bigway 4 #1 December 5, 2004 I just got some news from the other side of the world. So i am adopted and 8 years ago i flew from new zealand to australia to meet my birthmother, now i stayed and lived with her for 7 months. She adopted me because she was seperated from her husband and had a one nighter, her husband then said he would take her back if she got rid of me, they also had three daughters. Now when i went and lived with her for 7 months at the age of 18 i met all my half sisters and their hubbys etc, now here husband made my life hell, he hated me and i ended up hating him, i shifted out and got my own place and he hated that as well, i ended up going home to nz. I have just gotten an email from my mum(the lady who raised me) and told that ny birthmothers husband died suddenley 4 weeks ago by heart attack. and now one of my sisters is losing her baby she was told she would never be able to have. Now i hate this man, i really hate him, but now he is dead, i guess i need to ring up mu b/mum that i have not spoken to in years, should i call? she knows i hate him, and she knows he hated me? what should i say? .Karnage Krew Gear Store . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #2 December 5, 2004 Yes, call her. What have you got to lose? Besides, with her husband just dying, a call from her estranged son might be just what she needs most.She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man, because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
christelsabine 1 #3 December 5, 2004 Do what you want to do. What your own feelings tell you. If you need, call her. If you dislike, don't call and go your own way. She always knew that there was hate between you and "him". Did she ever help you? The weaker one? The child? I do not believe that something will be changed from now on only b/c this man is dead. Good luck on all what you do. You are responsible for yourself. Look forward. dudeist skydiver # 3105 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bigway 4 #4 December 5, 2004 ok so, she helped me sure, i have also in a sad way wited for him to be out the picture so i can get to know my mother more. She called my mother that raised me because she wants to talk to me. Ok, another catch to the story, first i am not money hungry. She won a 1st division lotto in australia a few years ago. I at the time was on my 'diploma in commercial skydiving course'. So a few months later i asked her if she would loan me 10,000nzd to buy all my equipment as i had a guaranteed job at a dz after the course. She said no because it is her money and she owes me nothing. i never thought she owed me anything but thought she might like to help out. We have not spoken since, and i feel i have not spoken to her because i feel embarrased i asked. Though she did not owe me anything i still though she could have helped out, i mean i showed her a pay back plan and everything, anyway, who cares about that. So she wants to speak to me but i dont know if i can be there for her, she will not tell me who my father was as he never knew she was pregnant, this has had a major effect on my life as all i want in my life is to meet my father, and i dont care if he does not want to meet me, i want to turn up on his doorstep, walk in his house tell him to poar us a drink and then tell him who i am. I want this more than anything, now she wants to speak to me what am i meant to say to her. .Karnage Krew Gear Store . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
