windcatcher 0 #1 February 9, 2005 Oouu, one of my favorite topics: people and relationships. Well, I wanted to post this question to get all of your guys' opinions. If you are single and friends with the opposite sex, yet attracted to them, are you intentional about the relationship? Meaning...are you looking for it to become more? The reason I ask is because I have a few guy friends I'm attracted to, yet hope they don't think I want more just because I want to become closer friends. What do you think? I love this kind of talk, so I figure I'd hear what opinions the majority of you hold. Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pop 0 #2 February 9, 2005 Stop teasing them7 ounce wonders, music and dogs that are not into beer Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #3 February 9, 2005 QuoteIf you are single and friends with the opposite sex, yet attracted to them, are you intentional about the relationship? Meaning...are you looking for it to become more? Not anymore. I'm spoken for.In the past, sometimes I did sometimes I didn't. I can think of one friend I have specifically that I had always secretly wanted it to be more, but I wasn't willing to possibly ruin a great friendship for an attempt that I was fairly sure wouldn't fully last.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #4 February 9, 2005 Nope - I'd take it as it is.... if it developed into a relationship, I'd be fine with that too, but not trying to "steer" it that way...Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kelel01 1 #5 February 9, 2005 Very. That's all I have to say. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BRYANGOESBOOM 0 #6 February 9, 2005 Well i would have sex with all my hot chick friends but you said relationship Not only will you look better, feel better, and fuck better; you'll have significantly increased your life expectancy. --Douva Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #7 February 9, 2005 hey, I'm not teasing anyone,I'm sure most of my guy friends just want to stay friends, even if they tell me I'm cute or whatever....right? edit to add: the reason I'm thinking about all this, is that I'm single and find it easier to become better friends w/ unattached guys; I'm not into trying to hang out w/ married guys. Therefore, if single people have friendships generally w/ other singles, is it because one of the parties is interested? Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Thanatos340 1 #8 February 9, 2005 Quotebut you said relationship You said it!! Way too many people equate Sex with Relationship. Some of the best Relationships do not involve sex and some of the best SEX does not involve a relationship. Friends with benefits = Best of both!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frenchy68 0 #9 February 9, 2005 QuoteI'm sure most of my guy friends just want to stay friends Hey, that's MY line: "...but we can still be friends..." "For once you have tasted Absinthe you will walk the earth with your eyes turned towards the gutter, for there you have been and there you will long to return." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deuce 1 #10 February 9, 2005 Don't leave it unspoken. Make it clear you have no intention to have a sexual relationship with the guy. Ever. You'll then just about immediately know if he was your "friend" in the first place. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BRYANGOESBOOM 0 #11 February 9, 2005 Friends with benefits = Best of both!! Can be but really doesnt go the distance one of the 2 will always fuck it up Not only will you look better, feel better, and fuck better; you'll have significantly increased your life expectancy. --Douva Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumper03 0 #12 February 9, 2005 QuoteQuoteI'm sure most of my guy friends just want to stay friends Hey, that's MY line: "...but we can still be friends..." why is it your sig line always seems to follow most of your posts perfectly?????? Scars remind us that the past is real Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #13 February 9, 2005 QuoteDon't leave it unspoken. Make it clear you have no intention to have a sexual relationship with the guy. Ever. but see that's the thing, I love getting closer to my friends, girl OR guy. I'm totally oblivious sometimes if a guy likes me...but if I think the guy is really cool and I enjoy hanging out w/ him, am I just leading him on? Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mnealtx 0 #14 February 9, 2005 QuoteQuoteDon't leave it unspoken. Make it clear you have no intention to have a sexual relationship with the guy. Ever. but see that's the thing, I love getting closer to my friends, girl OR guy. I'm totally oblivious sometimes if a guy likes me...but if I think the guy is really cool and I enjoy hanging out w/ him, am I just leading him on? I don't consider it that way...but I think you might be over-analyzing the situation.Mike I love you, Shannon and Jim. POPS 9708 , SCR 14706 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #15 February 9, 2005 QuoteThe reason I ask is because I have a few guy friends I'm attracted to, yet hope they don't think I want more just because I want to become closer friends. ...waiting for the English translation... This is a question that chicks ask each other and complete understand. Then they jump up and down while giggling. QuoteWhat do you think? I think I'm going to go lie down for a bit. Here is my best advice though. If you are uncertain if a guy likes you, have sex with me the guy. If he liked you before, he'll really like you now. If he didn't like you before, he'll have a lot of fond thoughts about you now. Either way, when you talk, he'll look at you and appear to listen. (I should start an advice column. ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappie 9 #16 February 9, 2005 QuoteDon't leave it unspoken. Make it clear you have no intention to have a sexual relationship with the guy. Ever. You'll then just about immediately know if he was your "friend" in the first place. That is just what I was going to say. Glad I read thru the thread before I posted. "Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #17 February 9, 2005 QuoteThis is a question that chicks ask each other and complete understand. Then they jump up and down while giggling. No, I'm just as confused!There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eeneR 3 #18 February 9, 2005 Quotebut if I think the guy is really cool and I enjoy hanging out w/ him, am I just leading him on? If you are not honest with them from point A...then yes. It could be assumed as such. You need to tell him that you are just friends and nothing else.She is not a "Dumb Blonde" - She is a "Light-Haired Detour Off The Information Superhighway." eeneR TF#72, FB#4130, Incauto Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #19 February 9, 2005 QuoteFriends with benefits = Best of both!! Can be but really doesnt go the distance one of the 2 will always fuck it up Thats not true at all. I had a wonderful friend with benefits a few years ago. Worked out great for both of us. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windcatcher 0 #20 February 9, 2005 haha Mike, you said. I overanalyze relationships waaaaaaaay too much. But that's only because I love people and don't want to hurt them. Now, having said all that, I would like to become really good friends first with a guy, if I ever date; if him and I are both intentional about becoming more than just friends, I'd definitely make sure he knew it. Mother to the cutest little thing in the world... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Vallerina 2 #21 February 9, 2005 Oh...and what I think...stop worrying, enjoy your friendships, be straightforward, and everything falls into place. I've had lots of guy friends I've been attracted to. Some, I've dated. Some, I didn't want to date. They pretty much all knew how I felt.There's a thin line between Saturday night and Sunday morning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #22 February 9, 2005 Quotebecause I love people and don't want to hurt them. Screw that. I love people, but enjoy being mean and making them cry. ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #23 February 9, 2005 QuoteI don't consider it that way...but I think you might be over-analyzing the situation. There is a new support group. W.O.M.B- Women Overanalyzing Mens Brains. The membership? All of them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Buried 0 #24 February 9, 2005 QuoteFriends with benefits = Best of both!! Can be but really doesnt go the distance one of the 2 will always fuck it up yeah it works until one gets into a relationship and cuts off the benefits part and the other becomes jealous. that isn't pretty Where is my fizzy-lifting drink? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshine 2 #25 February 9, 2005 Quoteyeah it works until one gets into a relationship and cuts off the benefits part and the other becomes jealous. that isn't pretty Hehe, recent experience you need to share with the class? Dr. Sunshine is open for counseling!! ___________________________________________ meow I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
