What to do???

[MC208B 0]

Hi all.

I quit my job of 11 years last April and found myself unemployed over the summer.

I am currently working on Cessna Caravans here in Maui. I have been offered a permanent job here and at wages high enough to live on here, not just exist on.

I also received a potential job offer at Long Beach, CA working on aircraft engines at close to the same pay.

Then again, my home and kids (two teens I have primary custody of) are in the Portland OR area. The kids don't want to move anywhere (including the X's house that is in the Portland area).

What should I do?!?

[AggieDave 6]

From the practical side, I bet Long Beach is a hell of lot cheaper place to live...so its like having more money

--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline."

[DrunkMonkey 0]

Long Beach. No island fever, lower cost of living, no transoceanic flights to go anywhere further than 20 miles.

Plus, you can drive to boogies.

[wmw999 2,589]

I vote for Portland, if you can get a job there. At least until your kids are independent. Because having parents who are willing to put their differences aside for the good of the kids, even when they're divorced, can make a really big difference. And having both parents available (assuming their mother is available) is wonderful.

I was a noncustodial mother; our son chose to live with his dad when he turned 14 (we'd split when he was 11). It was really hard for me, but he needed his dad, and that was easier if he lived there. Having both parents close to each other and willing to talk to each other about his well-being was also good.

And our son has been known to agree. He's in college now, and doesn't care as much where we live (except that he wants to live with whoever is in the bigger city ). He knows that we both love him and have his interests at heart, even if he doesn't always agree with us.

It's a few years, but, well, they turned out to be important ones for him.

Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[DeNReN 0]

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What should I do?!?

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[GravityGirl 0]

Get a job in Portland working for Horizon Air or Alaska Air. Then you will have flight benefits an will be free to travel where ever you want.

I can't believe your teenagers don't want to move to Maui from Portland! We've been moving back and forth from Portland to Nor Cal for four years now. (My husband works for Horizon.)

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[skymama 37]

It's so hard on kids when they are in high school and are uprooted, especially if they are happy there. If you can, I think you should stay where your kids want to be. Their childhood will be over so quickly, do all you can to make it good times for them.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[MC208B 0]

Hi Andrea, I would very much like to stay there with them, however, I quit my job there last spring. The regional airlines there pay peanuts for new hires and put the mechanics on graveyards. I kept the kids (4 of them, 2 are grown and have their own families now) after my X decided she "got married to young" and split. She and I live in the same city but the kids don't care for her very much and can't stand her new husband. So, I will either have to stay here in Maui, try to get on with Pratt in Long Beach or collect unemployment in Vancouver and hope to win the lotto cause there are no jobs there that pay enough for me to keep the house, kids, food (not to mention jumping) going.

I don't want them to feel that I have abandoned them either.

I really got my ass in a sling by quitting the job at PDX but what's done is done.

Maybe I should write to dear Abby (or is she the dead one?)