Roommate troubles... (partial rant!!)

[SarahC07 0]

After weeks of conflict, it appears that I am now the referee between my other 2 roommates. In the big picture, the conflict between them is obviously centered around lifestlye differences.

I received 2 calls today from 3rd parties (people who are not directly involved in the situation) asking 'what the hell is going on?'

And I wanted to YELL back at them... 'GO AWAY! I'm NOT involved... I'm the passive peacemaker!! '... but I did no such thing. I tend to never yell at people or really express any anger at all. I calmly and rationally told these 2 people that I would try and work out the issues (blah blah blah BLAH) between the 2 of them, so we could all enjoy a happier living environment.

I feel like I am being forced to get the two of them to calmly (no yelling/screaming of profanities) sit down and talk, discuss issues, and ultimately make some compromises. WHY can't they do it themselves??? grrr.... I want to scream and yell and jump up and down!!! Why? WHY? must I be the referee??

And on a more constructive note, any tips as to how to get the two of them to live in the same apartment in some sort of harmony would be greatly appreciated. I hope what I'm doing will help. But while I attempt to solve their problems I feel like... a mom cleaning up my child's vomit. UGH!

[flyangel2 2]

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I feel like... a mom cleaning up my child's vomit. UGH!

Tell them that. Remind them they are adults and to start acting like one. Sarah, don't get sucked into trying to get them to sit down and work it out. Trust me, you will get stuck having to pick a side, and that's not were you want to be. Tell them to get their act together and stop acting like they are in high school. Refuse to listen to one bitch to you about the other. That will bite you in the ass.

May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey

[pop 0]

Just kick their ass UFC style

7 ounce wonders, music and dogs that are not into beer

[windcatcher 0]

oh, poor Sarah

well, it's good to see you are trying to help them. I know what's like to have disagreements w/ roommates.
I'm the artsy/messy girl who can't go to sleep unless it's quiet; my roommates have all been clean and like to watch tv/listen to music/be on the computer, while I'm laying on my bed TRYING to fall asleep!!!!!

My advice, tell them communication is important. I always tell people having a roommate is like preparation for marriage. If you wanna still enjoy each other's company, you have to stop being so self-centered and put someone's needs before your own.

hope it works out good for you

Mother to the cutest little thing in the world...

[bob.dino 1]

Anytime one starts to bitch about the other, go "No. I'm not listening. If you have a problem, talk to them, not me."

[Feeblemind 1]

When they start to argue that is a good time to take yourself to Starbuck's for a cup of brew. Unless they like coffee also you won't be in the middle.

Phil

Fire Safety Tip: Don't fry bacon while naked

[bob.dino 1]

Nope. It's the right time to kick them out. Otherwise she won't feel welcome in her own home...

[flyangel2 2]

Sarah is a college student, I don't think she can afford an apartment alone right now.

May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds. - Edward Abbey

[bob.dino 1]

Out to Starbucks so they can sort it out without bothering her, I meant .

[SarahC07 0]

My advice, tell them communication is important. I always tell people having a roommate is like preparation for marriage.

hope it works out good for you

[AggieDave 6]

I can understand. Morgan and I have started looking at houses and such...we can't wait until we are without roommates. The smokey roommate isn't bad, your former roommate is an uptight drama-queen bitch. Its been a long time since I wanted to kick someone in the head.

You should have just moved in here, then you and I wouldn't be having room mate problems.

--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline."

[kansasskydiver 0]

Or come to Kansas. We've got a 5 bedroom house that my roommate and I own. We're both skydivers and easy to get along with.

Hope it all works out for you, just kick em in the head, that'll shut em up

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[wingnut 0]

i have your solution.... ave them both drop acid (lsd) and then lock themin a room together for the night... the one that comes out alive is the winner..... or if both of them i bet they woul dhave come to an agreement!!

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[Perky77 0]

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I tend to never yell at people or really express any anger at all.

I think I just blew orange juice out my nose.

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an uptight drama-queen bitch. Its been a long time since I wanted to kick someone in the head.

Gee Dave, how do you really feel?

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You should have just moved in here, then you and I wouldn't be having room mate problems.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight, that solves everything, friends that your around a lot as roomates, sure, yeah that works great. NOT!!!

"Sacrifice is a part of life. It is supposed to be. It's not something you regret . It's something to aspire to." Mitch Albom

[Fast 0]

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Anytime one starts to bitch about the other, go "No. I'm not listening. If you have a problem, talk to them, not me."

Probally the best thing to do. The problem lies in the fact that for some reason the psyche is drawn to the emotions and "drama" of other people and their problems. I think that it has a bit to do with offsetting thinking about your own life. It isn't about avoiding your own problems or anything its just about taking a break from your own impending issues. Its more fun to think about the problems of other people than your own. It can feel good if you actually do help someone solve a problem too. The problem, ironically, is that it ends up causing you more stress in the long run even if your subconscious thinks its a good thing to do.

When it all comes down to it in the end its best not to get involved. Life is much simpler, less stressful, and more fun if you don't try to fix everyone else and just concentrate on enjoying your own life.


But then again, what do I know, I am no psychologist.

~D
Where troubles melt like lemon drops Away above the chimney tops That's where you'll find me.
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[SarahC07 0]

Do you need a cigarette?

Edited to add: I do believe you witnessed the last time I yelled at someone, it's amazing how certain people can crawl under my skin

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[AggieDave 6]

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I tend to never yell at people or really express any anger at all.

I think I just blew orange juice out my nose.

Where did I say that?

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Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight, that solves everything, friends that your around a lot as roomates, sure, yeah that works great. NOT!!!

Wade, myself and Morgan are doing quite well. Its all about respect for other people, their space and their things.

--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline."

[SarahC07 0]

Don't worry about him He's just grouchy because he wants a cig... infact you should go smoke one for him right now...

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[AggieDave 6]

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He's just grouchy because he wants a cig... infact you should go smoke one for him right now...

Hahaha!

I think there was enough smoke at Poets for him to have felt like he smoked a pack last night.

--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline."

[Perky77 0]

Sarah said that.

And, Just so you know, I have not smoked since before Thanksgiving and don't even have a desire to smoke. However, the smell that engulfed my cloths from last night stunk up the room they were in. And now that smell is so nasty to me.

"Sacrifice is a part of life. It is supposed to be. It's not something you regret . It's something to aspire to." Mitch Albom

[lifewithoutanet 0]

Well, if I were you, I'd hand them each a pillow, douse them in hot-oil and let them settle it themselves.

-C.
Edit: PS Dibs on outside video.