Nightingale 0 #51 March 1, 2005 Well, it gets people to think and discuss before getting married. I think that's a good thing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peregrinerose 0 #52 March 1, 2005 I don't care what other people do, but my first husband and I did not sign a prenup. We did our best to be amiable and not financially gut the other one, we worked things out fairly. I also did not sign one with my present husband, nor would I. I could not marry someone that I did not trust completely... and that includes trusting should things not work out to play fair. Yes I'm naive when it comes to that, I suppose. That can either be very good or very bad. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #53 March 1, 2005 If things work out, a pre-nup is just a piece of paper in a drawer. If things don't work out, there are several ways that it can go. 1. Two nice people can amicably agree to fairly divide their assets and a lawyer is just the person who fills out the forms. 2. Two basically nice people can't agree on what "fair" is. We have a "confrontational" court system. Lawyer get paid by the hour. The more hours, the more money. 3. Two people hate each other and plan to destroy the other person financially for years afterwards. They are standing in a pool of gas and throwing matches at each other. As much as we may currently love and respect each other. I wouldn't want to attach my future financial well-being to the hope that it will stay that way forever. There are too many people who have been through this, and the suffering is too large, for it to be left to hopes. This is like condoms. I trust the other party, but decisions involving the rest of my life are made with cautious optimism. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
