Frenchy68 0 #26 October 6, 2004 Hummm. I assume you meant to answer the original poster. In any case, in my experience, every time I heard people were trying to "work it out", it was already too late. I don't regret a single moment of my married life though. And my ex-wife and I are as close to each other today as we have ever been. Just can't live together anymore... "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #27 October 6, 2004 QuoteWhy do people get married if they aren't 300% positive it is forever?? Because if you aren't for sure, all you are doing is playing a very, very, very, very expensive game of russian roulette Uh... I doubt too many people get married doubting it will last forever. Shit happens. Much like skydiving if you ask me. "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
weegegirl 2 #28 October 6, 2004 QuoteQuoteWhy do people get married if they aren't 300% positive it is forever?? Because if you aren't for sure, all you are doing is playing a very, very, very, very expensive game of russian roulette Uh... I doubt too many people get married doubting it will last forever. Shit happens. Much like skydiving if you ask me. Right. But the percentage of divorce these days in way too high. Especially divorce revolving around children. I just think it's a huge disappointment and I wish people would think through it a bit harder before impulsively saying "I do." This may not be the original posters issue, but to me marriage is final. My parents struggled for many years but stayed together for us kids. I find myself very greatful for their sacrifice. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #29 October 6, 2004 Quote My parents struggled for many years but stayed together for us kids. I find myself very greatful for their sacrifice. I do not have kids, therefore could not comment. However, I will give you that it is a totally different ballpark when kids are involved. In my particular case, we were fortunate enough to realize that things would NOT get any better, and were able to part in extremely good terms before resentment and bitterness had time to settle in... "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mhartboca 0 #30 October 6, 2004 QuoteBeen there done that...have the papers..... You have to step back and look at everything. We cannot read each others minds. And for that matter sometimes we cannot read our own...our heart will tell us one thing and our mind another. here's a line from something i recently wrote: first, you may never know if it's the right thing or not. we can never know for sure, can we? go with your heart. (i'm coming to realize that the little voice that squeaks out an answer that we barely hear at all is usually correct.) that little voice is usually right... but sometimes it's damned hard to hear, damned harder to believe, and that's not even taking into account that it's very likely telling us something we don't want to hear... Quote But you really have to do a lot of soul searching to be sure.... now there's an understatement.... make that "an incredible, seemingly impossible amount of heart wrenching, brain bending, gut destroying soul searching...." michaelMichael Hart Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bobsled92 0 #31 October 6, 2004 QuoteWhen a marriage is over? Is it.... when the kids ask, "Why is Daddy always cross with you?" or when you have nothing left in common? or when you can't remember the last time you had sex (never mind enjoyed it)? or his ideal is you working together and you would rather die than do that? or when you catch yourself thinking that you wish you could find him having an affair so that you had an excuse to leave? or you become totally indifferent? or when you find yourselves in the same argument groove and feel that youv'e had this conversation countless times before and it's a waste of air? or you would rather just be alone? or you have different life ideals and dreams? or when what you does irritates him, and what he does irritates you? So...my question: how do you know when it's over? It's over when you post 11 questions that are attempts to excuse guilt, that should be proposed to a marriage counselor (this of course depends on IF you ever wanted the Family that you have now). A Counselor will be honest if the marriage is in fact "Dead"._______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
