jumpinfarmer 0 #1 February 28, 2005 This morning I got some news that made me sick. My best friends wife called crying and said some mutual friends of ours had lost there year and a half old son durring the night. I was and still am in total shock, i've delt with alot of death over the years but never an infant. There was know warning he just didn't wake up this morning. All of us had been at a party last night and the kid was being watched by another friends daughter. When the parents picked him and his sister up nothing was wrong. I didn't go over there today I didn't want to intrude. This week when they do have some type of service or calling I don't know what to say or do. Have any of you been in this stiuation before? How did you handle it? Thanks Marc Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #2 February 28, 2005 My baby sister lost her baby girl when Kelly was only 3 months old. It's hard. There's is nothing that you can say to make the loss "better." Just let them know that you love them and that you will be there when they need some support. Also, you might want to consider taking them a meal or something one of the nights this week. The last thing on their mind is "whats for dinner" and a warm meal waiting for them might be deeply appreciated. Just be there. Karen Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #3 February 28, 2005 Stop by, hug. Wander around the house, do the dishes, pick up stuff, empty the trash for them, pick up food. It really helps. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jumpinfarmer 0 #4 February 28, 2005 The food idea came to mind, but I can't cook. Besides they have a large family and a lot of friends so I'm sure food won't be a problem. As for being there, I already had to be somewhat today. The friends that told me have a son just a month younger and they were emotionaly a mess. I spent a big part of the day there while they were working up nerv enough to go see the affected family. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JohnMitchell 16 #5 February 28, 2005 My wife and I have four kids, and I can't even imagine the sorrow those folks are going through. Don't worry about what to say to make them feel better, because you can't. Just be there for them, and when they want to talk, you'll be there to listen. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Muenkel 0 #6 February 28, 2005 Losing a child is probably the most painful thing a person can experience. My condolences to all who are affected. As for what to say: Just go! Words will come to you. You don't have to say much as your presence will say everything. My prayers are with you and your friends. Chris _________________________________________ Chris Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kbordson 8 #7 February 28, 2005 You don't have to prepare a 7 couse meal. If you pick up some KFC or even some veggies from the supermarket to just have around and snack. Hunger isn't going to be the big issue, the support is. Just knowing that they have friends thinking of them... helping to hold them in this time... that's what they need. Just go over. Don't worry about what to say or do. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
missg8tordivr 0 #8 February 28, 2005 Have not been in that situation....but my best friends dad passed recently. It was hard to talk to her, because it just made me sad. I spent some time to go down and visit her before the funeral and to just let her know that I am there for her. I think that it really helps just to be there for someone...don't have to talk about the situation, but to know that there are people there for you can be really comforting. *J*** F LORIDA! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
