billvon 3,114 #76 September 30, 2004 >Would your answer be the same if it was the spouse of your sibling? Yes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mardigrasbob 0 #77 September 30, 2004 Quote>Would your answer be the same if it was the spouse of your sibling? Yes. My sister-in-law & I joke about our children, but Mike would stake me to an anthill. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #78 September 30, 2004 QuoteWhen I was 20 or so my Dad kicked me in the ass (only time) so hard I couldn't breathe, then shouted "Boy that's a married woman, I've buried one son I am not going to bury another." I didn't understand. Many years later I was boinking some dude's ol' lady when the dude walks in my bedroom. I stared the green-eyed monster in the face. I suddenly understood my dad's statement. the world came crashing down, She lost her front teeth, swirting blood onto the ceiling. I came away uninjured, the house, plaster walls were not so lucky. So to answer your question; NO NEVER Jealousy is a M***erF***er! ------- Damn it was cold out there! The fire feels good. An airman at my base died reciently in a situation very similar to this... Also, I have a friend that started a new relationship (not w/me.) before breaking up with the previous SO (they were geographically separated...) she has actually been quoted declaring that "long distance relationships are easy." uh huh... sure they are... i'll be picking up my ten foot pole now.... but I digress... I would have to go w/a no... I had problems going out on dating more then one girl at a time (and I wasn't doing anything with either one of them...) I'm kinda sorta old fashioned... Scott ------------------------------------------------------------Livin' on the Edge... sleeping with my rigger's wife... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheAnvil 0 #79 September 30, 2004 Nope. Vinny the Anvil Post Traumatic Didn't Make The Lakers Syndrome is REAL JACKASS POWER!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RkyMtnHigh 0 #80 September 30, 2004 I've been on the other side of this one... Exhusband had three extramarital relationships which I was aware of in an eight year period. They didn't sneak or hide from me; didn't seem to care. I fought to keep us together for those 8 years, but then realized that this behavior would continue. At first, I blamed the other women, because I felt betrayed as they were my "friends" and it seemed like they saw the good life I had and wanted to destroy it. Over time, I realized that it takes "two to tango" and that it wasn't about sex..it was about power, control, and manipulation. I was fighting a losing battle. I still can't believe how shocked he was when I packed my things, moved out, and filed the "D-day" papers. Therefore, no I wouldn't trust a man who'd cheat on his wife, nor would I participate in causing her pain. I would encourage a married man to dig deep within himself to find out what he can do to openly communicate his frustrations and needs to his wife in an effort to salvage the marriage. Life isn't easy. Marriage isn't easy. Relationships just take a lot of work by both parties and you just can't jump ship when times get tough. Ride out the storms together as a team and make your relationship stronger. _________________________________________ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #81 September 30, 2004 QuoteQuoteQuoteI find it funny that the first thing you look for is a ring. A ring is easliy removed. I am married and I don't even have a wedding ring. So yeah, the lack of a ring doesn't tell you much. Well, if they really want to hide it, how will you know? Well yeah, if you sleep with someone who is married but convinced you they were not married or in a relationship... then I don't think it would be your fault. Even though I don't wear a ring, I would certainly tell someone that I'm married if they asked or if they were hitting on me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mardigrasbob 0 #82 September 30, 2004 QuoteTherefore, no I wouldn't trust a man who'd cheat on his wife I remember a quote from a business leader. Cannot remember who. I went something like this: 'I would never go onto business with a man who cheats on his wife. If he can go home and lie convincingly to someone he professes to love; how can I trust anything he says.' -------------- My toes are still numb. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diablopilot 2 #83 September 30, 2004 QuoteCheating disgusts me Exactly.---------------------------------------------- You're not as good as you think you are. Seriously. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #84 September 30, 2004 A guy is driving along at a safe speed and a state trooper decides to do a random stop. When he hits the lights, the guy speeds off. They go for miles at a high rate of speed and finally, the guy pulls over. "Sir, why did you take off when I turned on my lights?" "Three days ago, my wife ran away with a cop. I was worried that you were bringing her back." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
speedy 0 #85 September 30, 2004 Sorry, I answered yes thinking that the person who was married would be my wife. ooh hummm Dave Fallschirmsport Marl Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
christoofar 0 #86 September 30, 2004 Ok. I'll throw this one out there.... This was last year. My cousin who is very dear to me (she been through a lot of drama) decides she wants a baby. She's in her mid 30s and not getting any younger. The first husband treated her like shit (beat her) and she had to divorce him. The second one didn't want any kids, but they were more or less happy together... until the baby thing started to come up in her brain. I didn't know how powerful that urge is (to be a mother/father) can actually drive you insane. Eventually her 2nd husband picked up that she wanted to have a kid really bad and completely withdrew from having sex at all. He wasn't cheating on her, but he wouldn't sleep with her either (fearful she would do something like poke holes in the condoms, etc). This was getting on her nerves really bad and she was getting extremely despressed. It was affecting me, too because I am a close friend and a family member and to see her upset like that was killing me. So lo and behold, she starts seeing a coworker at the office... within a month she moves out of her condo with her 2nd husband, in two more months she's pregnant... the divorce got final while she was in the 2nd trimester, and she remarried again by the end of the pregnancy with the father of her child. They jointly own a brand spanking new home, just in time for the delivery of the baby. She is very happy now and her new husband is very nice and charming. Was she wrong for doing what she did? Probably so, considering the order she did it in and didn't wait until the divorce was final... but she felt "stuck" and that she may go sterile before the ink is barely dry on the papers. I love my cousin a lot and I don't think any less of her for what she did. She's just trying to make it through this crazy world like the rest of us. ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aprilcat 0 #87 September 30, 2004 I read all the replies and the question isn't really clear on 'cheating' or 'married'. I'm glad Christoofar posted that story. There are different marriages and reasons people go out and do what they do (don't flame yet, give me a chance...) I know a couple who loved each other deeply. The wife took ill (she eventually died) but she asked her husband to find someone to take care of his physical needs when she could no longer do that for him (he didn't do it, but is that NOT love on both ends?) What about a couple that breaks up and the husband is such an asshat he leaves every state in the union everytime the wife catches up with him to serves divorce papers? How much money and time should she waste chasing this creep? (I know that it can be done in absentia, but still more money and time). How much before she says 'fine' and lets it be? If the couple have separated and are going to/have filed, I say its fair game if thats what you want to do. Just be careful with your heart. Now, if you're talking about straight up cheating my answer is NO. I like living. I've kinda gotten used to it and if I caught my s/o or husband in bed with someone else, I wouldn't be very polite to either of them. I think the ultimate proof of character is faithfulness to your partner. I know cause my husband's girlfriend told me ~~~April Camelot II, the Electric Boogaloo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tunaplanet 0 #88 September 30, 2004 The funny thing is tons of women sleep with married men but yet I seriously doubt any female has admitted they would do so on this thread. So you tell me whose lying. Forty-two Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peregrinerose 0 #89 September 30, 2004 Tuna, read my post way back. I did it, I'm not proud of it, but I won't lie about it either. Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skydiver30960 0 #90 September 30, 2004 I don't know why, but to ME, sleeping with someone who is in a "committed relationship" and somebody who is MARRIED are very different things. I think it's the "swearing before God" thing. Karma is a wheel. What goes around, comes around, and usually picks up speed on the way. Elvisio "don't mess with the Big Guy Upstairs" Rodriguez Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
christoofar 0 #91 September 30, 2004 I get the "how u durrin'" vibes from married women every now and then. I can't force myself to want to do anything but just say "hi" and move on. ____________________________________________________________ I'm RICK JAMES! Fo shizzle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aprilcat 0 #92 September 30, 2004 QuoteThe funny thing is tons of women sleep with married men but yet I seriously doubt any female has admitted they would do so on this thread. So you tell me whose lying. The question is WOULD you..not DID you ..and actually, I said if I was sure the couple were separated and sure, its fair game.~~April Camelot II, the Electric Boogaloo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChasingBlueSky 0 #93 September 30, 2004 Quote destroy it. Over time, I realized that it takes "two to tango" and that it wasn't about sex..it was about power, control, and manipulation. I was fighting a losing battle. Which are some of the reasons why cheaters never change. An excuse is an excuse, and those that make excuses for them are basically co-dependent. Glad you got out when you did Katee!_________________________________________ you can burn the land and boil the sea, but you can't take the sky from me.... I WILL fly again..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mardigrasbob 0 #94 September 30, 2004 Women who sleep with another woman's husband are sluts. Men who sleep with another man's wife are dickheads. Married women who sleep around are depraved. Married men who sleep around are sleezbags. All will lose in the end. The damage caused cannot be measured. The wrecked families, the lost trust and the scarred souls are are only the tip of the iceberg. The rage unleased is something that has to be seen. I bet if you could check how many murders were a result of adultery; it would be higher than greed. Take it from a dickhead, just say no! ---------- I think I have frostbite. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
livendive 8 #95 September 30, 2004 Having been cheated on in the past, I know how much it sucks. One of my two moral standards is essentially the golden rule, i.e. do unto others as I would want done to me. I don't want to be cheated on, so I will not cheat on a significant other in my life nor help someone else cheat on their significant other.. Blues, Dave"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!" (drink Mountain Dew) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
girlygirl 0 #96 September 30, 2004 I don't want what's not mine. I want my own... Seriously, sacred ground is sacred ground. I would never, ever want to be the cause of someone breaking a promise or a heart. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
champu 1 #97 October 1, 2004 hell no. shit, I feel bad when I cut someone off on the freeway... ...and I live in LA. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aprilcat 0 #98 October 1, 2004 QuoteWomen who sleep with another woman's husband are sluts. Men who sleep with another man's wife are dickheads. Married women who sleep around are depraved. Married men who sleep around are sleezbags. All will lose in the end. The damage caused cannot be measured. The wrecked families, the lost trust and the scarred souls are are only the tip of the iceberg. The rage unleased is something that has to be seen. I bet if you could check how many murders were a result of adultery; it would be higher than greed. Take it from a dickhead, just say no! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I'm not sure what you are insinuating here, but its clear what you think of yourself. Read both of my posts again. I do not condone cheating. I think in a marriage there are variables as well as absolutes--an absolute is just someone who wants to have cake and eat it too.~~April Camelot II, the Electric Boogaloo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jraf 0 #99 October 1, 2004 I do it all the time. I enjoy it greatly. Nothing wrong with it. More power to me.jraf Me Jungleman! Me have large Babalui. Muff #3275 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mardigrasbob 0 #100 October 1, 2004 So sorry for striking a raw nerve. I was not insinuating or targeting anyone in particualar. Only my opinion based on alot of experiance. The woman that I have known who specialized in married men always rationalized the activity this way: The wife obviosly is not giving her man what he needs therefore I am doing her a favor by keeping her husband satisfied. or married men are better than single men because they don't fall in love. When the wife finds out; the woman is out, cold. The men that I have known who screw some other mens' wives are usually busted by the wife telling the husband. She just wanted attention! The wives who have screwed around are usually forgiven. The cheating husbands usually end up losing everything. House, car, trust and love of their children,and all their income. They end up broken, regretful, and lonely. The victimized wife usually get a makeover, new clothes, a diet and exercise to show 'that cheating bastard' what he used to have. Take a look at the the thread I started about the other viewpoint. I am pleasently suprized how married people feel about this subject. Sorry again for insulting you, did not mean to. --------- A smart monkey does not monkey with another monkey's monkey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 3 4 Next Page 4 of 4 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
jraf 0 #99 October 1, 2004 I do it all the time. I enjoy it greatly. Nothing wrong with it. More power to me.jraf Me Jungleman! Me have large Babalui. Muff #3275 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mardigrasbob 0 #100 October 1, 2004 So sorry for striking a raw nerve. I was not insinuating or targeting anyone in particualar. Only my opinion based on alot of experiance. The woman that I have known who specialized in married men always rationalized the activity this way: The wife obviosly is not giving her man what he needs therefore I am doing her a favor by keeping her husband satisfied. or married men are better than single men because they don't fall in love. When the wife finds out; the woman is out, cold. The men that I have known who screw some other mens' wives are usually busted by the wife telling the husband. She just wanted attention! The wives who have screwed around are usually forgiven. The cheating husbands usually end up losing everything. House, car, trust and love of their children,and all their income. They end up broken, regretful, and lonely. The victimized wife usually get a makeover, new clothes, a diet and exercise to show 'that cheating bastard' what he used to have. Take a look at the the thread I started about the other viewpoint. I am pleasently suprized how married people feel about this subject. Sorry again for insulting you, did not mean to. --------- A smart monkey does not monkey with another monkey's monkey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
