kelel01 1 #1 January 19, 2005 First one: Do you play "the game" (calling no more than twice with no response, etc.)? If not, are you aware that you might come off as stalker-ish, insecure, and crazy? Second: Am I getting too smart (jaded, untrusting) for my own good? I tend to always think "He's just not that into you" if he doesn't call you back and says, "Oh, I was too busy". I just dismiss it and say, well, fuck, I guess that's over. To me, there's seldom such a thing as "too busy", but I was recently vehemently chastised for doing that (which REALLY pissed me off, btw). Third: When people say, "You have to be open to love", are they saying you have to be blind and stupid and put it all on the line? Because, sorry, I'm not willing to, not right off the bat, anyway. Thoughts? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #2 January 19, 2005 Kele you have some issues.. edit I don't mean that harsh.. just alot of "relationship" questions coming from you lately... "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #3 January 19, 2005 Believe me, I know. It's become more and more apparent to me over the last couple of days. But seriously-- are guys operating under the assumption that all women are morons who are just dying to get married, so we'll fall for anything? Please. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #4 January 19, 2005 QuoteThird: When people say, "You have to be open to love", are they saying you have to be blind and stupid and put it all on the line? Because, sorry, I'm not willing to, not right off the bat, anyway. That means you have to date the funny smelling, dorky bagboy from the grocery store cause he might actually be the one. You need to be pathetic and ask out any guy with a pulse cause lets face it, you aint getting any younger and you don't wanna be one of those old cat ladies. You need to only care about pleasing the man cause he is the god of the household. Did that help? ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brains 2 #5 January 19, 2005 QuoteFirst one: Do you play "the game" No. QuoteSecond: Am I getting too smart (jaded, untrusting) for my own good? No, you are just female and they tend to overthink everything. QuoteThird: When people say, "You have to be open to love", are they saying you have to be blind and stupid and put it all on the line? not blind or stupid, just willing to take the risk, for without it, there is no reward. Never look down on someone, unless they are going down on you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kinney29 0 #6 January 19, 2005 Three times - that's it. If I doen't get a responce I'm not going to waste my time, and chances are they arn't the type of person I want to be with anyway. No your not too smart, you've just been at it long enough to read the writing on the wall People's definition of love is different, slowy and steady wins the race, and you have a lot less chance of getting hurt. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhreeZone 20 #7 January 19, 2005 QuoteTo me, there's seldom such a thing as "too busy" I'm too busy to eat lunch at work and dinner sometimes... you expect me to have freetime to also call someone on their time schedule? Yesterday is history And tomorrow is a mystery Parachutemanuals.com Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chaoskitty 0 #8 January 19, 2005 I dont call *anyone* more than twice with no response. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #9 January 19, 2005 QuoteI dont call *anyone* more than twice with no response. Same here. If after 2 calls they dont' call back, i'm done. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #10 January 19, 2005 After work, weekends, whenever . . . last time I got the "too busy" excuse, they were dating someone new two weeks later, and they had plenty of time for her. (And if you're reading this, you know who you are, and I just thought I'd point out that I'm over it, but I learned from it as well). Unless you're Apu , the only employee at a 24-hour gas station (and it had better be damned busy in there), there's always a little time you can make for things you deem important. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peregrinerose 0 #11 January 19, 2005 #1 Games are stupid. Do what you want to do, be yourself. Either he likes you as you are or he doesn't, and that includes your phoning habits. #2 Don't think so much. Assume he means what he says. Either things work or they don't, in the end, who cares? Have fun, do your own thing, and if the guy is right and the relationship potential is there, you will have no doubts or concerns along these lines. #3 There is no such thing as 'open to love'. Either love is there or it's not. You can be adamantly against falling for anyone or having a relationship but it hits you anyway (what happened to me, totally fucked up my game plan), or you can want love but not find it. Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #12 January 19, 2005 Damn girl you and I have a lot in common right now. I don't call guys. If a guy's interested he'll call me. My phone doesn't ring very often.. -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
josheezammit 0 #13 January 19, 2005 i quote two movies that I get my ideology of dating from, may the knowledge of these two films infiltrate your psyche and have amazing effects! Van Wilder "Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you any where..." Harold and Kumar go to White Castle "The universe unfolds, usually, as it should." Kel don't sweat it, it will be fine, I mean van wilder got Tara Reid in the endedited cause i can't spell Ahh, what a wonderful world. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #14 January 19, 2005 hmm, first off, in answering your questions, personally I don't like to date a lot of men and hope I won't have to date a lot of them to find the right one. If he likes you and you like him, call him. I'm the type to think that the guy should initiate more than me, but if I really like him I may initiate things more. Please don't try to complicate things...if the guy is interested you will know, at least IMHO he should make it clear to you. If he's shy, but really likes you.....RUN AWAY!!!!! (sorry bout that, just a disclaimer from me cuz shy boys scare me) There should be an equal interest, but keep in mind a guy may not like to talk on the phone as much as you, and something I've noticed is I just like to talk to build my relationship/friendship with the guy, while he may "talk with a purpose"--meaning not talking just for the sake of sharing. and Kel, it's okay to analyze things, but don't be too hard on yourself. Loving someone DOES require you to trust them and yourself. have fun, hope that answered one of questions. Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #15 January 19, 2005 QuoteDamn girl you and I have a lot in common right now. I don't call guys. If a guy's interested he'll call me. My phone doesn't ring very often.. What's your phone number? "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #16 January 19, 2005 I should also probably add that these are three independent situations I'm talking about, so it's not that one person spawned all this incredible insecurity in me. It took a few. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #17 January 19, 2005 QuoteQuoteDamn girl you and I have a lot in common right now. I don't call guys. If a guy's interested he'll call me. My phone doesn't ring very often.. What's your phone number? 911 -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #18 January 19, 2005 QuoteQuoteQuoteDamn girl you and I have a lot in common right now. I don't call guys. If a guy's interested he'll call me. My phone doesn't ring very often.. What's your phone number? 911 *quote AC/DC: Shot Down in Flames!! I was shot down in flames!* "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vdschoor 0 #19 January 19, 2005 Quote My phone doesn't ring very often.. Really? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icon134 0 #20 January 19, 2005 Sometimes "too busy" means "too busy" other times it doesn't. But usually there are other signs that indicate a lack of interest above and beyond the "I've been busy." statement. I doubt you are over thinking things... Scott my 0.02 cents for what its worth... ----------------------------------------------------- I'd rather trust everyone and be disappointed once in a while then trust no one and be disappointed all the time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #21 January 19, 2005 QuoteDamn girl you and I have a lot in common right now. I don't call guys. If a guy's interested he'll call me. My phone doesn't ring very often.. Me needs to join that club too. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #22 January 19, 2005 Well, here's how the club meetings go. We all sit at home with the lights turned out, and wait for the phone to ring, which it shouldn't. Then we eat a lot of cookies and cry ourselves to sleep. Tuesdays at 7 good for y'all? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bobsled92 0 #23 January 19, 2005 No more game playing. I go to work(work a lot) and sometimes come home to a hot meal from my wife_______________________________ If I could be a Super Hero, I chose to be: "GRANT-A-CLAUS". and work 365 days a Year. http://www.hangout.no/speednews/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Girlfalldown 0 #24 January 19, 2005 QuoteWell, here's how the club meetings go. We all sit at home with the lights turned out, and wait for the phone to ring, which it shouldn't. Then we eat a lot of cookies and cry ourselves to sleep. Tuesdays at 7 good for y'all? What about the drinking? There must be some heavy drinking involved. -------------- (Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take my posts seriously.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #25 January 19, 2005 QuoteThen we eat a lot of cookies and cry ourselves to sleep. No cookies for me. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
