airborne31582 0 #1 November 1, 2004 I've never been much of a poster, but I needed some vibes. Have any of you ever had a relationship with a whuffo, where you gave up a lot of what was important to you? I did. My ex hated the fact that I skydived, so for her I stopped, as well as giving up a few other things. 10 months later I am single and I haven't jumped in months. Chris I thought of the odds of me succeeding, versus the odds I was doing something incredibly stupid, and I went ahead anyway. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #2 November 1, 2004 The moral of the story is, if you have to drastically change your life and its not a serious life threatening item (such as heavy smoking, being an alcoholic, etc) then that is not the right relationship for you. Sure you can make it work, but why be miserable the rest of your life? I told Morgan when we first started getting serious that she could never ever ask me to stop skydiving. She said "of course, that's apart of you..." Then again, I took her on a skydive a couple weeks after that and she's never looked back and is jumping her ass off now.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #3 November 1, 2004 YIKES!!! Sorry bro...well hey, least you're single again and can start jumping! Anyways, hey, if you know what you want in life, don't ever give it up for another person. They should add fulfillment to your life, not be the source of it. (not saying she was) Welcome back, start jumping again, maybe you'll meet a skychick! Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dougiefresh 0 #4 November 1, 2004 Chalk it up as a learning experience. Never let anyone keep you from what you love again.Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so. --Douglas Adams Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jethers203 0 #5 November 1, 2004 HAHAHA!!!! Chris, You are an idiot. You actually got whipped by a girl and she made you quit skydiving. That is pathetic!!! Anyway, I am just kidding. I'll see you at Thanksgiving time. Clint D-24352 PS. Do that again and I will never jump with you!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antifnsocial 0 #6 November 1, 2004 QuoteHAHAHA!!!! Chris, You are an idiot. You actually got whipped by a girl and she made you quit skydiving. That is pathetic!!! Anyway, I am just kidding. I'll see you at Thanksgiving time. Clint D-24352 PS. Do that again and I will never jump with you!!! Clint, You're mean! Leave Chris alone! Please feel free to reply to my posts and pm's, but only if you're smart enough to understand what they really mean. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
girlygirl 0 #7 November 1, 2004 You didn't do anything drastic like sell your rig did you? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
akarunway 1 #8 November 1, 2004 (such as heavy smoking, being an alcoholic, ======================================I take that as a personal insultI hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it, when I sorrow most; 'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #9 November 1, 2004 bad boy!!! Don't you know any better than to date a whuffo chick? Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peckerhead 0 #10 November 1, 2004 Grow some balls. Or rent some and see how you like them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chivo 0 #11 November 1, 2004 In every relationship, you'll find that sometimes you have to concede and let go of some things that are important to you. And at that point you must also figure out what is more important: your relationship, or your wants. Sadly, its usually one or the other. Whatever you choose, remember why you chose it. Don't regret it. Whatever decision you took, it was for a reason. Now things have changed, and maybe now you would make a different choice. Like I said, just remember why you chose that. And have no regrets, as you chose what was more important for you at the time. ~Chivo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tailgate 0 #12 November 1, 2004 I agree. Very well said _________________________________________________ Let me live in my house by the side of the road and be a friend to man- Sam Walter Foss Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BillyVance 35 #13 November 1, 2004 QuoteIn every relationship, you'll find that sometimes you have to concede and let go of some things that are important to you. And at that point you must also figure out what is more important: your relationship, or your wants. Sadly, its usually one or the other. Whatever you choose, remember why you chose it. Don't regret it. Whatever decision you took, it was for a reason. Now things have changed, and maybe now you would make a different choice. Like I said, just remember why you chose that. And have no regrets, as you chose what was more important for you at the time. ~Chivo A successful relationship means putting your spouse first on the totem pole of priorities. If you can still jump, great! But just know exactly what you want in a relationship and make sure your spouse knows it. Before I started dating my wife, skydiving was #1 priority. I was going jumping every weekend I could. I lived in an apartment by myself. I averaged over 200 jumps a year. When I started getting serious with her, I slowed down to about 150 jumps a year as I spent more time with her. When we bought the house together and then got married, I dropped right down to about 50-60 jumps at year. My priorities are: #1 - making sure my wife's needs are met. #2 - making sure the house-hold bills and chores are taken care of. #3 - skydiving when I have a chance to, usually one day or weekend a month. I'm happy... edited to add - and so is she! Blue Skies Billy"Mediocre people don't like high achievers, and high achievers don't like mediocre people." - SIX TIME National Champion coach Nick Saban Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airborne31582 0 #14 November 1, 2004 QuoteGrow some balls. Or rent some and see how you like them. Two words for ya buddy, blow me. Chris I thought of the odds of me succeeding, versus the odds I was doing something incredibly stupid, and I went ahead anyway. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
airborne31582 0 #15 November 1, 2004 QuoteYou didn't do anything drastic like sell your rig did you? God no, it came up from time to time, with the "You aren't usin it why don't you sell it", the worst thing is I have to wash my jumpsuit (or maybe not) and get my reserve repacked. Chris I thought of the odds of me succeeding, versus the odds I was doing something incredibly stupid, and I went ahead anyway. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumperconway 0 #16 November 1, 2004 When I met my girl she had almost 1000 more jumps than I did! Now she's a few hundred more and jumps more now than she has in years. She started 30 years ago to my 6. It's much better to either date a jumper or someone that accepts that skydiving is a part of who you are. Welcome back to your world. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumperconway 0 #17 November 1, 2004 Before I started skydiving I played golf. I was a "golfer". It was just something to do on weekends. When I started skydiving, it was not a game it became a way of life. It isn't just something that you do, it becomes part of who you are as a person. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paige 0 #18 November 1, 2004 If you are not happy with yourself or things you do (or don't do), you will never make someone else happy. Fill youself and let them add to it. Never give up what you love; compromise and a understanding s/o helps a lot in that department. I hope you find what you are looking for.Tunnel Pink Mafia Delegate www.TunnelPinkMafia.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gjhdiver 0 #19 November 1, 2004 QuoteI've never been much of a poster, but I needed some vibes. Have any of you ever had a relationship with a whuffo, where you gave up a lot of what was important to you? I did. My ex hated the fact that I skydived, so for her I stopped, as well as giving up a few other things. 10 months later I am single and I haven't jumped in months. And let that be a lesson to you. Never compromise. Ever. For anyone. For any reason. To do so denies who you are. Sure, you'll have less friends and get involved in way less crappy relationships, but the ones that you do have will be virtually unbreakable. My friends like me despite my faults, not because of them, and that's a better way have it IMHO. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,560 #20 November 1, 2004 QuoteNever compromise. Ever. For anyone. For any reason Think carefully, though, about what things are part of who you are, and what things are just something you do. I quit skydiving for 12-15 years (very irregular for awhile there first). It was the right decision at the time, because the relationship was more important to me, and skydiving wasn't going away (I did start again, after all). Someone who loves you will love you the way you are. If you love them back, then you will want them to be happy, and that will include doing things that increases that chance. It might be taking dancing lessons when in a past life you said you'd never dance; it might be a change of heart and deciding that maybe you don't want children after all. It's all a matter of deciding what's you, and what's stuff. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gjhdiver 0 #21 November 1, 2004 QuoteQuoteNever compromise. Ever. For anyone. For any reason Think carefully, though, about what things are part of who you are, and what things are just something you do. . I should have made myself a little clearer there I suppose. I actually mean what you say there in the sentence quoted. I faked my way through a lot of unsuccessful relationships trying to compromise what I am. It never worked. I've had much better success by just letting people know who I am and letting them make the decision to get involved with me on those terms. It's works the other way around too. I much prefer people to be themselves so I don't get any unpleasant surprises later after I've invested in them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #22 November 1, 2004 QuoteMy friends like me despite my faults, not because of them, and that's a better way have it IMHO. You must not have many friendsMay your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bodypilot1 0 #23 November 1, 2004 QuoteMy friends like me despite my faults, not because of them. Ummm. wrong. I like ya cuz your an *%$#@! But thats just me Bro. Edwww.WestCoastWingsuits.com www.PrecisionSkydiving.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gjhdiver 0 #24 November 1, 2004 QuoteQuoteMy friends like me despite my faults, not because of them, and that's a better way have it IMHO. You must not have many friends I know. And the ones I do have aren't quite all there, as you well know. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
flyangel2 2 #25 November 1, 2004 QuoteAnd the ones I do have aren't quite all there, as you well know. Sure am glad I'm not one of your friendsMay your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
