seriously out of ideas. I mean, I don't need a restraining order or anything... but I feel so bad for him... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #8 September 22, 2004 Quotebut I feel so bad for him... He'll get over it, he's an ex for a reason!--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shellybellyfly 0 #9 September 22, 2004 I mean, I told him everything I hated about him, said do not ever call me again... but it just doesn't work! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ne146t9 0 #10 September 22, 2004 Quote... but I feel so bad for him... Well he probably can tell that and that is why he keeps calling and bothering you, if you stick with not wanting anything to do with him, maybe he will give up... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #11 September 22, 2004 QuoteI mean, I told him everything I hated about him, said do not ever call me again... but it just doesn't work! I've done this too.. guys? why doesn't this work all the time?? _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ne146t9 0 #12 September 22, 2004 QuoteQuotebut I feel so bad for him... He'll get over it, he's an ex for a reason! Well dave, we had the same thought... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #13 September 22, 2004 Quoteguys? why doesn't this work all the time?? Alcohol and stupidity. That's the short answer.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ne146t9 0 #14 September 22, 2004 Quote I've done this too.. guys? why doesn't this work all the time?? My first guess, insecurity.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shellybellyfly 0 #15 September 22, 2004 I tried the nice way, saying it is impossible to just be friends... and it was! He started getting jealous about me being around a bunch of guys at the dz.. and that ain't gonna happen! If we were to get back together (NOT GONNA HAPPEN) I couldn't skydive anymore b/c he is so controlling! I mean, this guy cannot get it through his head that I do not want anything to do with him and I have told him this straight up! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #16 September 22, 2004 Sounds like a psycho...or a possible soon-to-be psycho. Sure you don't want a restraining order?--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #17 September 22, 2004 QuoteQuote I've done this too.. guys? why doesn't this work all the time?? My first guess, insecurity.... Yeah... cause it can't always be alcohol right??... I mean who drinks in the middle of the day and won't leave you along on IM's? ... well, okay some might but not alot. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shellybellyfly 0 #18 September 22, 2004 A restraining order won't stop him from calling.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #19 September 22, 2004 Quote A restraining order won't stop him from calling.... Depends, it can make it illegal for him to call... There are basically two kinds of restraining orders, a harrasement type of deal and a physical protection type of deal. The one everyone thinks about is the physical protection (certain distance away at all times, etc), but sounds like you might fall into the harassement side there. You can also put a block on your phone for his known phone numbers, that's really easy to do.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ne146t9 0 #20 September 22, 2004 QuoteA restraining order won't stop him from calling.... Well then change your number.... sucks but might get the point across Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shellybellyfly 0 #21 September 22, 2004 He knows my work number too.... so that won't help either. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ne146t9 0 #22 September 22, 2004 QuoteHe knows my work number too.... so that won't help either. Well, I would just tell him not to call or it he does, just hang up on him, and don't feel sorry for him, from what you say about him and how he treats you, you shouldn't feel sorry for him anyway... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #23 September 22, 2004 Sorry that you're going through this, Shellybellyfly. The fact that some people make it impossible to leave them...well, that's disgusting to me and a form of control in and of itself. It can become a full-blown obsession for them and/or the person can become a "stalker" or something to that degree. Be sure to recognize possible danger before it's too late. It's better to get a restraining order before anything too nasty has happened. If things are not that bad, yet, then perhaps you should tell him that despite the fact that you really feel badly for him, it would be best not to communicate until things are more neutral between the two of you. Then, do not accept his phone calls or e-mails at all. (Get a new phone number if you must.) Don't let him visit you at home or at work, and/or don't let him in, if he comes by, anyway. It's sooo hard to cut someone off whom you have once been close to or even loved, but you have to try to stop prolonging his and your pain. Someone has to be the strong one, and if he cannot do it, then it is up to you to be the strong and mature one in this situation. It is only going to make the both of you look pitiful in each other's eyes if you cannot end things cival-like and without crazy dramas. Believe me, we have all been there. It's best to be more mature, save your dignity and move on to a future of possibility and happiness. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shellybellyfly 0 #24 September 22, 2004 Thanks for all of your suggestions! But I've tried them all and it just won't work! I'm DOOMED!!!! Sorry, just venting... He just called before I posted and now I'm a little drunk..... Thought maybe you guys would have some creative ideas for me to try! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #25 September 22, 2004 have your "NEW" boyfriend answer the phone when he calls next time.I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
