RoysPlayThing 0 #26 January 13, 2004 Thank you for all of your responses, and the responses in my PM. I might have went about talking about this subject in the wrong way by making a thread about it... but it was the only way I could get it out there and ask. I didn't at all expect anyone to put their bad experiences out in the open, I expected more along the lines of getting PM's about it, and I have. I have made actually a few more friends and we now can share eachothers stories and maybe even help eachother. I have read that book for several years because I kept reading it over, and over to try to get something new out of it, but it just wasn't working for me. I have since found another book that is wonderful for me and my current relationships. PM me if you would like the information on the book, and thank you all again for letting me know I am not alone out there. ... Hugs to all of you Lany G._______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #27 January 19, 2004 QuoteWhat does it say about people who think they were abused but really weren't? No, I'm not talking about myself. Okay,... I'm not sure what you are saying... But then if you are not talking about you.... then who are you talking about??... do you know someone that claims to be abused, but then is not??.. I think they need a little helpC!! Edited to say: ... Yeah... It seemed to be a very sketchy question that when asked back about it.... you were not able you reply. I don't even understand this question... does anybody else know what he was asking???? .... strange indeed. sorry to say... but they may need even more help then the ones that have been really hurt. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TitaniumLegs 8 #28 January 19, 2004 QuoteOkay,... I'm not sure what you are saying... But then if you are not talking about you.... then who are you talking about??... Somebody I've known since the '70s. Quotedo you know someone that claims to be abused, but then is not?? That's the claim, but I have my doubts. I think some of it is sorta true, but the stories are skewed. Some of it I have a real hard time believing. The person in question is quite the drama queen. Quote I think they need a little helpC!! That's certainly true. Quote It seemed to be a very sketchy question that when asked back about it.... you were not able you reply. I have no idea what you're saying here. QuoteI don't even understand this question... does anybody else know what he was asking???? .... strange indeed. sorry to say... but they may need even more help then the ones that have been really hurt. Not sure what you're saying here, but it sounds like my question was vague. That's OK. We deal with it. Thanks (>o|-< If you don't believe me, ask me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #29 January 20, 2004 Ah! ... I see. _______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuvToFly 0 #30 January 21, 2004 Lany, Just wanted to tell you that I understand. Sometimes, trying to help others in this situation is the best thing you can do - either through education, understanding, or direct involvement. What I have chosen to do is to reach both the abused and the abusers through a Website I created for this purpose. If you go to... [/url]http://www.helpforhurt.org[/url] ...you will read a true tale that may touch your heart, and hopefully, you will not relate to. Feel free to pass this URL along to anyone else you think may benefit from this resource... Everyone has something about them they can offer to benefit others. Find yours, and you will find healing. TOM "The helicopter approaches closer than any other to fulfillment of mankind's ancient dreams of a magic carpet" - Igor Sikorsky Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoysPlayThing 0 #31 January 21, 2004 Thank you very much Tom, I will check out the site. Lany_______________________________________________ My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
unbowed 0 #32 December 20, 2004 I'm 23 and for years I basically lived in denial that my childhood was full of abuse. So the first step was to acknowledge, "hey my life was kind of fucked up." I was afraid to even do that. Why I don't know. Guilt? Maybe thinking I could've changed things. Shame? Maybe. Talking with my boyfriend made me realize that it was okay to talk about what happened. My sister and mother still live in denial of the physical abuse. At this point I'm trying to get the courage to face my father and tell him that what he did was wrong. It's not easy, but I can't wait to feel the relief. If you've been abused, talk about it with people who love and support you. It helps far more than a book can. Then build up the courage to confront the person who abused you. I guess I'm just reiterating what others here have said, but I wanted to put my thoughts out there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ChasingBlueSky 0 #33 December 20, 2004 Quote The retribution that offspring will eventually exact for a parent's conduct (such as being totally cut off from any contact with grandchildren, etc. [not mine - my sister] can have a sobering effect. When the toxic parent begins to understand why the kids have put a great deal of geographical distance from them, and don't want to talk to them, it can result in an amazing amount of self-examination). Hasn't worked for me - it's been four years since I cut them both out of my life and they haven't changed a bit. Now 4 of the 5 children in the family have done the same thing and still not a bit of change There is more to this topic but I don't feel like disclosing it here. Needless to say the effect on my life from it has been profound and not positive._________________________________________ you can burn the land and boil the sea, but you can't take the sky from me.... I WILL fly again..... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
