GUYS: if your girl asked you to pump iron, would you?

[GTAVercetti 0]

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I just got a Total Gym, to get back into working out, because I've stopped doing construction work for a while.

I would expect, though, if she asked, she would also be willing. I think girls with tight abs are just the hottest...

How is that Total Gym anyway?

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[christoofar 0]

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You mean like "birthin' hips" Yeah, human nature wants to survive, which is why we think of certain things as maternal. I think at some level our instincts suggest that some anorexic twigs have a really bad chance of surviving

Back then, someone was probably writing on pieces of paper "what would you do if your impoverished girlfriend asked you to eat a lot and get fat, so you would appeal to her more? Wouldst thou do it?"

Exactly. I read a thing in Men's Health (guy's version of Cosmo) about "what to wear" when dating. The first thing it jumps to is about the watch and the shoes. I already have expensive shoes, I wear them to work. But... I don't date people at work, period. Did that once and it was a BAD mistake.

So, the rest of the time I'm in sneakers or construction boots (snow/ice). Now... these rags are all full of watch and cologne ads. Hmmm. Makes me wonder.

And a watch? I can afford to buy a Cartier or a Rolex if I want to... but why bother? I hate them. And in Center City walking around with one of those is SURE to get you harassed twice as much for spare change or cigarettes Pfft.

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[Avion 0]

Its great, especially for skydiving, because you can isolate the specific muscles used in flaring, sitflying, etc. Its smoother, but less intense than free weights. The range of motion they talk about is really impressive. You can slide from one excerize to another, really work or two or three at the same time.
It's actually a cheap copy called a Total Gym Pro, I got it at a used sports equipment place for a hundred buck

[NewGuy 0]

Yes, absolutely.

[GrumpySmurf 0]

Watching the g/f do push ups in a handstand pretty much made it clear what was expected - so between weights/running/yoga/pillates/aikido and kenjutsu - getting in 3 to 4 hours a day.

Gonna be a while before I am doin' any pushups in a handstand though.

[rehmwa 2]

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well? Let's say after getting married, or being in a relationship for awhile, she asked you to start working out/lifting weights because she wanted to see you with a little more muscle...would do it for her?

Of course. And it should be a 2-way street though. Anything to keep a long term relationship fresh is worth the effort. But that also goes for emotional and communication issues as well as physical attraction issues (and lifting weights and staying fit is a heck of a lot easier for a guy than modifiying his behavior in certain situations). You need all of that (emotion, physical, communication) to have a good healthy relationship and people pretending the physical attraction part isn't one of the big legs of that tripod are either fooling themselves, being insincere, or are great big saints.

Remember that quote from Liar Liar (Jim Carrey movie) - "Daddy, my teacher says looks aren't important" "Son, that's just something ugly people say" (It's over the top - surprise it's a JC movie, but physical attraction is important at some level in every relationship). Sorry, not the PC answer, but honest instead. The real issue is when the requests become 'unreasonable' and a little fitness is a very reasonable request in my mind. Personally, I'd draw the line somewhere between "regular exercise" as reasonable and requesting "cosmetic plastic surgery" as unreasonable.

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[Douva 0]

I know I'm in the minority, but I disagree with most of the answers I'm seeing here. As long as you're not being unreasonable (expecting your spouse to always look like he/she did on your wedding day or trying to sculpt your spouse into a cover model) or hypocritical (expecting your spouse to shapeup even though you're a fat slob), I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting your spouse to maintain a healthy body. It's a tough subject to broach tactfully, but it is a lot easier to bring someone's deteriorating physical fitness level to his or her attention early, before he or she gets too far down the slope of physical decay, than it is for that person to try to come back from a seventy-five pound weight gain at middle age. Everyone is so sensitive about not succumbing to the stereotypes and stigma related to body image, but if we really want to overcome the stigma, body weight has to become less of a taboo subject. We don't have a problem approaching loved ones about smoking or drinking problems, but weight is off limits, even though obesity is a national epidemic, and heart disease kills more people every year than cancer, motor vehicle accidents, liver disease, and suicide combined. I'm not suggesting you tell your wife she's fat or ask her to hit the gym simply because you want to make love to a more attractive woman, but there are real health concerns, and honestly I think married people have a responsibility to their spouses not to become repugnant. So, yes, it would be a very hard conversation to have, but I definitely think there are times when it could be necessary.

Edited to add: I'm talking about situations where a person's fitness level deteriorates after marriage. If someone marries person "A" and then expects him or her to transform into person "B" after the wedding, that's just BS.

I don't have an M.D. or a law degree. I have bachelor's in kicking ass and taking names.

[christoofar 0]

You know... if both people in a relationship are marginal-looking... you could run the risk of losing your partner if (s)he actually takes your advice completely and start to "look hot." I've been working out long enough to actually see some people transform from YAWN to WOW.

It wouldn't be long before that person notices all the candy out there for the taking.

Of course, both people have to be pretty shallow to begin with for something like that to happen... but it's poetic justice, no?

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[Shotgun 1]

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Edited to add: I'm talking about situations where a person's fitness level deteriorates after marriage. If someone marries person "A" and then expects him or her to transform into person "B" after the wedding, that's just BS.

Ok, I was about to disagree with you until I read this part.

[gravityizsexy 0]

I'd pump... for sure, but I don't think she'd have
to ask me too. I'd feel mad inadequete if she did.
Then I'd start doubting what the relationship is
based on. Then I'd get so good looking that all
the girlies will be like "Yo.. Tony" and I'd be all
"Yo.. girlies"... and she'd be like "Yo.. Tony" and
I'd be all like.. "WHAT!??!?!"...

I've done some unimaginable things for a girl...
mostly things that I've always wanted for myself
that I though were never going to happen. I was
in alpha-male state ready to jump in the deep end
(not marriage but a relationship), and she just
wasn't feeling who I really was and she couldn't
change that either. I mean, if she asked me to
pump some iron.. I probably would have, but it
wouldn't have made a difference. Just make me
more cocky

"'Someday is not a day in my week'"

[slug 1]

Nope

R.I.P.

[weegegirl 2]

working out together is hot.

but i would never ask a guy to work out so he could look better for me. i would, however, ask them to cut out some McDs to watch their health!!!!! McDs is groooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooose!