I offended my mother WITH AN ANNIVERSARY CARD!

[Evelyn 0]

So last year I forgot my parent's anniversary for the first time. I heard about it from my mom for weeks afterwards, because "I'm the one person who always remembers, it's so unlike me to forget" so made sure I didn't forget this year. I always send funny cards rather than sentimental ones, cuz I figure they know I love them, I call every week and visit every month and I figure everyone can always use a good laugh. The card I sent had an old couple sitting on a porch and the man was saying "I think the day we met was the happiest day of my life" and the lady says "me too" and you open it and the man says "you think the day we met was the happiest day of your life?" and the lady says "I think it was the happiest day of YOUR life". Anyway, this is exactly something my parents would say, so I thought is was hysterical. My mom was offended because of the picture of the old couple, and did I think they looked that old. I explained that I didn't think they looked old, but that that was something I could see them saying. She said I should have pasted their photos over the old people then she might have thought it was funny. Then she went on to tell me how they got such beautiful cards from my sister and brother and niece that it made them cry. Anyway I apologized and promised to send a "nice" card next year. But now I feel even worse than I did last year when I forgot their anniversary . So I'm wondering, do you think I was wrong to send that card thinking they'd find it funny (my parents usually have a good sense of humor, my dad and everyone thought it was funny - just not my mom) or is my mom just being overly sensitive?

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[AggieDave 6]

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is my mom just being overly sensitive?

Ding. You've got a winner.

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[flyangel2 2]

Sounds like you still let your mother do that guilt thing on you.

It only took a few times of me calling my mom on the guilt thing, and she has stopped. When she does slip back, I point it out to her.

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[CrazyIvan 0]

Don't feel bad...some mothers just LOVE DRAMA, that's all.

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[Evelyn 0]

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Sounds like you still let your mother do that guilt thing on you.

It only took a few times of me calling my mom on the guilt thing, and she has stopped. When she does slip back, I point it out to her.

Need advice. PM being sent.

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing ~ Helen Keller

[gordy 0]

You did nothing wrong! Its all good!

[Peej 0]

Sounds like your mom, like mine, is a travel agent for guilt trips. Whenever she used to start that i'd pipe up with "pack your bags, you're going on a guilt trip" and we'd usually laugh about it.

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[flyhi 24]

Had a roommate in college pick up a Mother's Day card for me once. I signed it and sent it without reading it. It had flowers and hearts on it, so I figured it was good to go. Found out later it said, "To someone who's been just like a mother to me." I'm probably out of the will for that one.

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[Peej 0]

Now that's funny!

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[Dougiefresh 0]

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"pack your bags, you're going on a guilt trip" and we'd usually laugh about it.

My line is "Ah, I love earning frequent flier miles!" It took me saying this about 5 times for my mom to figure it out...

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[Peej 0]

Ha ha ha ha ha, if you don't mind i'm going to use that

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[Dougiefresh 0]

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[freefalle 0]

sounds like your mom is getting cranky in her old age!

[chaoskitty 0]

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Ha ha ha ha ha, if you don't mind i'm going to use that

I always say.. "MOM.. I haven't even unpacked yet!" ...(from the last guilt trip) and she gets it.. hehe..

[ChrisL 2]

My mom is lucky if she gets a call on mothers day.

If she tried a guilt trip she wouldnt even get that much :-)

I know, I'm a prick. So sue me

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[BoostedXT 0]

You wouldnt be Italian by chance? Italian woman seem to be the best at this.

My mom does the same thing and I just over look it and never pay any attention to it. They are getting old and grumpy. My father tends to my grandparents hand and foot and yet my uncle never does anything for them. One day my father didnt have a chance to get to the house because of snow, he usually shovels them out, and my grandfather called and said..."When you cant even depend on your kids its time they put you in the ground."

Old age = grumpy. You did nothing wrong. I say you dont get them anything next year. Make them realize something with heart is a hell of a lot better than nothing.

Joe

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